Unfaithful husband....kinsa man jud ang sad-an?

[ryeaka]

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So do you mean to say nga ang sala is naa sa asawa coz wala na siya nag-effort nga ma-sexy? And that is enough reason para mangita og number 2 si bana? Hmm...

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dili sala sa asawa... and dili sad sya enough reason... but its reality... bisan naman siguro girls proud sad if ang ila husband neat/gwapo...

married ko, we have two kids but i still make sure nga dili ko losyang tan-awn... my husband didn't tell me to do that but i feel the need to... not only for him but for myself and my kids as well... i want them to grow up well-groomed... kay if makita nila nga neat ang parents naturally sundon na nila... also, almost if not all wives of my husband's barkadas still look "dalaga" so ako sad makaingon dapat ingon ana sad ko...

in my own opinion if ang guy ang naa kabit? ang akong iblame kay ang kabit labi na if kabalo sya nga married ang guy... i believe man gud nga ang control dapat naa sa girls... mas naay control ang girls kaysa guys... if dili mosugot ang girl walay kabit ang guy... although ang uban guys rn mag-act as if single nya mahibaw-an sa girl nga minyo diay inlove na sya... kana ang guy na jud ang sad-an...

[LeeLeePot]

what if the marriage was not founded by love in the first place? what if the marriage was just because of responsibility or convenience? what if by nature, aware na ang girl nga ana na jud ang boy before they got married?

i have friends who are from broken families because of an unfaithful father. but they understood what the man in the family has been going through since it is not easy on their end nga makapasakit silag tao. maybe the woman they married is not enough for them. maybe they stumbled upon a woman who made them realize what love is but the woman came too late. maybe the marriage was really not because of love. daghan rason. and natural lan jud mghate ta sa mga tao nga nitraydor nato. however, matod pa sa akong friend nga naay unfaithful father, thankful japun xa because if not for him, waa unta xa ron. nakapahuman man ug skwela iyang papa sa ila masking daghan kaayo sila gibuhi sa iyang papa. the father may have been an unfaithful husband but he never stopped being a father.

if i were in a broken family, i would hate my father to the core at first. but, i would eventually forgive him kung d nia malimtan iyang responsibility sa amo nga original niang pamilya..musabot nlan ta sa mga ani nga papa kai waa tai mahimo kung bigaon jud ang amahan.masking mgrebelde or mgpakamatay pa ko, mulabas ra nga gcrave kog attention. it would also be better kung mgbuwag nlan sila sa akong mama pra pud mkapangita c mama ug lake nga mutake care nia..hehehe

[epoaxlan]

There are myriad factors why a person can fall out of marriage and look for someone who he/she thinks is better than his /her current partner...

often, they look for the missing part that most if not, their current partner is unable to give or lack hereof...

Blaming the husband for illiciting an affair often is the all reasons of why the marriage crumbled and why there are so many broken families out there.. BUT, for me. that is just the tip of the iceberg...

We fail to notice tell tale signs why the husband (or in some cases, the wife), had look for someone else... Remember, it takes two to tango... and in any line.. it is composed of two points... Husbands or wives are mere human beings only.. needs love, affection, communication,care and bodily warmth... If one of these emotions and feelings are missing or if their partners fail to give them these.. then the end results of it would be for the other to seek solace to another person... in the pretext of social and physical need...

lets break these things:

1.) Love - The main core in marriage... But often mostly in marriage, the husband and the wife had failed to build back their ember because they are too busy and pre occupied already with their works, their careers and with their children... Sometimes, it would be good to rekindle still the love of your partner.. even if naa namoy mga anak... take time to still go out with each other.. places that you once went to (minus the kids, kamo lang duha)

2.) Affection - We guys are warm in nature.. Ever heard about a husband who complained that his wife is not being affectionate to him anymore everytime he comes home from work?? he just sits at the sofa and his wife is just talking to their neighbors... No more warm and kumustahan thing... Affection involves being sensitive to the person's needs.. a simple 'kumusta man imong work dong..' okay ra ka? naka kaon naka? .. or just to hug and kiss that person when he/she comes home...is simply an affection that is truly appreciative jud.

3.) Communication - This is where most broken marriage lacks... often the husband fails to communicate his needs to his wife and vice versa. Every time the husband comes to work.. instead of talking to the wife his day... he finds the wife not in the house... or if she's in the house, she is engross in other activities and doesnt want to be disturb of. Or she constantly yells and talks about monetary problems over and over that the husband is too tired to hear already.

