First Cousin Relationship

[ohohoy]

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ang resulta anah kung mo mabdos kay ang bata na deffect.. one example special child (mongoloid)..

[king_edz06]

tsk tsk tsk sa kadaghang babaye brod kana pajud imong igagaw ang imo... kana naa sa bible nga imong gi ingon brod sa old testament naman na... think about sa imong future woi naa pay daghan diha brod lingi2x lang sa mga kilid nimo gud... way unay brod

[MoOnSkYaRcHeR07]

that we call forbidden love so you better stop it

[jomzkie23]

d jud ni xa angay bro ug sis..

[blueangel_88]

That "fear" you are experiencing right now is probably something all cousin couples go through in the beginning. Getting passed that fear is what determines whether your love is strong enough, or if it ever even existed. You are letting "what ifs" beat you right now. If you love him as much as you say you do I suggest you use that love to let out the last bit of strength you posses. Yes, the "family issue" that inevitably faces us cousin couples is very tough. But think about it for a second... 10, 20, or 30+ years down the road you will be thinking about the love of your life and the "should've, would've, could've" thoughts will start tormenting you... You will tell yourself a million times that you "should've" been stronger to persue your happiness. You will say you "could've" had real happiness but you let it go. You will think about what "could've" happened if you and your cousin stayed together... And why will you have these thoughts? Because you let other people's feelings/wants/opinions put down what you really desired. Where will those "other people" be when you start having those thoughts? They will either be far away or dead (sorry but I'm being realistic).... So is all that worth losing the person you love? I don't think so...

Here's my advice... take your time and think about what you are doing... If you want to "break up" with your cousin so you can think about everything in your own space, I suggest you do it with yourself as your priority. I'm not saying you should be selfish and hurt everyone around you but I do advise you to put your happiness first. How does being happy hurt the people that love you? If they love you all they want is for you to be happy, don't you think?

Short story to see if it helps you a bit... Like most cousin couples, my cousin and I had a hard time in the beginning because of the "what will everybody say?" factor... My mother and grand parents were cool with it from the get go. But her mom and dad were NOT... Time passed and her parents got used to seeing her in love and happy. They finally accepted that their daughter's happiness is more important than the social stigma that exists against the type of relationship she chose. We've been a couple for 2 years now and our love is still growing despite the circumstances... We are in a long distance relationship... (it's tough but we're hanging in there) and we are finally moving in together in a few months. Moral of the story: being with the person you love may be difficult but it's definitely worth it!

I wish you the best, ryoken. I hope everything works out for you.... Good luck!

i soo agree with u kenro. i can very well relate to the TS situation because this is what is happening to me right now.. worst, much more complicated than the TS. 10 yrs ago, i fell in love with my 2nd cousin. He's also living in Mla and me, working here in Cebu. I did consider before as to what other's would say, our family and the society reason why i end up marrying another man. I thought that would solve the problem.. to stay away from him but it became worst. After 5 yrs of marriage, karon murag na lang mi nagkuyog sa akong husband because of our son. As to sa akoang 2nd cousin pud, I never knew what happened to him then but some of our cousins told me that mura daw ug nabuang. He's always drunk to the point nga naglayas sa ilaha. Pila na katuig nangagi but i still couldn't forget him.. i didnt know nga cya pud diay, same ra ang na-feel even after naminyo na mi pareho. Just last year, September 21 to be exact, nagka communicate mi balik through FB. My gosh, i had goosebumps.. di ko kasabot sa akong gibati ato nga time, mura jud mubuto akong dughan nga mura kog kahilakon.. and that time, he opened up everything. I dont know man pud nganong ingun ato kapaspas sa mga nahitabo but i also confessed my love for him, wa jud naku kapugngi akong self nga isulti because i've been keeping that feelings for the past 10yrs of my life.

That it all started again. Nibalik cya work sa Africa and our communication became stronger. Nagkita napud mi balik after 10 yrs thru webcame. Kahilakon ko pagkita naku niya after 10yrs and cya pud, cguro we missed each other so much jud. After 3 months of work, niuli napud cya last week sa Mla. and we're planning to see each other in 2 weeks time (Feb.). Naplano naman namo what to do and that we'll be seeing to talk kung unsay mga steps nga buhaton pa jud namu because we're both decided to have an annullment.. mas complicated pa jud gani among situation kesa TS because u c, we're both married but we're taking one step at a time to make things right. I know di tanan makasabot but we're both ready to face the consequences, right now, we don't want to loose each other again. We have tried our best to stay away from each other but it seems nga mura na nuon mi gipaduol ug maayo. Mao agree jud ko nimu Kenro because daghan kaayo "should've, would've, could've" because if only i had the courage to face everything before, cguro we're both happy na, dili pareho karon nga cge kuyog sa among mga partner bisag deep inside, it's killing you because u know that you're not with the person whom you truly love.. hayzzzzz... faet! I know its gonna be tough jud but we're both ready and decided to fight for our love.. i was also 20yrs old when i fell in love with him. TOo young to make a decision, nahadlok because dependent pa sa mga parents but now i know what i want. It is to be with him for life and that he is the one who can make me happy.

