
Originally Posted by
diem
Some would argue it should be the Bride and her family who should take the cost of the wedding. After all it is the Her special day and it ancient custom in most cultures, it is part of a bride's dowry for celebration. And since most Grooms don't really care about wedding details(mas attentive and eager lang sila para sa Honeymoon), the Bride and the Family plan the blessed event to be perfect and expected to pay for it.
Then others would protest that it should be the Groom who should shoulder the expenses. He should show right off that he can provide for his beloved bride and make her dreams come true. It takes an able man, a worthy man who can afford his Bride's happiness. Most would look at such a wedding to be good, and see that the Bride has indeed caught herself a catch. And for the Groom, only awe and fascination for such a rare breed of man.
Then there may be those who say it should be both. What better way to begin a union of two lives by sharing the cost of the wedding? It will be a good testament, after all they're going to share everything from here on, better or worse, richer and poorer in sickness and in health...
Hmmm and then there's Me who say why spend at all for a wedding? Sure you're finally getting married after five years of going steady, some weekend getaways to Boracay or Bohol, some stolen moments at Jade Court, and now the Bride is anxious that her 3 month wide waist will be showing through her wedding gown. The Groom feels that he's just doing what is right. Gee, is that any reason to celebrate at all...?
Forgive me, that was too cynical.. it's the dark clouds in the sky, and the dark thoughts in my mind.
Honestly though, how much does a typical church wedding cost, complete with gowns and barongs for the entourage, all the flowers and giveaways, the reception and the buffet, the band, the place... roughly at least 100K? Gee, I think the money would have been better spent in laying ground for the couple's future.
What's to celebrate anyway since 5 or ten years from now, the wife gets frustrated, the hubby is bored... the wife finds a busy career while the husband makes busy-busy-busy on someone else... they'd realized that they married too fast, too young or for the wrong reasons... what's with all the flowers, and flowery vows, white lace, gold rings and ribbons all for...?
What a waste... better na lang save the 100K for 25 years and see if the couple makes it through heaven or hell, fatter or thinner, older and dumber, older and uglier--and if the wife still blushes like a bride and the husband beams like a proud groom in each other's company, after 25 years(that's 25 years = 9125 days = 219000 hours = 788400000 moments)...
NOW THAT IS SOMETHING TO SPEND FOR AND CELEBRATE ABOUT.