Do you believe in 7 Year Itch?

[krootzy01]

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no i dont even though naka experience ko ani.
it cant be blamed sa length sa relationship, kai the length of time you both are together is not the main basis for how the relationship is going. It has to be about the quality of your feelings.
usahay man gd, ma abtan jud ang taw og pu-ol, so ako advice, if u reach 7 years, or even 5, you may wanna start thinking of settling down.
kng muabot namu in ana ka duagy then wa gyapon mu plans for the future together, then something is wrong...

[earljahn]

Maski pa siguro 7 days pamo kung maka feel ka IITCH.... nara gyud na unsa ka klase na tao

[ianina]

sus. di na tinuod oi. nganu man 7 years jud dba? it all depends on the couple..

[WinFlo]

tuo mo nga if your relationship reaches 7 years something bad wud happen?

for those nga la kaabot ug 7 years.. just an insight

don't think so.

ako lagi la pa kaabot ug 7 yrs - 4 yrs pa lang gani, something bad happened naman lagi. an evil witch entered scene and tried (is still trying) to steal my husband away from me

[angelove]

no, i believe that the itch can happen any time...

[xtian_hero]

hmm.. if your prone to temptations.. then yes....

but no.. i don't believe that..

[Serene]

^An itch in 7 year itch doesnt just mean temptation.

I don't believe it either. It doesn't matter how long you've been together or how short (like us). Depende ra sa pagdala. Naay uban na married couple separates on their 25th year. Depende ra jud.

[Miss Mae]

i believe it only because it happened to me.

[whisperer]

yup.. when we were on our 7th year, grabeng bagyo niagi ois.. nako ug niya pud.. nagka wala mi ug communication, na wad-an ug gana kay wala na au kita-kita.. murag nasum-ulan. hulat ra ko niya na sya mu-make sa first move nya mao ra sad iya gbuhat,, wala mi nagkita ug pila ka bulan nya wla ra sad sya tawn... human ato, nagkastorya mi sa IM after pila ka bulan, nagka misunderstanding ra mi sa among gistoryahan kay abi niya break na mi. kay nahan man sya na mamawi na diay nako ug magtarong na.. nya sayop man ang iya pagkasabot sa last nako na IM, abi niya na nakigbuwag na ko nya na wala man.. i just told him na pagsigurado sa sa iya self na magtarong na dyud sya kay kapoy sigeg sugod sa sinugdanan na dugay na baya mi ug kapoy na sad na sigeg mao ra ang lalisan or something to that effect.

nya kay nagtuo sya na buwag na mi... with that lang.. nasakitan, nangita ug lain para di na makahinumdom nako ug sa dihang nakahibaw na lang ko na naa na syay lain thru friendster! pagkalingaw na lang dyud..

naglagot kog nafrustrate ug sa dhang hasta tong babaye nadamay.. unsaon na lang...

pero in the end, when i was about to totally let go na dyud kay gkapoy na kog hilak and all kay 7 yrs is no joke baya sad, when that day came na i needed to end everything "formally" and " clearly" sa place na kung asa mi nagsugod, nalahi man ang dagan sa istorya.. ug ako ug among relationship man ang nilabaw sa tanan ug iyaha na dyud tong desisyon. walay nagbuot para niya or unsa..

so mao nang, tinuod dyud nang 7 yr itch hahays...

[Serene]

Wala man siguro nakasabot sa 7 year itch oi.....

It pertains to MARRIAGE. And the "itch" doesn't always have to be "SEXUAL" in nature.

The "itch" here means "problems" that married couple goes through that would lead to separation and divorce (the term is coined in US).

According to relationship experts, the cheating part in every relationship occurs NOT because he or she has an"itch" to scratch. The Newton's Third Law of Motion states that: for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Most people tend to forget that in relationship, the "in love" phase doesn't last forever. When reality sets in, they are often too disillusioned and starting to doubt each other. They would often look for a way out instead of working hard to save the relationship.

