Can there be love without lust

[xtianubec]

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uu oi posible mana TS
kaso sa panahon naton run
nihit na kaayo na run

[ain]

What do we mean by "love"? Could there ever be love, a connection, a depth of feeling between two people, without physical attraction?


Clearly the answer is "yes". Plenty of old couples, such as my grandparents, love each other, but the decline of desire does not affect this love. The body no longer has the energy or the capability, but the need to stay together and be in the presence of the other is real. This is nothing to do with custom or habit or fear of being alone. It is because the two people have come to love in the fullest sense - they live interdependently. Once there was lust, but the lust has died: the love has not, though it has changed.There are also times when people fall for someone else for reasons utterly unrelated to physical appearance - someone has helped them through a difficult period, or stimulated them intellectually, for example. In these cases someone might love, but feel no need for ***. Someone's kindness or cleverness has attracted someone else to them, and this attraction has nothing to do with physical attributes. It's not about grabbing them or ***; it's about meeting a wonderful person. This love has no lust. Does it have a future? Maybe not. That doesn't mean it isn't real, just that it isn't fertile. There are millions of people out there in love with someone - usually secretly - without lust.


So these examples aside, can ordinary love, such as that between most couples, survive without lust? We are generally told that you need great *** for a great relationship, and that problems with *** cause wider problems between couples. This may well be the case. Equally, however, other problems cause issues with *** - the dividing line between *** in a relationship and general issues of closeness is not clear. Couples do survive with a poor *** life and they can work through it.

In essence then, yes there times when love exists without lust, but to divide the two is simplistic when it comes to relationships. They merge, mix and flow and that heart flutter some people have when they see their partner of ten years come home from work, is an expression of love and of "phwoar" and trying to disentangle them is difficult, if not completely futile.

[lifebook11]

di man siguro ni mahitabo... if in love jud mo sa usat2x, di na mahimo wala moy physical contact.

[epoaxlan]

lust is always there jud hehehe bsan d nimo love ang taw samot na tngay if love nimo..

[cptn_star]

love without lust is plausible but love, in the context of uyab2, without physical contact is not...lust may not be always present in all physical contacts. and physical contact may not always be done to commit lust.

[angel_thea89]

murag dmd jud..:P

[PEDR0]

mabuhay ang lust!

[Fern]

pwede ra ni if walay matress ang babae and walay itlog ang lake

[xtianubec]

your lust disguise as love.......

[mcmlxxxviijim]

after all sa physical attraction man jud magsugod or usahay daugon. like ug nakaila nimo ang tao over the internet w/o seeing the person's picture, nya nainlove ka along the way, then magkita mo, both of you may or may not decide to continue what you have after meeting because wala kagusto sa nakita.hehehe