Moral of the story: being with the person you love may be difficult but it's definitely worth it! and i am really looking forward to spend a lifetime with him.

[Maikeru]

To TS:
Mao ra gud ni ako masulti, prolly it'll be hard for your family to accept. You can understand them man pud di ba? There is this possibility that they would try to separate you both.. So if you choose to fight for both you, then be prepared and have strength.

[Sand Man]

i soo agree with u kenro. i can very well relate to the TS situation because this is what is happening to me right now.. worst, much more complicated than the TS. 10 yrs ago, i fell in love with my 2nd cousin. He's also living in Mla and me, working here in Cebu. I did consider before as to what other's would say, our family and the society reason why i end up marrying another man. I thought that would solve the problem.. to stay away from him but it became worst. After 5 yrs of marriage, karon murag na lang mi nagkuyog sa akong husband because of our son. As to sa akoang 2nd cousin pud, I never knew what happened to him then but some of our cousins told me that mura daw ug nabuang. He's always drunk to the point nga naglayas sa ilaha. Pila na katuig nangagi but i still couldn't forget him.. i didnt know nga cya pud diay, same ra ang na-feel even after naminyo na mi pareho. Just last year, September 21 to be exact, nagka communicate mi balik through FB. My gosh, i had goosebumps.. di ko kasabot sa akong gibati ato nga time, mura jud mubuto akong dughan nga mura kog kahilakon.. and that time, he opened up everything. I dont know man pud nganong ingun ato kapaspas sa mga nahitabo but i also confessed my love for him, wa jud naku kapugngi akong self nga isulti because i've been keeping that feelings for the past 10yrs of my life.

That it all started again. Nibalik cya work sa Africa and our communication became stronger. Nagkita napud mi balik after 10 yrs thru webcame. Kahilakon ko pagkita naku niya after 10yrs and cya pud, cguro we missed each other so much jud. After 3 months of work, niuli napud cya last week sa Mla. and we're planning to see each other in 2 weeks time (Feb.). Naplano naman namo what to do and that we'll be seeing to talk kung unsay mga steps nga buhaton pa jud namu because we're both decided to have an annullment.. mas complicated pa jud gani among situation kesa TS because u c, we're both married but we're taking one step at a time to make things right. I know di tanan makasabot but we're both ready to face the consequences, right now, we don't want to loose each other again. We have tried our best to stay away from each other but it seems nga mura na nuon mi gipaduol ug maayo. Mao agree jud ko nimu Kenro because daghan kaayo "should've, would've, could've" because if only i had the courage to face everything before, cguro we're both happy na, dili pareho karon nga cge kuyog sa among mga partner bisag deep inside, it's killing you because u know that you're not with the person whom you truly love.. hayzzzzz... faet! I know its gonna be tough jud but we're both ready and decided to fight for our love.. i was also 20yrs old when i fell in love with him. TOo young to make a decision, nahadlok because dependent pa sa mga parents but now i know what i want. It is to be with him for life and that he is the one who can make me happy.

Moral of the story: being with the person you love may be difficult but it's definitely worth it! and i am really looking forward to spend a lifetime with him.

Man, what a mess -- that is some serious stuff, Angel. 10 years is a very long time... I wish you guys luck in this new journey you are embarking.

As for you, Ryoken, I just hope you are sure you are not just infatuated kay we all know the resistance you guys will encounter... And statistics be damned, it will not just be your families who will be testing your convictions but the entire society as well (when they do eventually find out na cousins diay mo).

Good luck to you, as well.

[ongkal]

you have a son, maybe he has one too. how would your children feel? did think of that? how would you think your spouses would react?

i soo agree with u kenro. i can very well relate to the TS situation because this is what is happening to me right now.. worst, much more complicated than the TS. 10 yrs ago, i fell in love with my 2nd cousin. He's also living in Mla and me, working here in Cebu. I did consider before as to what other's would say, our family and the society reason why i end up marrying another man. I thought that would solve the problem.. to stay away from him but it became worst. After 5 yrs of marriage, karon murag na lang mi nagkuyog sa akong husband because of our son. As to sa akoang 2nd cousin pud, I never knew what happened to him then but some of our cousins told me that mura daw ug nabuang. He's always drunk to the point nga naglayas sa ilaha. Pila na katuig nangagi but i still couldn't forget him.. i didnt know nga cya pud diay, same ra ang na-feel even after naminyo na mi pareho. Just last year, September 21 to be exact, nagka communicate mi balik through FB. My gosh, i had goosebumps.. di ko kasabot sa akong gibati ato nga time, mura jud mubuto akong dughan nga mura kog kahilakon.. and that time, he opened up everything. I dont know man pud nganong ingun ato kapaspas sa mga nahitabo but i also confessed my love for him, wa jud naku kapugngi akong self nga isulti because i've been keeping that feelings for the past 10yrs of my life.

