Do you think I'm a bad Mother for my kids?

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

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thanks for your candour...

I give you credit for putting ur priorities straight.

There are pros and cons to your decision -- ive read that most istoryans have enumerated them, and i agree with both sides of keeping the kids, and letting them go.

I'm too young to have my own family, but i understand the hardship of having to let go of your children. As a daughter, i know the hardship of my mother, of having to raise me with limited financial support.


But mind you, us children, do not need a luxurious life - sure, in the times of puberty, we will demand for such, but we grow up eventually, and begin to realize that what mothers have done for us, no matter how small, are important to our development.

Is it possible for you to give them their basic needs and also keep them by ur side? or must you let them go for a "luxurious life"?

Coz eventually, they will realize that luxury is only a want. But a mother's guidance is what they need.

[istoryamember]

walay saktong balaod para ani TS. Just look into your heart and tan-awa unsa jud imo gusto. Ok ra na maminaw ka sa mga advices sa uban pero at the end of the day, ikaw ra jud maka decide. For me dili ko mo think that you are a bad or a good mother kay lain2x man ta ug huna huna. As long as you think you did the right thing, you will have peace of mind. Ang mga bata makasabot ra na sila inig ka dagko na nila.

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

very well said. salamat sa imong pamalandong bai.

walay saktong balaod para ani TS. Just look into your heart and tan-awa unsa jud imo gusto. Ok ra na maminaw ka sa mga advices sa uban pero at the end of the day, ikaw ra jud maka decide. For me dili ko mo think that you are a bad or a good mother kay lain2x man ta ug huna huna. As long as you think you did the right thing, you will have peace of mind. Ang mga bata makasabot ra na sila inig ka dagko na nila.

[Sand Man]

... As long as you think you did the right thing, you will have peace of mind. Ang mga bata makasabot ra na sila inig ka dagko na nila.

I have nothing against you but I just had to comment this portion of your post.

The guy who shot all those kids in Norway recently also thought he was doing the right thing, too. All I'm saying is that relying on your own perspective is good as long as you have taken the necessary step of looking first at all the pros and cons that comes with this type of decision.

We may not know the whole story about everything that transpired that led to the TS decision but I am assuming she has thought long and hard before giving up her kids. I am assuming she has a picture in her head of her kids growing up didto sa poder sa iyang ex-husband, and I am assuming she liked what she saw.

Purpz, if at any time in the future you feel that your kids are being mistreated, or not growing up as you pictured they would -- would you get your kids back and do you think you have the legal means to get them back?

As a side note, I think ultimately it's your kids who can decide if you were a good mother to them or not, once they've all grown up and have been thru the good and bad times in their lives without you.

Again, good luck to you.

[seanryzel]

why not get your kids and ask support from your ex?

[jack_bauer]

sa akong tan-aw dili man sayop imo gi buhat kay imo man gi huna2x ang kaugmaon sa imong anak.

[noel_llapa]

Maam, you should have gotten yourself a lawyer. You should have taken your kids with you and legally COMPEL your erring husband to support your children financially. You are within your rights to do that. Naa na sya sa Family Code. Especially if the guilty spouse happens to be your husband.

[garlic]

All I can say is that.. saup jud nganung didto sa pikas side nimo gpadako imong mga anak. I don't think mamatay sila sa hunger oi. grabeh na sab na. you have work man, you may not be able to give them the best material things pero you could have given them a mother's love. it's not too late.. go and get your children!

[Vmobile]

Okay raman imong gibuhat as long as wala man kaha sila didto gi abuse and gi alaga-an man kaha silag maayo didto...No worries... But sure ko...mingawon gyud ka nila, sa imong mga anak....I salute you as a mother...maski sakit sa imong buot na malayo sila sa imoha.... but para lang dili sila magkalisod nag give way nalang ka na adto sila didto puyo....
By the way, any chances your kids to live with you then sustintohan nalang sila sa ilang dad?

[beerlight]

actually sis, if feel nimu na ala kai ayo, wla jud kai ayo.
or bisan unsa pana imu gi.huna2 nmu why mao na imu gibuhat
basta one thing lang jd...

"you are what you think you are".

and para nako pud,
as long as you give enough attention to your child, let them feel your presence and
role as their mother, okey ra basta love them lang jud