how to come out as a lesbian..?

[cesski]

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what makes it repulsive to others?

nah. ambot lang jud. there are people who don't mind. there are people who don't give a f***. and there are people who find it repulsive. i guess it depends on how you were brought up by your parents/guardians as a person, from a toddler to what you are now. there are children who are brought up to be open-minded, and there are those who are taught to insult/bash homosexuals, bisexuals and trannies, and others taught to just mind their own business.

different families have different beliefs, norms and standards. take the Rednecks in the States for instance. they are almost always portrayed as gay-haters, black-haters and haters of people who are not white diba? some of them are even doers of hate crimes.

[colby]

please don't generalize sad. nag wonder nuon ko dah if naka suway kag G-G relationship, kay murag naa mai hate..??

personal opinion nimo, ang ako sad... Generalize, I'm just stating an observation. Often generalization is a representation of the whole, there are exceptions but nonetheless, it is very close to what everybody is..

Colby, do you have gay friends? I mean really close friends as in you grew up with ... or cousins, maybe? If so, maybe you could ask them that. Being in a forum where your expression is limited only to what you type, you come off as being offensive even when you say you are not.

Although, I share your sentiments na duna sad jud mga lesbians ug gay people na damak pero there are gays and lesbians that are not. I have a few friends who are professional and very good, upstanding members in the community.

Yes, I have gay friends. aSK them what why they are gays or lesbians?? They often say, ' since birth", " na realize na lang," ..It doesn't make sense to me, but I don't argue with them, for what? Yes, some are professionals and good member of the communities. But doesn't change anything on how I see things. At the end of the day, we know what they are. I salute others for being successful, but their lifestyle is still unacceptable for me.

you know what colby, you are just saying those words because you are living in the philippines..look at people who lives in other countries..you just have to open your minds..

and for the record, if you say lesbian, it doesn't mean you have to act and dress like a guy..there are diffirent types of lesbian..dili na nimo mailhan ang uban..and not all lesbians tend to be aggressive and possessive..some of them are discreet and sensitive, etc..

they're normal people. the only difference is that they like the same gender..they are professional, they're successful in their chosen careers and people don't have the right to judge them..they are still human beings..

lesbians and gays are cool...just look at vice ganda in showtime..look how he inspires people..

peace...

I lived in the West for a number of years... That is normal to you, wow!! then imo pud na.

That is the problem, if you do not accept them, they label you as close-minded.

They can inspire other people, professional, not aggressive, not possessive, etc. But doesn't change anything on how I see them..Sorry just being honest.

To everyone who is contributing to this thread and to those who are merely reading it, Colby's post is a small representation of what the majority of people think of gays and lesbians. It is still widely unaccepted. People have not embraced the concept of homosexuality.

Isn't it the reason why Ashley started the thread in the first place? Kay nahadlok siya unsa unya ang reaction sa family and close friends. The 2nd to the last sentence of this post just confirms this fear.

Question: What makes homosexuality so repulsive?

Thanks sandman for explaining. That is what I mean, my comment is not unique or one of its kind. Ask other people and many will give the same comment as I do. Others prefer to be give a safe answer. Guess what TS, I'm not...I prefer to give my honest view with regard to this topic.

Repulsive? Morality is the biggest issue here.

what makes it repulsive to others?

nah. ambot lang jud. there are people who don't mind. there are people who don't give a f***. and there are people who find it repulsive. i guess it depends on how you were brought up by your parents/guardians as a person, from a toddler to what you are now. there are children who are brought up to be open-minded, and there are those who are taught to insult/bash homosexuals, bisexuals and trannies, and others taught to just mind their own business.

different families have different beliefs, norms and standards. take the Rednecks in the States for instance. they are almost always portrayed as gay-haters, black-haters and haters of people who are not white diba? some of them are even doers of hate crimes.

There, open-minded napud. We are really led to believe if you do not approve of this close minded naka...tsk tsk tsk...

I'm actually minding my own business, when I post my comment I even say no offense cause I know many will react. and I'm right. That is my own view and I'm standing by it. Sorry I think it is repulsive. I can't use other words, I wish I can but that is how I look things.

