If You Cheat On Your Spouse...Are You A Bad Parent?

[prettybabyandi]

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btaw noh...made me think....pero murag dli man all d time..depends cguro on d situation..being a husband/wife is different from being a parent man sad..so as long as u still do ur responsibilities as a parent to ur child, then you're not that "bad" after all..hehehe

[leo_trams]

If you cheat on your spouse then you are a bad spouse.
Dili man na synonymous ang spouse ug parent.
Parent duties and responsibilities are different from spouse duties and responsiblities.

murag pareha ra ni sa,

If hinay ka mo lakaw..hinay pud ka modagan?

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[Venus914]

I think so. 'Coz if your kids know, they will assume it's okay. ANd it will change how they view their life and relationship. Ma-distort ilang views.

For the girls na kabaw ni-cheat ilang dad, muubos ilang self-esteem. Kay they identify with their mom. And they will think na, "This is love. This is normal. SO i will expect this to happen to me later on." FOr the boys, they will think, "okay ra diay mo-cheat coz dad did this to mom."

The girls will grow up suspicious and the guys will grow up not giving his relationship imporatnce. Either way, bisan walay effect nakita physically, you wound your kids in another, deeper way. Remember that all we do naay consequences.

Look at the family na gubot. Bisan pa naka-graduate tanan anak and they seem to be living a nice life, what they see from their parent's marriage will affect them to the extent na mahitabo sad na nila. The cycle never stops unless you put a stop to it.

If you see your parents not getting along often, chances are, ing-ana pud imong married life. Even if we do not like our paents, we get "some" things from them that will affect us. So, i think we need to take responsibility for everything we do.

[yvonne6]

depende if a man or woman cheated for valid reason, kung ang rason is falling out of love, unsaon man na nimo. magmalipayon kaha inyo pamilya kon wagtang na ang gugma. basta dili lang niya biyaan iya responsibility to the kids...ok ra na oi. kaysa paantuson nimo maayo imo partner

i think we need to define here what really cheating is. for me personally, cheating is, kanang you are still together with the person and your partner is making u believe nga ikaw ra....mao na ang cheating para nako. i understand nobody deserves to stay in an unhappy relationship. if this is the case, i suppose one has be free from that relationship first before engaging into another relationship, in that case, dili nana cheating. pero kung naa gani lie and deceipt, definitely its cheating. so kung di na gyud ma agwanta ang mesirable set up, get out from it before mo mangitag lain cause for me, there is no valid reason for cheating.

[nerakoo7]

It is really difficult to judge on this matter as our lives is not divided to just black and white. Often enough, there are shades of gray.

I guess all we can do is try not to cheat on our partners.

Do you guys know of a good family lawyer?
What about good private investigators for cheating partners?

[bytesnsuch]

I think YES, because you should set as an example to your kids, if mag-cheat ang imong papa, do you think naa pa niya imong respect?

[princess_21]

most of the time mao mn gd na ang mka lead to a broken family. so affected au ang child ana oi.

kng pinangga ghpn au nimo imng kids ky ur not a bad parent mn. but then imo na hurt imng mga anak pro indirectly lng.

exactly correct

[princess_21]

mao sad..

pro dpende ra jd na xa kng unsa imo definition sa "being a good parent"..

correct na pud..

[princess_21]

yes ui.. being a good father starts with being a good husband

sus korek na pud.. hehehehe

[princess_21]

My answer: NO.

It seems like most of you argue that if it sets a bad example for the kids. What if the wife and kids don't know that the husband's cheating.

Does that make him a good husband? NO.

Does that make him a good parent? That depends on how he treats his kid(s).

The point.. they're not inter-related at all.

It is inter-related, reason:

1. you cheat on your wife'

2. your wife does not know;

3. your children doesnt know;

4. you keep it to yourself

5. you cheat yourself;

6; you think it is a game;

7. game has secrets;

8. love is not a game;

9. family is not a game;

10. family has a sense of responsibilty;

11. responsibilty to your wife and KIDS;

12. responsibility for HONESTY;

13. you keep it as secret;

14. you are not honest;

15. you are not responsible;

16. you are not a good parent.

now, how can you say it is not inter-related?