It was said in a survey that Women cheat because she did not get the "support" that she needs. By support, i don't mean financial. This could happen in a family where a husband is always so busy and rarely have time for the wife. She longs for the early times in their marriage. She feels abandoned, ugly, unappreciated. So when a guy at work pays her enough attention, she will be tempted and may eventually give in. They may engage in a sexual relationship but the girl in reality is not "scratching an itch". She merely misses her husband and sees the new guy's attraction to her as a salve to her wounded existence. For the relationship to work, guys must take not of the fact that WOMEN would like to be heard. We talk when we are happy, we talk when we are sad. We talk when we are angry and we talk when we're stressed. Basically, we talk about everything and we just need the guys to listen to us and not interrupt or tune us out. This is really true! If we feel heard, then we feel supported.

Another scenario is in a family where the wife keeps blaming her husband for his failures. Men, of all shapes and sizes, fancied themselves as heroes who is going to solve all the problems of his loved one. Now when he feels like he is not, he is going to feel small...for ego is a big thing with guys. He would then spend so much time in the internet and would feel closer to other girls who is feeling empty as he is. Stuck in a symbiotic relationship with this girl in the net, they would keep emailing and chatting and even going as far as calling each other on the phone for mutual support. This is hidden from the unsuspecting wife. As his wife continues to nag, he begins to feel disconnected with his wife and will grow closer to the other girl. Sexual relationship could occur between them but as i stated above, this is not about "scratching the itch." For the relationship to work, women should take note of the fact that MEN like to be admired. We should appreciate everything that they do for us. It may not be what we feel but this is what they need. Whatever decisions that they might do, they would appreciate that we are there for them even if it turns out to be a mistake. Blaming doesn't work. If we trust unwaveringly that they will do a good job even if he failed so many times, then they will feel admired.

Let's not point to cheating or whatever it is as THE problem in the relationship. The truth is, what we see is only the EFFECT. If the guy cheats, don't be too quick to judge. There could be an underlying reason for that. However, i do not condone cheating. But it is human nature to react instead of act positively. We are all selfish and immature in a way.

So i do not believe that a guy will cheat because "napul-an" na. There could be lots of reasons why although he is immature to act out this way instead of confronting the problems head on.

Others complain of monotony in their relationships and yet won't do anything to revive it. Life is too short to be serious all the time. Always have your own friends and interests separate from your spouse. Learn new things together. There are so many things to do so i don't really excuse boredom and "being busy" as a reason. Every 6 months, have a new hobby and the newness of it will add "spark" to your relationship...making it the same and yet, new. Your spouse have no reason to get tired of you because you are happy, independent, adventurous, etc. This goes without saying that you also provide him with great ***, hot meals, lots of space, etc. Do not nag, accept apology gracefully, give benefit of the doubt, keep surprising him/her, do not bring the past, admire him, boast of him/her to everyone, do not talk bad about him/her, etc.

Marriage takes a lot to make it work but it's worth it. Marriage *** becomes better with age and as you age, providing that you communicate well.

I learned this from my mom. She lets dad go out with his friends. She didn't restrict him in any way and made him feel guilty about it. She doesn't open his wallet and mobile phone (while i do). They have weekly dates, mag-holding hands pa. My dad appreciates this about her and so he buys her stuff like jewelry, flowers, cards, perfumes, etc. They take trips together. But my mom is complete on his own. She drives herself, dili siya nag-agad sa akong dad. Every 6 months, she takes a new interest. Malingaw niya si daddy kay naa na sad sila lain istoryahan. So dili boring ilang life. And never ni cheat si daddy, not even once. Sure, they've been through storms like any normal married couple but they persevere. My dad told me once that temptations are always there. You just have to recognize it as such and not give in to it. He believes that adding another problem will not solve his old one. So im really thankful that he's mature and not like other guys na weak kaayo. Magka-problema lang, they want to drown in everything para naay temporary release sa ilang problems. Those kind of people are weak and doesn't have a positive support system in their life.

That's why i don't believe in 7 year itch.