4.) Care - How many wives still massage their husband (when they're too tired from work), or surprises him everyday with her delicious cooking or gifts to give. When you love a person katong uyab pa mo.. What you had given her /him emotionally should not change bisag minyo namo.


5.) and Lastly, Bodily warmth. Most marriages are consumated sexually. But as children comes in the family already, most wives doesnt care anymore about their bodies.. they just let it sag and wala na silay pakabana jud.

Let me tell you this to the wives out there. If you make your body as sexy as the first time you said yes to that guy (your husband), I doubt husbands would look for other mistress anymore. More often than not, when you marry..it is not the end of the world on not to make yourself beautiful and sexy still. Be sexy for your husband. Make him proud as he was proud of you when katong uyab pa mo.

Guys often talks comparing their wives (kanang mag inom inom mi) and most topics center on the sexiness of their partners.. The guy who has the most sexy wife oftens get the envy of his barkadas. Hot and may asim pa, as they would say

So there you go.. That is my own personal contribution to your thread TS..

Cheers!!

hi bowee i like your post, but somehow mura syag ni blame ra sya sa wife..hehehe..ni react ko maybe kay ako man ang mas ni himo ug effort gud nga d mawa ang affection, communication, care ug bodily warmth namong duha..

ako dili nako ka massage sa akong bana pod, kay both man mi nag work and I also feel kapoy ig abot nako sa balay though mo reach out jud ko niya, makig talk..etc. para lng dili na uga kau amo relationship..

[yvonne6]

only men and women who got into a relationship with a married person would try to justify relationships like this. if u were the wife or husband of a cheater, u would know exactly how devastating it is to be in that situation. whatever the reasons, problems within the marriage (live in partners), getting involve with another person is not the answer, infact, this will only complicate things, worst, will send u to jail. by the law of God, and even by the law of man, this is not acceptable. mao bitaw nga naa tay annulment or divorce (other countries) because no one also deserves to be trapped in an unhappy relationship. so simple, ug unsa ang problema, istoryaan, give the person a chance, several chances given, wala gihapon, buwagi sa, before ka mosulod ug laing relasyon. in this case, you are fair, you can explain to everyone that since buwag naman mo, then u r free to look for someone else. a lot of us just dont realize, even if u have a mistress or kabit, that relationship is not the best one u can get. for a while, yes, it may but simply because the other person knows that siya ang puno sa kulang, but once kanang tawhana imo nang makauban sa imong life (in exchange of your wife or husband) same problems, or even worse and mo arrise. sus, i've seen how my ex failed in all his attempts to have a better life now, wala jud. nagmahay tuod siya for cheating on me pero the marriage was already broken a long time ago. if people could have been a little wiser noh, daghan jud unta families and children ang mas happier. grabe ug gahom ang biga gud

[epoaxlan]

what if the marriage was not founded by love in the first place? what if the marriage was just because of responsibility or convenience? what if by nature, aware na ang girl nga ana na jud ang boy before they got married?

i have friends who are from broken families because of an unfaithful father. but they understood what the man in the family has been going through since it is not easy on their end nga makapasakit silag tao. maybe the woman they married is not enough for them. maybe they stumbled upon a woman who made them realize what love is but the woman came too late. maybe the marriage was really not because of love. daghan rason. and natural lan jud mghate ta sa mga tao nga nitraydor nato. however, matod pa sa akong friend nga naay unfaithful father, thankful japun xa because if not for him, waa unta xa ron. nakapahuman man ug skwela iyang papa sa ila masking daghan kaayo sila gibuhi sa iyang papa. the father may have been an unfaithful husband but he never stopped being a father.

if i were in a broken family, i would hate my father to the core at first. but, i would eventually forgive him kung d nia malimtan iyang responsibility sa amo nga original niang pamilya..musabot nlan ta sa mga ani nga papa kai waa tai mahimo kung bigaon jud ang amahan.masking mgrebelde or mgpakamatay pa ko, mulabas ra nga gcrave kog attention. it would also be better kung mgbuwag nlan sila sa akong mama pra pud mkapangita c mama ug lake nga mutake care nia..hehehe

I can tell you are a great kid to your parents. As a child we can easily forgive our father for being unfaithful to our mother, but what we kids feel, if things like this happen, is not as painful as what our mom feels when being cheated on. I know sakit jud kaau kong mo traydor nimo ang taw nga imo gihatagan sa tanan, gugma, lawas ug kalag.