That it all started again. Nibalik cya work sa Africa and our communication became stronger. Nagkita napud mi balik after 10 yrs thru webcame. Kahilakon ko pagkita naku niya after 10yrs and cya pud, cguro we missed each other so much jud. After 3 months of work, niuli napud cya last week sa Mla. and we're planning to see each other in 2 weeks time (Feb.). Naplano naman namo what to do and that we'll be seeing to talk kung unsay mga steps nga buhaton pa jud namu because we're both decided to have an annullment.. mas complicated pa jud gani among situation kesa TS because u c, we're both married but we're taking one step at a time to make things right. I know di tanan makasabot but we're both ready to face the consequences, right now, we don't want to loose each other again. We have tried our best to stay away from each other but it seems nga mura na nuon mi gipaduol ug maayo. Mao agree jud ko nimu Kenro because daghan kaayo "should've, would've, could've" because if only i had the courage to face everything before, cguro we're both happy na, dili pareho karon nga cge kuyog sa among mga partner bisag deep inside, it's killing you because u know that you're not with the person whom you truly love.. hayzzzzz... faet! I know its gonna be tough jud but we're both ready and decided to fight for our love.. i was also 20yrs old when i fell in love with him. TOo young to make a decision, nahadlok because dependent pa sa mga parents but now i know what i want. It is to be with him for life and that he is the one who can make me happy.

Moral of the story: being with the person you love may be difficult but it's definitely worth it! and i am really looking forward to spend a lifetime with him.

[Maikeru]

i soo agree with u kenro. i can very well relate to the TS situation because this is what is happening to me right now.. worst, much more complicated than the TS. 10 yrs ago, i fell in love with my 2nd cousin. He's also living in Mla and me, working here in Cebu. I did consider before as to what other's would say, our family and the society reason why i end up marrying another man. I thought that would solve the problem.. to stay away from him but it became worst. After 5 yrs of marriage, karon murag na lang mi nagkuyog sa akong husband because of our son. As to sa akoang 2nd cousin pud, I never knew what happened to him then but some of our cousins told me that mura daw ug nabuang. He's always drunk to the point nga naglayas sa ilaha. Pila na katuig nangagi but i still couldn't forget him.. i didnt know nga cya pud diay, same ra ang na-feel even after naminyo na mi pareho. Just last year, September 21 to be exact, nagka communicate mi balik through FB. My gosh, i had goosebumps.. di ko kasabot sa akong gibati ato nga time, mura jud mubuto akong dughan nga mura kog kahilakon.. and that time, he opened up everything. I dont know man pud nganong ingun ato kapaspas sa mga nahitabo but i also confessed my love for him, wa jud naku kapugngi akong self nga isulti because i've been keeping that feelings for the past 10yrs of my life.

That it all started again. Nibalik cya work sa Africa and our communication became stronger. Nagkita napud mi balik after 10 yrs thru webcame. Kahilakon ko pagkita naku niya after 10yrs and cya pud, cguro we missed each other so much jud. After 3 months of work, niuli napud cya last week sa Mla. and we're planning to see each other in 2 weeks time (Feb.). Naplano naman namo what to do and that we'll be seeing to talk kung unsay mga steps nga buhaton pa jud namu because we're both decided to have an annullment.. mas complicated pa jud gani among situation kesa TS because u c, we're both married but we're taking one step at a time to make things right. I know di tanan makasabot but we're both ready to face the consequences, right now, we don't want to loose each other again. We have tried our best to stay away from each other but it seems nga mura na nuon mi gipaduol ug maayo. Mao agree jud ko nimu Kenro because daghan kaayo "should've, would've, could've" because if only i had the courage to face everything before, cguro we're both happy na, dili pareho karon nga cge kuyog sa among mga partner bisag deep inside, it's killing you because u know that you're not with the person whom you truly love.. hayzzzzz... faet! I know its gonna be tough jud but we're both ready and decided to fight for our love.. i was also 20yrs old when i fell in love with him. TOo young to make a decision, nahadlok because dependent pa sa mga parents but now i know what i want. It is to be with him for life and that he is the one who can make me happy.

Moral of the story: being with the person you love may be difficult but it's definitely worth it! and i am really looking forward to spend a lifetime with him.

Murag looy man ang mga anak ani both sides.

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ang result ani kay baliw then na-a pay chance maka-anak mo tikbalang og nawong hala mo