HELP Ako uyab wala nako kasabot

[dbmike]

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ganiha lang pd.. ingon ako amigo.. sa iya tan.aw nako.. padung na jd daw ko mapul.an.. ehehe

[tarpolano]

minyo-a nya tuljaka kada adlaw wa lagi ang sapot ana.. ^_^

[cp103]

@ dbmike... bro, i just have a few questions...

1. how long have you been together?
2. I know I shouldn't be asking this but, have you done it with her na bah? if yes, many times na noh?
3. are you willing for your mother to get hurt by other people regardless of who they are?
4. have you talked to her about the way she behaves towards your mother?

if the reason nga dili nimo kaya bulagan ang girl bro is tungod dugay namo, then i would say that it's not enough of a reason for you to keep that relationship. What's the point of keeping a relationship that's not working and that your not happy with it anymore.

You said nga hadlok ka bulagan xa tungod kay maluoy ka niya.. ang pangutana, naluoy ka sa imo self? and more importantly, naluoy ka sa sa imo mama nga g.ingon ana sa girl?

You said taas ka ug pasenxa na tao, but don't you think enough is enough? especially nga gna.apil pa niya imo mama nga wala man sala sa iya? Think about it bro, ikaw man gani kay gnarespect man gani imo mama coz she is the most important woman in your life, ang girl na nuon ang dili kabalo mu.respetar sa imo mama...

Btw, sorry if i was asking about some personal question gnina, but it is a factor man gud when it comes to the relationship, esp when we talk about break.ups... and it just becomes more and more of a basis for your decision, esp if the relationship has a very good *** life, I think you know what i mean, being a guy and all.

Bottomline is bro, think first of your mother and yourself before you think about anything else bro, coz if you think deeply about it, you will realize that that girl is not worth your time and emotions...she is lower than dirt...

[dbmike]

di pa kaau mi dugay bro.. mag 6 months pa.. nya.. uu we've done it na.. a lot of times na man.. di ko musugot na ingana iya batasan towards sa ako inahan.. nya.. uu nag storya naman mi about sa iya attitude bro.. kadghan na siguro.. ambot wa jd ko kasabot niya.. daghan kau siyag mga taw daw nga cnnected nako na di siya gnahan.. naka hisgot pd btaw na siya na di daw siya ganahan sa ako mama.. wa daw rason.. unsaon nman ni...? buwag nalang jd? wala ba chance na mausab siya?

[emjay23]

bro, na feel nako imong gi bati karon coz ive been in that situation before. i would like to share my story with you para sad maka hatag og idea nimo. bro di man jud ko mo too anang ilang gisulti nga "love is blind" hangtod nga naka ila nako akong uyab. og didto na nag sugod akong sorrowful mystery(unsa rosaryo?)hehehe og didto nako na pamatud-an nga love is blind jud. maayo pa kaayo sa sugod then kadugay nag ka lami pud hangtod tungod sa kalami nahimong pait. nag sugod na og gawas ang tinuod niyang batasan and like you i used to let my gf scream at me when shes angry and di lang jud ko mo tingog and even iyang sala ako pa gihapon ang mangayo og sorry, in other words "itoy" pud kaayo ko.apilon pud akong ginikanan sa iyang kasapot unya hinapat pa jud kaayo. and then she always think that shes right, and everytime nga duna miy lalis mo lakaw nya di na mo tingog, ako pud tawn mo gukod pud kay lagi mahal man nato.but later on bro naka realize ko nga nakalimtan na nako akong kaugalingon nalimot ko pag mahal sad sa akong kaugalingon. thats whats happening to you now, nalimot naka sa imong self. then one day bro nag away nasad mi. she turned around and tried to avoid the argument. akong gi buhat bro wala nalang ko mo gukod gipasagdan nako siya nga mo lakaw. and she noticed nga wala nako mo gukod niya. she looked behind and saw me walking away og mao to ni lakaw ko og wla nako makig communicate niya for one month, ako jud gipa feel niya kung unsa jud ka sakit ang iyang gipang buhat nako. ako pud siyang gi sultian sa akong mga gipang bati. nya nangita siya nako siguro kay basin gi mingaw na siya kay wala na siyay awayon. then later on she said nga nag basol na siya kay love daw kuno ko niya kay ako ra daw ang lalaki nga ni antos niya. ingon ana bitaw bro murag gi test sad ka sa babaye and ato sad sila baslan og test pud.hehehe and then ask pud niya kung duna ba siyay problema nga basin diay og na apil ka lang. or duna naba kaha siyay lain(palayo lang). and try kuno bro og pangita og ways nga malipay siya or ma surprise siya kay basin diay napul-an nasad na siya kay wala nay kilig inyong relationship. mao sad nay usa ka factor bro nga mo lubad na ang relasyon kay wala nay kilig and try sad kuno og ask niya kung unsa jud iyang problem niya sa imong mom kay basin diay wala ta kahibaw basin gi sekreto siya og pasakit sa imong mom. kani akoa basi lang sa akong experience. hinaot nga nakatabang ko nimo bro. and GUDLUCK SA IMOHA

