how far should i go for love? how long should i wait?

[tisayishot]

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I can actually relate with your love story girl. Just like my man, he came from a poor background. As in, he used to be a "mangihaw ug baboy sa mercado" while Im a nurse by profession. I stood up for our love no matter what people say.. even I know my mom didn't agree at first. But no regrets, He is very loving and caring and super buotan.. the only difference is he is trying hard always to provide for the family. By the way, he is my husband now and we're blessed with 2 adorable kids.

[elaimakulai]

im sooo happy for u,congrats!

Thanks! hehehe... hapit na jud. I'm glad imo jud gibasa akong telenovela hahaha!

dili man mata pobre akng parents, but they want sme1 who can really take care of me-financially

Wa man sad cguroy parents na gnahan maglisod ilang anak.

Let's say kana imong uyab karon kay financially stable pero bati ug batasan. Sugal didto, inom dre nya worst, manapat pa jud. Would you like to have that kind of life? Do you think your parents will allow you to go on with that kind of relationship? I don't think so. Di man sad cguro sila ganahan nga masakitan ka. Daghan lage kag kwarta pero puno sad ka sa problema. You will never find a perfect man promise. Naa jud nay 'apan' tanan tao.

I'm not saying na pilion nimu imong bf bahalag pobre or way trabaho basta pinangga lng ka. That's also wrong! Unsa na? bahalag saging basta labing? Problema man ghapon na in the future samot ug naa namoy family. Mao nay gi ingon na "SHY" shy luto, shy hugas, shy laba, shy limpyo Unless ok ra nimu ug ok ra sad niya nga ing-ana inyong set-up. No matter how buotan ang isa ka tao, mogawas baya jud na ang insecurities. Tendency is mag-away nalang hinuon mo tungod ana then ma ahat kag buyboy kay lage ikaw ang naay trabaho cya ang wala.

Naa nasad koy i.share gamay nga medyo ma relate ani. My sister married a probinsyano. Di sad nindot ug educational background ang lalaki, wa man gali jud to kahuman ug highschool samtang akong ate kay naka graduate ug aeronautics. My sister is currently working in a government office while his husband kay sideline2x lang pero at least naa diba. Most of the time naa ra jud na iyang bana sa balay. SHY sad nga laki (you know what I mean ). Nakita sad namu nga naningkamot ang laki. They've been married for more than 7 years although wala silay anak, I can see that they are very happy. My parents welcomed my brother in-law wholeheartedly. Honestly, di jud ko gnahan anang lalaki at first tungod sa iyang background. Kini lageng typical pinoy, mo judge dayon sa tao wa pa gani ka ila pero I can see nga pinangga man jud na niya akong maguwang so eventually nadawat ra pud nako.

See? bisan dili tuod datu or kwartahan imong uyab basta naa lang sad cyay paningkamot ok ra kaau na. That's why you need to encourage him more.

i dnt want to disappoint them

Until when are you going to please them?

[X]

wow. ka inspiring sa inyung story uy... dli ko ka relate sa ako self.. pero nkarelate ko ani sa ako friend.. IT xa.. then wala kahuman kai nasangit xa sa thesis... then iyang gf karun kai working na.. 7 yrs na ilang relationship and happy ghapon kau cla.. then ang guy diay na akong friend kai nagwork xa sa supermarket.. hinoon dli noon xa pobre.. kai mka afford man balik sa skul iyang parents.. then naningkamot pud xa.. kbaw xa dli xa kbaw mo english.. i mean wala chance sa callcenter but kibawi pud niya sa skill niya... and naningkamot jud ang lalake.

[lintanks]

Don't be a martyr! Wala ka gipadaku ug gipa eskwela sa imo parents para mag slave or mag master.

[lintanks]

Grow up young lady. Take it from me. Marriage can never change a person. You can verify this truth from any marriage counselor.

Aren't you infatuated. You are looking but not seeing.

[sHenZee03]

It is only natural for us women to find a guy who can give us a better future or in other words, provide financial security and stability. We can never deny the fact that most of us look for a partner who can either be an equal or be better in terms of having a career, savings and decision-making. We want to take care of our man but we also want our man to take care of us the same way we do or even better.

I had an ex-boyfriend who was a degree holder but could not land on high-paying jobs like being a call center agent since he did not have the skills but did have a job in line with his degree but he keeps complaining of his low salary. I also challenged him and told him that if he wants to speak to me, he needs to speak in English so he can practice and later on, be ready to apply for a CC job. But what happened was instead of exerting efforts to learn, he just kept on praising me. He kept on saying how lucky he was to have a gf who had both brains and beauty, how envious he was that I speak the way I do and how he falls more and more in love with me because of these things. So yeah, I failed.

I made it clear to him that if he keeps on complaining about his job and if he really wants a high-paying job that's a bit easy to apply for, then the call center industry would be his best option. But with his lack of confidence and will to be prepared for the job, got him stuck with his current job. So I agree with the previous posters that in order to be better, one has to walk the talk. But we didn't break up because of this though.

If he really loves you, he should show it to you by showing how he can be a really good partner now and in the future, as a husband. We have basic needs and love can't afford most of them. I do believe that love conquers all in the sense that it will give us the motivation to pursue a better life, either for us or for the future we're building with our partner.

[lintanks]

Ambition should be made of sterner stuff.
.....William Shakespeare

[lintanks]

So said William Shakespeare. "And oftentimes excusing of a fault doth make the fault the worse by the excuse. " Oftentimes, we looking without seeing lagi.

[lintanks]

It is only natural for us women to find a guy who can give us a better future or in other words, provide financial security and stability. We can never deny the fact that most of us look for a partner who can either be an equal or be better in terms of having a career, savings and decision-making. We want to take care of our man but we also want our man to take care of us the same way we do or even better.

I had an ex-boyfriend who was a degree holder but could not land on high-paying jobs like being a call center agent since he did not have the skills but did have a job in line with his degree but he keeps complaining of his low salary. I also challenged him and told him that if he wants to speak to me, he needs to speak in English so he can practice and later on, be ready to apply for a CC job. But what happened was instead of exerting efforts to learn, he just kept on praising me. He kept on saying how lucky he was to have a gf who had both brains and beauty, how envious he was that I speak the way I do and how he falls more and more in love with me because of these things. So yeah, I failed.

I made it clear to him that if he keeps on complaining about his job and if he really wants a high-paying job that's a bit easy to apply for, then the call center industry would be his best option. But with his lack of confidence and will to be prepared for the job, got him stuck with his current job. So I agree with the previous posters that in order to be better, one has to walk the talk. But we didn't break up because of this though.

If he really loves you, he should show it to you by showing how he can be a really good partner now and in the future, as a husband. We have basic needs and love can't afford most of them. I do believe that love conquers all in the sense that it will give us the motivation to pursue a better life, either for us or for the future we're building with our partner.

Very nice. Pero a relationship must generate synergy.

To me love is only one leg of a three legged chair.

Have an inspiring day ahead of you.

[arf2]

motivation raman kuwang ana nya it will work out