life of the loner

[tamse]

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ako lonely... mka lurky man.. kadugayan mura kag ma lurky jud btaw ai...

[Volcom23]

i don't think that being a introvert is settling. you make it sound that being introvert is lesser than being extrovert. is that how those great introvert that you speak of became successful? nagpa-extrovert pud diay sila?

Of course it is not settling because you are not settling introversion. What I mean here is that you also need to adapt to other people's personalities. I know this is a very complex issue to talk to and I'm not a psychologist or mental expert to give a reliable information about introversion and extroversion. I'd just read from various sources that you also need to be a little bit outgoing in order to relate with other people. Our world today is filled mostly with energetic and outgoing people and most of them happen to went out popular because they are experts in social situations.

I'm sorry if I just used the words extrovert and introvert too plainly. Anyway, here is an excerpt of a comment I've read from yahooanswers:

The introvert becomes more and more sad -- silent of course, but not happy. The extrovert is very excited; the introvert is never excited. He remains calm and quiet, but calmness and quietitude are not the goals of life. Ecstasy is the goal of life. Just to be calm and quiet can mean death, can mean suicide. You can dry up all the sources of life in you. You will become calm and quiet, all the fever gone, all the passion gone, all the lust gone -- but then you are also gone. You are just an empty room, a negativity, a sort of absence, not a presence. You are not fulfilled. You cannot dance -- you have nothing to dance about. You cannot sing. No song arises in your life because all songs dry up when love dries up.
The extrovert seems sometimes to be very happy . . . is more happy than the introvert, but never silent. More joyful -- it is a joy to be with an extrovert. You cannot live with an introvert long; that's why saints are so boring. It is good to pay respect to them, but you cannot live with them for twenty-four hours; they are really boring. And just to think about heaven where all the saints have gathered down the centuries.... One cannot believe how boring that place must now have become. It will be sheer boredom.
You can be with an extrovert, happily; you can relate with him. He is an excited being. He sings, he plays around... many games. He enjoys. Of course he is tense. He is never silent; that is his problem. Happiness is at a cost -- that he loses tranquillity, equilibrium, balance. His excitement becomes more and more feverish, and there is every possibility of it turning into a delirium. The extrovert can be mad at any time; the breakdown can come very easily to him. He is so excited and so tense. He has no centre -- just the revolving periphery.
A centre without a periphery is poor. A periphery without a centre is poor. When the periphery and the centre both exist together and you don't choose -- you simply move from one to another enjoying both, not putting them as opposites to each other but balancing them as complementaries -- your life becomes tremendously rich.
That's what I call life abundant. Then you really live in luxury, because you have all that the extrovert can have and all that the introvert can have; you have both the worlds together. Yes, in this sense, you can have the cake and eat it too. Then you are very affirmative. You don't have any negations, any condemnations.

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[Volcom23]

guys, try this one. Nindot kayo ni siya in knowing yourself.

Personality test based on Jung and Briggs Myers typology

[Muerte]

@Volcom23- unsa man imo gigamit pagsearch ani, bai? akong nahibaw-an nga daghan baya anang naa sa yahooanswers kay mga personal opinion sa uban tao. sulayi tong link akong gipost, bai. Definition of Introvert -- What is an Introvert? .
bai, kaning link kay naa pa gyud daghan link nga pwede nimo mabasa. layo ra kaayo sa imong naresearch. pwede mangayo sa link anang imo gipost nga taas kaayo? you're basically putting introverts down. introverts are not as hopeless/helpless as you think. you can't say how exactly popular introverts became successful.

sulayi pud ni. wikipedia na gyud ni. Extraversion and introversion - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

[Moongoddess28]

theyre no real human. )

[Saint_hard]

can you really beat loneliness?...yes, but first things first, you need to know what makes you lonely.. and if you found out what it is don't go into that thing or situation that makes you lonely

[jaguar05]

Mag alone pud ta kung mag muni muni..think of some things...parang assessment na rin... kung unsa pa ba'y dapat buhaton...asa na ta dapit na stages..kung okey pa ba akong gipang buhat.. medyo seryoso..something like that..but it's so sad that there are those who are living alone..they felt alone and lonely...so empty.