[confidentlooks]

haskang..hehhe..bitaw try to confront her nlang ..na sayop na iya gbuhat gspoiled cguro na nimo..or shes just insecure mao na sapoton cya

[camille_16]

bitaw... confidentlooks is right,
its a sign of being insecure..
basin insecure ang imong yabz thats what she acts like that..

try to confront her..
sultii siya nga wala ka ganahi sa iyang batasan, kay kung dli siya magChange, basin
kanang iyang batasan ang moTrigger ra pud sa inyong break-ups.. ^___^

[davio]

buwagi bro... wala jud babae mu ana sa ako mama... angayan na paligsan ug pison imong uyab bro... no offense bro..

[lecreigh]

confront. get to the root cause and start from there.
like for example, baka napul-an na xa sa inyong relationship?
or ana lang jud xa manulti?

[cp103]

di pa kaau mi dugay bro.. mag 6 months pa.. nya.. uu we've done it na.. a lot of times na man.. di ko musugot na ingana iya batasan towards sa ako inahan.. nya.. uu nag storya naman mi about sa iya attitude bro.. kadghan na siguro.. ambot wa jd ko kasabot niya.. daghan kau siyag mga taw daw nga cnnected nako na di siya gnahan.. naka hisgot pd btaw na siya na di daw siya ganahan sa ako mama.. wa daw rason.. unsaon nman ni...? buwag nalang jd? wala ba chance na mausab siya?

sorry, karun pa ko nka.post ug blik bro, been busy... anyway, based from your answers bro, things have been made clear bro, now whatever I say, don't get me wrong ha, and although I'm gonna say all this things right now, the decision is still up to you, now before I say anything else, let me say.... "don't let others decide for you, don't let others lead your life, if your a man, face them like one and stand by them like a man. "

So, like i was guessing, kadaghan na jud day ninyu gbuhat, which I would say is one factor why mag.lisod ka ug decide what your going to do w/ her....

(1)if bulagan nimo xa, I"m pretty sure this fact never fails to cross your mind nga ... "I might never be able to get a chance like this or meet a girl like this wherein I can do it w/ her always"... trust me bro, that's a hard fact for most of us guys nga "nkatilaw" na sa ila relationship.

(2) now if dili pud nimo xa bulagan, then magbalik2x ra ang problema nimo nga dili jud xa maganahan sa imo mama ug sa mga people nga connected nimo, take note, the people we associate with are who are, so if she can't accept them, then how in the hell did she realize to accept you, it would seem that she loves you for who she wants you to be, not because she loves you for who you are, and that kind of loves has no where to go, that kind of love is not helping you become a better person,instead, it's helping you become the worst possible person you could ever imagine, bottom line is, you going to get destroyed. If that happens, then I would say nga pets like dogs,cats, and etc are far better than what you will become(no offense bro ha, peace). ...

basically. these two statements more or less is the reason that's eating you up....

kabalo ka bro, if butang pa na ang 2 ka statement noh nya gi.timbang noh, kay bug.at jud na xa ug maau kompara sa isa nga gaan kaau, now asa ana nilang 2 ang mas bug.at, dili ko mag.saba, kay mas naau jud nga ikaw jud maka.realize ana bro, kay lisod man gud kung ako mu.ingon nio, coz it would be like I'm putting words in your mouth na, now that would be good coz you would always depend on others to decide for you, mao na mas maau jud nga aw jud mu.decide. Be a man bro...

Bro, the most important thing right now before you decide no, is to think about everything and weigh everything, but before you weigh everything, make sure that you are being honest to yourself and are accepting all the facts, coz if you don't, you will never be able to accurately weigh everything.

Hopefully, you would have realized and weighed everything down, now, all you need to do is make sure you put it into action. I know you can do it bro...

The next thing you need to do right after you've decided is to read my reply to the post of our fellow istoryan w/c is entitled " move on"... pangitaa ako g.rep didto nga pirti taasa, it should enlighten you, it should be in page 20 of that thread... well, good luck bro, God bless...