Unsaon pag move on? Its been 4years

[splendid moonlight]

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I'm not really in the position to tell you what to do. I just want to share a story.

There was a man who blames himself for his wife's death and dresses up as a clown on his way to work everyday. The last time he saw his wife happy and laughing was the day before her death when they went to the carnival and got entertained by a clown.

Despite his good performance at work, somebody filed a lawsuit against him because of his manner of dressing. He got himself a lawyer hoping he could stay on being a clown, insisting he's not harming anybody. But after misbehaving in court and pissing the judge off in the process, he realized with the help of his lawyer that that wasn't the way his wife wanted him to live. And he slowly took off his wig and makeup.

As it turned out, the person who expedited the complaint against him was a coulrophobic, a condition characterized by an abnormal and exaggerated fear of clowns.

Sometimes in our grief (and not just when someone passes away), we hide in our shells. Not knowing that in the process, someone may get hurt. Your friends and family want to see you well. So does your mother.

You're in a rut, and it's natural to think of her. Think one step at a time. Fix areas in your life that you can fix now. You're not Super Woman, though, so you might want to distance yourself from other areas that will take longer or harder to fix especially now with your frame of mind. You can get back to them when you're better. For now, think of what's important and what will directly affect your future.

That being said, I hope I can follow my own advice; I need some fixing myself. God bless!

[yokam888]

prayers can do wonders.

we lost our 1st baby 5 years ago, me and my wife experienced what you are feeling, mawad-an jud ka ug gana sa tanan... importante is mapagawas nimo what you feel, ayaw itago, its nothing to be ashamed of. talk to your father, siblings or close friends, and most importantly, talk to God.

[yugi]

Every little thing has its own reasons....why why why?? your mom died right? every people does you don't have to become like that so stand up see whats new in the world right now even w/o your mom. I can feel your sadness but think about how it feels to become a looser if you don't changed. God wanted you to become independent and to be strong so think about the bright side as well.

Yes absolutely our suggestions are nothing if you dont listen to us.

My suggestion is PRAY! and I'm pretty sure God will listen to you just give a little try.

[dindinisms]

Awwwww. Dik! *hug*

[teenaavi]

wa na ka mahimo sa imo mama...accept na lang jud..ako gani way papa. way mama..ok ra man..unsaon man nato? mao man nay plan sa ginoo? di ta puede muquestion ana..siya ra kahibaw ngano...ipray na lang imo mama...mao ra na imo mabuhat..kahibaw diay ka guba na imo kinabuhi.so aware ka? meaning kahibaw ka di na mao dpat imo buhaton di ba? ana man jud ang life...

[hunyanggo1977]

day, wa na ka mahimo sa nahitabo sa imong past coz human na man to sya di na man to nato mabalik pa.

but sa imong self, dako pa kaayo kag mahimo. so dont ruin your life, pick up all the pieces and start a new life. dili malipay ang imo mama if makita ka nya karon na imo gi usikan lang ang imo life. but malipay jud sia if mag succeed ka sa imo life....

[Moongoddess28]

I have an amiga... she's been with her X for 5 years. She's happy now with another guy....2 months (and counting pa xla..)

[bradelicious]

If ever mkakita imung mama sa imung sitwasyon ron do u think malipay xa?

Make your mom proud by fixing your life instead, ipakita nmu wat she really means to you by finishing your studies and having a good life, make an inspiration out of her. You don't really have to get over her, I mean who does dba? she's your mom after all. Lisud jud i move on esp family member ang mwala, mayntag uyab kay pwede ra ilisan kdaghan. You can talk to her once in a while..your mom is with you and is in your heart. She would be very happy to see her daughter strong and successful.

[ChinitaKo]

hunahuna nalang na if in ana ka malipay kaha si mommy nimo? sa imong gibuhat u make her sad bya. kung unsay dream sa imong mama for u mao nay hunahunaa pra ma inspire ka for everything that u do.

[bradelicious]

I have an amiga... she's been with her X for 5 years. She's happy now with another guy....2 months (and counting pa xla..)

simanga ohh! dle man tawn ni uyab2x ang g.sturyaan..hahaha basahag tarong miga.