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I'm sorry if I offend any gay or lesbian istoryans here, but I am not sorry for using the word "repulsive". That is how I feel and that is how it stands.

[colby]

d nato ma help if in-ana imo opinion. pero ang ako lang unta, try to ask mental health experts or d ba read psychology books kung gi classify ba jud na xa na disease.

informed opinion lang unta ba.

naa pa diay ni, nalimot ko..

I'm a Psychology graduate..WHHHHHHHAAAAAAAATTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!

hahahahahha, shocking , dili maka sabot na Psychology, even Psychologist are biased and have their own opinion. The thing is if you are Psychologist you help people but you avoid your biases and own views. Kay it is the most normal thing in the word to have our own biases and opinions. Not only sa issue na ni. Informed opinion, of course. The thing is the teachings of my church overshadow the things I learn in school. Psychology focuses so much on behavioral, sciences, etc. Not so much on morality. That is why this topic is debatable and endless, there are different sides, at the end of the day you make your own decision. And i'm glad I have.

[charmz_fire]

you know what colby, you are just saying those words because you are living in the philippines..look at people who lives in other countries..you just have to open your minds..
and for the record, if you say lesbian, it doesn't mean you have to act and dress like a guy..there are diffirent types of lesbian..dili na nimo mailhan ang uban..and not all lesbians tend to be aggressive and possessive..some of them are discreet and sensitive, etc..
they're normal people. the only difference is that they like the same gender..they are professional, they're successful in their chosen careers and people don't have the right to judge them..they are still human beings..

lesbians and gays are cool...just look at vice ganda in showtime..look how he inspires people..

peace...

^^well said!!

two thumbs up,..

[miyay]

based on observation, gays and lesbians do not seem to want to be that way, not in our homophobic society anyway. but they can't help themselves. to thine own self be true. maybe it's in the dna and some brilliant scientist might discover this one day. as it is, the world would be a better place if people would just observe compassionately and judge less. imo

[colby]

WOW! so many reactions, to think I was only expressing my views. Oh well, at least you know that there are those who still find this behavior unacceptable. And many will...thanks for that.

[kitty_kittens]

based on observation, gays and lesbians do not seem to want to be that way, not in our homophobic society anyway. but they can't help themselves. to thine own self be true. maybe it's in the dna and some brilliant scientist might discover this one day. as it is, the world would be a better place if people would just observe compassionately and judge less. imo

kana. sakto jud. kung ako papili-on, of course ganahan ko mu go with the norms, etc. kinsa mai ganahan i reject sa mga tao dba? pero bisag unsaon nako ug deny, in-ani na man jud ko sa una pa. 4 years old pa gani in-ani na. so pag college nako, i decided to embrace who i am. para sad maka move on ko sa life.

[kitty_kittens]

WOW! so many reactions, to think I was only expressing my views. Oh well, at least you know that there are those who still find this behavior unacceptable. And many will...thanks for that.

mas ganahan dai ka na daghan ang di mo dawat namo?

and yes, very aware jud mi na naa'y mga di mu dawat namo. mao pud bitaw nag ask c TS unsaon pag come out.. kay kbaw xa na naa'y d mo uyon..

[kitty_kittens]

@ colby:

well i just hope that one day, you'll change your mind.. or d ba ma lessen tong pagtan-aw sa amo as repulsive. pero if d man gani, wa na jud ko'y mabuhat ana.. i'll just keep in mind my favorite quote (or unsai tawag ani)..

those who MATTER do not mind, and those who MIND do not matter..

peace

[ashley85]

@ colby:

well i just hope that one day, you'll change your mind.. or d ba ma lessen tong pagtan-aw sa amo as repulsive. pero if d man gani, wa na jud ko'y mabuhat ana.. i'll just keep in mind my favorite quote (or unsai tawag ani)..

those who MATTER do not mind, and those who MIND do not matter..

peace

I SECOND THE MOTION...

and to colby, just try to put yourself on our shoes and let's see what you will feel...

peace...