how to handle pseudo-relationships.. healthy ba ni?

[jimmy128]

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kabalo lagi ka aahah

[boombox]

cheezy! hahah

[baning]

you'll end up getting hurt if he finds the other person na he wants to get involved with...

[jimmy128]

you'll end up getting hurt if he finds the other person na he wants to get involved with...

its a risk i am willing to take

[sittingprettyincebucity]

Hai, I can totally relate.

You want opinions? Boy, have I got some.

I used to go out with this guy I really liked. Initially I thought he was looking for something serious. I later realized he treated me like a toy – something to play with when he was bored or lonely, only to put back on a shelf until the next time he felt like taking me down. I think an appropriate description for him would be emotionally unavailable - the kind with whom you never know what they’re thinking or feeling because they keep everything bottled up tight. As a result you’re never quite sure how they feel about you.

Now there may be a million causes of emotional unavailability. Maybe he was hurt badly in the past and has vowed to never allow himself to be vulnerable in a relationship again. (In short, he’s afraid of getting hurt.) Maybe he’s hiding something (like 3 illegitimate children) and he avoids getting closely involved with someone because he doesn’t want to tell his secrets. Maybe he’s one of those guys who dates tons of girls only to sleep with them. Who knows? Entire threads could be written on this topic alone. This is not the point here.

What you need to figure out is if this is enough for you. This gray area of ‘pseudorelationship.’ Is it what you want? What do you want? I think that all girls should decide upon a standard of how they should be treated and never allow any guy to treat them in a way that doesn’t meet that standard. Do you know your own value? Do you have respect for yourself? Decide how you want to be treated and don’t waver just because you’re intensely attracted to him.

Of ‘friends with benefits.’ If he’s this type of friend (or wants to be this type of friend), if he’s getting anything physical from you, is that alright with you? Okay ra nimo na what he’s basically saying is you’re good enough to f*** but not good enough to be in a relationship with? Is this consistent with your values? Is it consistent with your opinion of yourself?

If you decide this isn’t what you want, get out now, before you become even more emotionally attached to this guy. You will only end up hurting yourself.

Second, what does he want? The only way you can answer this is to ask him point blank. No matter how uncomfortable you are with this idea, you must have this conversation. For clarity’s sake. For the sake of your own mental health. Seriously. Labad kaayo sa ulo ang confusion, oi. Who knows, he might actually want to be with you, maybe he just doesn’t know how to tell you kay, emotionally unavailable lagi.

Na hala, taas2x na man diay ni akong gi suwat. Hinaut wala ka na bungog sa akong yaw-yaw. I hope it works out for you.



Parting words: Susan Sarandon's character said this to Geena Davis in the movie Thelma and Louise



"You get what you settle for."





Visit http://www.sittingprettyincebucity.blogspot.com for more of my unsolicited opinions.

[emcentricity]

dili na healthy. uu nindot sa sugod but kapoy na sa uwahi.
pagtalk mong duha. sabuti ninyo ang maayong buhaton

[pinkcount3ss]

kapoy mana... make move na ui... para kung di nahan ang isa sa inyo... i stop na lang na... kay walay mahitabo.. hanging lang mo cge...

[ritchepaul]

opinions are highly welcome!

healthy ba ang thought na murag kamo pero dili? or kapoy bah?

share your thoughts people!

pseudo-relationship? murag fubu...

faking relationship...hmm..in the first place unsa man pud ang reason why man ni enter aning sitwasyon?

[angel_thea89]

kapoi oi.. as in.. mag libog jud ka.. labi na ang guy, libog nang daan.. hahahaha istoryae na ninyu ug tarong.. prangkahanay para ma settle inyu.. kung unsa man sad gani inyung status jud..

[wallflower]

walay assurance. kung ganahan ka maglingaw2x aw okay rani pero kung serious kay dmd!