How do you control jealousy?

[walker]

my girl told me that i should not depend on her.. but she is life to me.

[Dickiesss]

Honesty bro and trust..

[nijazared]

Trust ra jud na siya bro...tell your girl that somehow you want to trust her but it seems though its harder than you think it is. This will entail her to somehow give you assurances and think twice about doing things that might trigger your jealousy. Communication is most important in cases like this.

[christinetinetineo6]

i myself is a jelly type of person. naa lai girl nga mu duol sa akung uyab nya tanaw naku happy kaayu silang duha, mura na jud ug gikumot akung dughan sa ka selos. over.. and it's not good to the point nga mag away na jud mi sa akung uyab and then mu pranka na sha naku nga insecure daw ku kay nag selos ku atung bayhana. and it kinda hurts to hear that.

anyways, hmm.. lisud man sad ang long distance relationship.. you can't be there to witness what she's doing most of the time mao nga murag mu hina pud ang imung trust niya. but you can overcome this jealousy behavior of yours Kuya. you just have to trust and keep your faith sa inyung relationship.and never do anything wrong nga mao'y maka start ug away ninyu, like for example, maybe imu pud sha paseloson.. and also, don't be insecure among other guys that she mingle with. remember always that she loves you and you love her. but if possible, get to know her guy friends para maka sure ka nga dili ka dapat mag selos ani nila. let them know that your girl is taken and they should respect that (incase mag flirt2 man gani sila sa imung gf kay ga salig LDR). just bear in mind that you two are officially together. "Love is patient, Love is kind; Love is not jealous nor envious" i took that from a bible passage. those are the words that made me realize nga dili dapat mag selos2. but we can't control it kay it's part of being human. we can only lessen this feeling.

maayu gani rn dili na ku over sa pagka selosa. bad for the heart!
i hope this advice could helpyou out Kuya! God Bless

[organ_nic]

insecurities... that is what is eating you up... you lack confidence... maski unsa pa ka lig.on inyong trust to each other... dli mo matter ky ikaw mismo wla salig sa imong kaugalingon... i think dli ang pgka seloso imong pakgangon... kundi try to build a little confidence in yourself... wa epek ang trust sa relationship kung ang mismo foundation ani nga individual party involved dli lig.on....

ayaw huna2x.a nga dli ka gwapo... nga dli mo bagay nya... instead huna2x.a kung unsa imong maau nga mahatag nya out of love... that will make her think twice of letting you go... hehehe

apil ko ha, morag igo jud kaau ko ani, naa man sad gud ko the same problem and I guess ang idea nga wala ka on your own salig sa imong self kay dako jud kaau ug factor ani nga problemaha, thanks for sharing.

[kishlat]

loose ur sense of hearing, and ur sense of sight!
im sure wala nay jealousy!!!

[smiky]

jealousy is a natural feeling , it can either drive you to excel and do much better with the relationship or it can either literally or figuratively kill you inside. I would agree its a virus and insecurities is indeed eating you up. All of us have been in that part have we ? Its just a matter of trust and being open to your partner about how you feel. If it is indeed to hard to control the feeling of jealousy , then pray , remember , love is never jealous, it is slow to anger and it doesn't seek the other party to get hurt but live in a harmonious way.

[schizophrenicpanic]

Jealousy is actually brought on by another issue that a person has in his life.
And it is lack of self esteem / self confidence or insecurities towards other people.
People who tend to be Seloso / Selosa don't really have the best confidence in their own selves.
They tend to easily get insecure with other people who are either, much successful / much blessed appearance wise / much talented, etc. So that is why they tend to get jealous with those people especially when they are around their partners, because jealousy is the fear of loosing your partner to someone you know / you think you have nothing against, someone who you view is better than you and so on and so forth...

So, to control you Jealousy, you first need to look for yourself, find your self esteem / self confidence in order for you to walk through life with your head up....

[mio]

Don't control it, eliminate it. It's a useless emotion.

[elisa]

i actually believe that there should be a healthy amount of jealousy in every marriage or relationship.
the challenge is not to go to the EXTREME kind of jealousy.
i have an aunt who separated from his husband coz extreme ra kaayo siya magselos. as in it started out cute during the earlier parts of the marriage but it grew to a point na one time, nag-away sila ug bongga coz my aunt kay ni peace be with you ug laki during mass. -> EXTREME.