Unsa inyong buhaton ani?

[nabzy]

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Parehas tag kahimtang TS. what i did is gibarogan lng jd nko. Ako jd gipakita na kasaligan jd ko and mao ni ron nakuha jd nila ang salig nko pero karon nkatrabaho nmn ko, medyo tigom na jd para kasal.. Basta ang pinaka-importante bai ang pag-ampo sa GINOO. Wa juy lain makatabang sa imong gibati. ingna kog bakakon. Ayaw kalimot nga naay Ginoo para mutabang nimo...

[pablingz]

Guys need advice for this..Buntis akong Gf karon for almost 2 months na nya nkahibaw na iyang mama ug papa ug akong mama pud...then gusto sa iyang papa na pakaslan nko akong Gf ,,but im stil not ready pa kay nag skwela pako im 22 yrs old my Gf is 21 ..ako unta plano kay kng mkahuman na ug mka trbaho..kay wa tay ikabuhi pero ang bata supportaran man namo mo tabang akong mama..need ba jud na pakaslan dayon guys even di pka ready kay nka buntis na?

pls give your comment on this...thanks

TS, to answer your question na need ba jud pakasalan dayun kay buntis na even if di paka ready, is ayaw. Ayaw pakasal or sulod sa usa ka butang na dili pa jud ka andam kay magmahay ra nya ka or kamong duha in the long run. Lisud kaau ng mapugos mo ug minyo tungod kay buntis na. This may not be favorable on the girls side but at least nagpakatotoo ka.

Kung ako pangutan-on or ako naa sa sitwasyon na in-ani kay ako jud pakaslan ako gf but not because buntis na siya. Luoy man gud ang girl sa in-ani na sitwasyon, lageh butang nato inlove mo karon but then bata pamo , wa pa kahuman eskwela ug dili pa ready financially.

huna-huna pag au TS kung unsay angay nimu buhaton sa inyu kahimtang karon.Lisud ipasabot sa side sa imu gf esp. sa ya parents pero mao nay usa sa mga butang na imu/inyu atubangon sa inyu nasudlan na sitwasyon.

[a1va]

NO need for you to go on with marrying the girl... I understand though the point of the girls' father... its really bringing shame to their family especially their reputation.. and the last thing he can make an effort with, is to have you tie the knot with his daughter.. for 'Security of tenure' so to speak...

but in marriages there are no fool proof guarantee at all that if kamo ba jud (bsan makasal pa mo). I've seen couples who had a lifelong journey together.. but their destination didnt end as they would expect it to be... life offers no assurances and guarantees at all...

My take on your case? assure the father of you GF that you will stick in your responsibility nga panagutan nimo ang imong nabuhat sa ilang anak. Also talk to him man to man... that though your as much as willing to stand for the responsibility you are in.. you are are still shaky in the finances that might involve bringing a life to this world... Assure him that as soon as you can find a job AFTER school, you would support your child and if the case maybe(that is, if your decided still) to marry their daughter. Tell all this plans first to your mom and bring her also when your going to tell it to the father of your GF. Your mom can back you out with your plans.

Tell her dad again, pahumana sa ko sa akong studies, then I can support your daughter. Marriage is not the end to the means.. and surely not the means to the end... there are a lot of solutions that can be done, other than concluding dayon nga pakasal dayon mo.

You just need the guts and the conviction to tell your plans to her dad. It is up to the dad to say otherwise.

Again, ayaw pag duha2x do nga basin d nimo makaya.. kay dili lang ikaw ang nahitaboan ani.. many had experience this problems of yours.. and many have come out unscathed...

Be strong, be a man of your words. (Makita na sa amahan unsa ka nga type nga laki through your words and actions)

Good luck!!!

thumbs up for this.. very well said..

[yiennahs]

Guys need advice for this..Buntis akong Gf karon for almost 2 months na nya nkahibaw na iyang mama ug papa ug akong mama pud...then gusto sa iyang papa na pakaslan nko akong Gf ,,but im stil not ready pa kay nag skwela pako im 22 yrs old my Gf is 21 ..ako unta plano kay kng mkahuman na ug mka trbaho..kay wa tay ikabuhi pero ang bata supportaran man namo mo tabang akong mama..need ba jud na pakaslan dayon guys even di pka ready kay nka buntis na?

pls give your comment on this...thanks

make them understand your point. it's your happiness, but i suggest you compromise, you need to sacrifice too

[nortz]

nah paskasli jud na kay mapusilan nya ka sa amahan sa imung gf..

[CompTech]

do ur responsibility to become a good father. inyoha man btaw na gisudlan. daghan namn nahitabo ani...

[clickstart]

Thanks mga idol...my plan is to finish my study usa meh mag pakasal but 2 yr pa usa ko mo gradute kay 5 yrs ako course...couse my mom di mo sugot nga magpakasal ko humanon sah daw nako mao bisag mo sugot ko kasal karon kay love man nako cya she's my love of my life ..but wla ko ika support sa kasal mao I will talk nalang cguro to her dad promise the day if kaya na nako mo support for wedding coz naa sad koy pangarap na malipay cya sa wedding dli kanang dinalia..but the baby will always the top priority to us...God will make a way..I will stand for what i have done ...

[LeeLeePot]

ang importante d nimo byaan imong nacreate nga pamilya specially your kid..be firm on what you really wanted sa..at least naa nakai plano dba? make them understand your point and tell everyone to wait...peo sa pgkakaron pud, i suggest mangita kag at least part time pantabang gasto sa bata...

[emailroy2002]

lol.. 21 naka nya wapa ka human skwela? pag taron og skwela bai ayaw sige pang chix...

mao guro di ka nahan mag minyo kay mang chix paka sa? hahaha...

kaning mga babae kay tuga2x pud buntis noon hahaha.

mao nang gi ingon nganong ni enter sa sulod.

[Devian]

karon pa nuon ka ga plano nga naa na? sa wala pa, enjoy lang kaayo, karon duha-duha na ka.

puede man ka pakasal nya patabang lang ka support sa both sides. pero kung ga duhaduha ka cya na gyud then u have to admit it.

kung unsa imo desisyon diri makita unsa ka nga laki.