[ryeaka]

agree ko ni epoaxlan... my dad was a womanizer... hapit sila magbulag sa akong mama... i was 6 years old then... dad-on pa niya ang girl sa house... but my mom didnt give up kay luoy kuno mi mga anak... in fairness nausab biya akong dad... for us kids, easy ra kaayo maforgive kay anak ra gud ta... before ko nigraduate sa college nakasala ko sa akong family... wala ko mosulti nila nga di ko kagraduate ug march, sa october na... then sa akong pagka way ayo nga anak nablame nako akong mom... then she told me wala koy right kay ever since sya ang dako kaug gisakripisyo for us... gisultihan mi niya sa akong sister nga apart from being a womanizer gidapatan pa jud sya sa akong papa... pagkabalo nako ana i asked for forgiveness then i told her, if buhaton pa gai toh ni papa ma nya magpakamartyr ra japon ka kami na ang mopalayas niya...

karon nga naminyo nako diha pako nakarealize unsa diay toh kasakit para sa akong mom... kay if ako ang buhatan ana sa akong bana (hopefully di mahitabo) sus ambot unsa akong mabuhat... ang asawa/bana nga tarong nag-invest ug love, loyalty and respect sa iya partner nya ingon ana lang? dili lalim...

[yanong_banikanhon]

Sala gyud na sa unfaithful husband. Unya sala pud na sa babayeng homewrecker nga nipatol sa lalaking minyo.

Kana silang duha maoy angay patilawon og hustisya. Malooy gyud kong magtan-aw anang mga pamilya nga kanhi malipayon unya naguba lang tungod sa pipila ka tawo nga ang kaugalingon rang kaulag ang gihuna2x. Unya kusog pa kaayong mang-blame sa uban aron lang ma-justify ang iyang kasal-anan.

Kinsa kadtong mga biktima, it's time to seek justice! The law of the land is with you. You have the right to a peaceful home and an intact family.

[francoise07]

suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuus..havng a 3rd prty s nt d answer noh f pdung na mfall out of love ang laki uie..he shud work things out xmpre wd d help of his partner..hmfFFfff

kng ing.ana ka sexy sa im ava ako maasawa sis, d gyud ko mangita lain..promise...
p.s. kaw na?..

[-==ahylingel==-]

maglagot ko sa mga babae nga mupatol especially if they know na beforehand nga naay family.. they're just too selfish to think of their ownselves not thinking about the family nga maguba..

in most cases, usually ang kabit na-attrack sa man at first because of the money, and MAY EVEN fall in love with the guy.. which is at the first place should not happen kay kbaw xa dili sakto..

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for the guy, kbaw xa minyo xang tao, dili xa maghimo ug relationship with someone else.. cguro, (give chance), pasayluon nga nigamit o unsa kay bisan unsaon nato dili man jud na malikayan, diba mga laki? but the fact nga minyo namo and you've swear in front of the altar to marry that woman and be your partner in life, dili naka magkig-relationship ug lain..

after ana, unsa man? malipay mo?

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for the wife, do everything you can to please your husband/partner.. first, physically, ayaw pa-losyang2x intawn inday.. kay lami baya kaayo paminawon ang phrase nga "mura pa lagi na daga imo asawa pare" diba? and also for self confidence and satisfaction man pud na..

second, cater to the needs of your husband (as in tanan).. asikasoha.. kay mao pud baya na ang mga responsibilities nato mga babae and of course ask the men what they want.. kay basin diay para nato okay nato pero sa laki dili diay.. kay para when that time comes, walay ika-boyboy ang laki nimo kay gibuhat nimo ang tanan..

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all in all, one party or the other may have taken part in the situation.. just sort things out.. and i hope maayo tanan.. nobody wants to have a broken family..

just the term BROKEN is not pleasing enough..

[nirpz]

well if thing won't work out in the way it use to be then a "Divorce" or "Annulment" is always a solution but yeah it would make the kids suffer. But just let the court decide on what to do and move on. If you're sick with your marriage, why don't you visit this website for help?

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