If You Cheat On Your Spouse...Are You A Bad Parent?

[princess_21]

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If caught, then yes your are!

you don't have to be caught in order to be bad

[princess_21]

Do you mean : If you fall astray while you're married do you deserve to be a husband?

First : The responsibility you have with your kids is separate to that of your spouse.
Therefore to be branded as a bad parent has nothing to do with falling out of love to that from their respective spouses.

Second : Would you then become a "bad" spouse when you fall astray?
It comes down to what leads a spouse to fall astray.

Third: "BAD" can then be best applied once the outcome of your deeds will yield unacceptable to the norm.

"First : The responsibility you have with your kids is separate to that of your spouse." - are you saying this as a matter of individual responsibility or collective responsibilty?

"Therefore to be branded as a bad parent has nothing to do with falling out of love to that from their respective spouses." - how do you determine if it is "falling out of love" or how do you know it is love?


"Would you then become a "bad" spouse when you fall astray?" - you may be "bad" but not disqualified for forgiveness - forgiveness is for sinners, not for righteous

" It comes down to what leads a spouse to fall astray." - i agree

"BAD" can then be best applied once the outcome of your deeds will yield unacceptable to the norm.[/QUOTE]" - the term "bad" can be placed in different dimensions for definitions and not limited to this

[princess_21]

Let's put it this way, If I were a child and my parent is cheating, how would I react... I would be sad, angry, disappointed and emotionally disturbed. Some people say that it has nothing to do with me, I'm only a child but yes... you as a parent suppose to be the child's role model.

- amen to this

[princess_21]

Yes.

Because as a parent, it's your role to provide safety, security and stability to your home and your kid's life. It's also your duty to respect and love your mate. If you can't, then you should break up FIRST before engaging in a new relationship.

If you put it off, then that's adding insult to injury. Act responsibly 'coz your decisions doesn't just affect you but OTHERS as well.

- very well said! i really appreciate it

[princess_21]

no....some people just can't seem to be faithful spouses but are good parents and some are good spouses but aren't good parents.

really, this is not for us to judge these people as immoral. we don't really know as to what's going on inside the marriage that lead them to extra curricular activities.

"we don't really know as to what's going on inside the marriage that lead them to extra curricular activities" - this may be considered as a factor but not the cause. The cause here is the attitude of the decision maker... the offender.

[j.alob]

bad jud... clear kaayo

[igloo]

If You Cheat On Your Spouse...Are You A Bad Parent?

--- bad example ka sa imong anak.

[mom_in_cebu]

yes is the answer. once you marry, be settled na oie..dli nang lingi2x pa jud sa uban, trying to be perfect pa sa imong mga kids haler...very impossible

[KASAAC]

Yes, because it will results to separation you may be providing your child the financial and emotional support but its not enough still. Lahi ra jud ang bata nga nagdako nga naay mama ug papa compare sa bata nga naa tanan pero buwag ang mama ug papa.

[radnop]

a bad parent? maybe.... but a bad husband or wife, DEFINITELY!!!!