[Volcom23]

@Volcom23- unsa man imo gigamit pagsearch ani, bai? akong nahibaw-an nga daghan baya anang naa sa yahooanswers kay mga personal opinion sa uban tao. sulayi tong link akong gipost, bai. Definition of Introvert -- What is an Introvert? .
bai, kaning link kay naa pa gyud daghan link nga pwede nimo mabasa. layo ra kaayo sa imong naresearch. pwede mangayo sa link anang imo gipost nga taas kaayo? you're basically putting introverts down. introverts are not as hopeless/helpless as you think. you can't say how exactly popular introverts became successful.

sulayi pud ni. wikipedia na gyud ni. Extraversion and introversion - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I will say no more. I'm not putting introverts down. I'm just sharing what I know. Don't make it too seriously.

[Volcom23]

@Muerte: Introverts don't need help. Absolutely not because introversion is not a psychological disorder or something-- it is an innate trait. I'm not putting introverts down. I myself is introvert but I have a psychological problem (social anxiety). I'm sorry if I'd misunderstood you.

[Muerte]

@Volcom23 - just because i'm contradicting what you've been posting doesn't mean i'm taking it seriously. why would i bother? don't flatter yourself. believe me, there's no effort on my part at all. even you yourself contradict your own posts.

But don't settle for being introvert all the time. Have also the extroverted nature. The key is BALANCE. It will lead you to success in life and in your career.

Of course it is not settling because you are not settling introversion.[IMG]file:///C:/Users/BCasals/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtmlclip1/01/clip_image001.gif[/IMG] What I mean here is that you also need to adapt to other people's personalities. I know this is a very complex issue to talk to and I'm not a psychologist or mental expert to give a reliable information about introversion and extroversion. I'd just read from various sources that you also need to be a little bit outgoing in order to relate with other people. Our world today is filled mostly with energetic and outgoing people and most of them happen to went out popular because they are experts in social situations.

I'm sorry if I just used the words extrovert and introvert too plainly. Anyway, here is an excerpt of a comment I've read from yahooanswers:

The introvert becomes more and more sad -- silent of course, but not happy. The extrovert is very excited; the introvert is never excited. He remains calm and quiet, but calmness and quietitude are not the goals of life. Ecstasy is the goal of life. Just to be calm and quiet can mean death, can mean suicide. You can dry up all the sources of life in you. You will become calm and quiet, all the fever gone, all the passion gone, all the lust gone -- but then you are also gone. You are just an empty room, a negativity, a sort of absence, not a presence. You are not fulfilled. You cannot dance -- you have nothing to dance about. You cannot sing. No song arises in your life because all songs dry up when love dries up.
The extrovert seems sometimes to be very happy . . . is more happy than the introvert, but never silent. More joyful -- it is a joy to be with an extrovert. You cannot live with an introvert long; that's why saints are so boring. It is good to pay respect to them, but you cannot live with them for twenty-four hours; they are really boring. And just to think about heaven where all the saints have gathered down the centuries.... One cannot believe how boring that place must now have become. It will be sheer boredom.
You can be with an extrovert, happily; you can relate with him. He is an excited being. He sings, he plays around... many games. He enjoys. Of course he is tense. He is never silent; that is his problem. Happiness is at a cost -- that he loses tranquillity, equilibrium, balance. His excitement becomes more and more feverish, and there is every possibility of it turning into a delirium. The extrovert can be mad at any time; the breakdown can come very easily to him. He is so excited and so tense. He has no centre -- just the revolving periphery.
A centre without a periphery is poor. A periphery without a centre is poor. When the periphery and the centre both exist together and you don't choose -- you simply move from one to another enjoying both, not putting them as opposites to each other but balancing them as complementaries -- your life becomes tremendously rich.
That's what I call life abundant. Then you really live in luxury, because you have all that the extrovert can have and all that the introvert can have; you have both the worlds together. Yes, in this sense, you can have the cake and eat it too. Then you are very affirmative. You don't have any negations, any condemnations.