First Cousin Relationship

[ryoken]

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I had my relationship with my first cousin. We so much love each other, but i'm so confused right now if i should continue our relationship or not. he doesn't want to end our relationship either, and if so he prefer to have suicide. i don't want to end like that..i don't want to lose him either...i'm too much afraid if our family will know about it. i'm afraid of critics, and immoral judgements..but still i have this desire to fight for our love but has lack confidence to put action to it...i have researched all over the net about cousin relationships and found out that cousin marriages are not forbidden in the bible, infact the bible is supportive in it...from Leviticus 18..as for the birth defects, close relationships have an increase from 2% to 4% of birth defects compared to other relationships...it has slight difference and also there were many cousin couples who have normal and healthy children,it's just a matter of chance or percentage you have of having birth defects..i have increase hopes to continue our relationship no matter what it takes but still i'm having difficulty to overcome the fear in facing my family...i'm so confused right now...i need some thoughtful advice...i want to consider other people's advice...please visit these sites: Genetics Overview | Cousin Marriage Resourcesand Cousin marriage from a Christian perspective | Cousin Marriage Resources for further explanations about genetics and christianity facts about cousin relationships and give me some of your comments and opinions about it..tnx

[Ryan747]

Incest relationship is forbidden sa ato culture, naa na daghan topic about ani pero ang maka tubag sa imo problem kay kaw ra. Kahibaw ka nga di gyud na mo accept inyo family bisan imo pa ingnon nga di forbidden sa bible pero kung nahan gyud mo duha palayo nalang mo unya yaw na pakita sa inyo family og relatives.

[baning]

how old are you na ts?

on our culture this is really a no no...
you need to consider millions of things before you go on with this... family, society... etc. etc.

maybe you are too young... try to loosen a bit... cut off your attachments with your cousin.. later on, you'll find out and this is a very big mistake and you'd be happy that you'd cut the thing this early. Other wise you might end up being ridiculed by society and cast out by your family...

[behemothharr]

kung hugot jud inyong gugma, palayo nalang mo aron maipag laban ninyong duha.good luck nalang ts.

[ryoken]

for me cousin relationship is not incest. It's a taboo calling it an incest for it was not indicated in the bible that it's an incest, the bible is very detailed in it (Leviticus 1. I appreciated your opinion, i know it would be very difficult for us to open our relationship to our family, but i'm preparing myself to face them and let them understand. if they won't accept it then i have nothing to do with it. i just want people to understand us. but as of now, we're still hiding it, i don 't want to rush things. just want to be sure if it is really worth fighting for. I know this happens for a reason, God has plans for us.

[I-lab-Iero]

As long as it is forbidden, then the affections that you have with your cousin will never be free,
and in reality it will never be free.
It will cause so much shame on your family, please consider them as well,
not only your side of your family but also the side of your cousins family,
or perhaps the entire family.
Feelings are passive, but history are made to linger on.
When histories are written it will never be erased.
Do think about that.

[ryoken]

thanks for the advices..i'm 21 yr's old and he's 20. we're both studying college degree right now. We have a long distance relationship, i'm here in cebu and he's in manila right now. We plan to be stable before we decide to open it in our family..but yeah your right, it might cause me critics from others, but i don't want to feel regrets for not trying...people can have many mistakes, but regrets are more painful than mistakes...

[ryoken]

yes i'm currently thinking of all the possibilities...a family will always be a family...i consider them also...i've tried many times ending our relationship because of my family, but then, they're not the issue, it's inside me...

[THE KID]

legally and culturally...its a no no

[hobie]

puppy love ..noooooooo