Originally Posted by
bowee
there are myriad factors why a person can fall out of marriage and look for someone who he/she thinks is better than his /her current partner...
often, they look for the missing part that most if not, their current partner is unable to give or lack hereof...
Blaming the husband for illiciting an affair often is the all reasons of why the marriage crumbled and why there are so many broken families out there.. But, for me. That is just the tip of the iceberg...
We fail to notice tell tale signs why the husband (or in some cases, the wife), had look for someone else... Remember, it takes two to tango... And in any line.. It is composed of two points... Husbands or wives are mere human beings only.. needs love, affection, communication,care and bodily warmth... If one of these emotions and feelings are missing or if their partners fail to give them these.. Then the end results of it would be for the other to seek solace to another person... In the pretext of social and physical need...
Lets break these things:
1.) love - the main core in marriage... But often mostly in marriage, the husband and the wife had failed to build back their ember because they are too busy and pre occupied already with their works, their careers and with their children... Sometimes, it would be good to rekindle still the love of your partner.. Even if naa namoy mga anak... take time to still go out with each other.. Places that you once went to (minus the kids, kamo lang duha)
2.) affection - we guys are warm in nature.. Ever heard about a husband who complained that his wife is not being affectionate to him anymore everytime he comes home from work?? He just sits at the sofa and his wife is just talking to their neighbors... No more warm and kumustahan thing... Affection involves being sensitive to the person's needs.. A simple 'kumusta man imong work dong..' okay ra ka? naka kaon naka? .. Or just to hug and kiss that person when he/she comes home...is simply an affection that is truly appreciative jud.
3.) communication - this is where most broken marriage lacks... Often the husband fails to communicate his needs to his wife and vice versa. Every time the husband comes to work.. Instead of talking to the wife his day... he finds the wife not in the house... Or if she's in the house, she is engross in other activities and doesnt want to be disturb of. Or she constantly yells and talks about monetary problems over and over that the husband is too tired to hear already.
4.) care - how many wives still massage their husband (when they're too tired from work), or surprises him everyday with her delicious cooking or gifts to give. when you love a person katong uyab pa mo.. What you had given her /him emotionally should not change bisag minyo namo.
5.) and lastly, bodily warmth. most marriages are consumated sexually. But as children comes in the family already, most wives doesnt care anymore about their bodies.. They just let it sag and wala na silay pakabana jud.
let me tell you this to the wives out there. If you make your body as sexy as the first time you said yes to that guy (your husband), i doubt husbands would look for other mistress anymore. More often than not, when you marry..it is not the end of the world on not to make yourself beautiful and sexy still. be sexy for your husband. Make him proud as he was proud of you when katong uyab pa mo.
guys often talks comparing their wives (kanang mag inom inom mi) and most topics center on the sexiness of their partners.. the guy who has the most sexy wife oftens get the envy of his barkadas. Hot and may asim pa, as they would say
so there you go.. That is my own personal contribution to your thread ts..
Cheers!!
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