My Destination of life..

[johnC]

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walay tamayay..we all have hearts and feeling and own mind to think..after reading this..pls no insults..ty


Well i guess i have problem with both love and myself, infact my destination of my life is seems like complicated..i dont know where to cross and how to choose my path.. right now im very much depresed of my life and always think to start again and do some things rigth on the track again..problem is(i think im a wierd person or is there psychological problem with me) when i watch love stories,or true life story etc bout love and only anime(thats my problem-ANIME=FANTASY=MEANING=I THINK I MYSELF HAVE A PROBLEM IN MY BEHAVIOR)..im always putting myself on it, not knowing hurting myself, wishing how nice if it was me in there ,or i hope my life was like that..in the bad side i still put myself as im that in the movie..feeling sometimes rejected..i think somethings missing in my life thats always bothering me..i dont know why im like this..its just ok if its wasnt an anime movie..coz real person movie means real life..i seem to havnt accept something in mylife..but with anime,im touched..or sometimes easily influenced..which is kinda wierd..coz in anime..everything is possible..thats why its a fantasy..when it comes to love matters..im realy struck so hard!!i dont know what to do!!ryt know im really disturbed..i was like this 8 yrs already..hope noone says bad things..im not gay,emo or something..im just an average guy..who's life is full of blur.. ty for reading

[Githyanki]

hmm... I used to think something like that before sad. I guess you just need to put meaning in your life. I found that the hard way. For things to change, for things to be better... It has to come from within..

My mentor once told me this, "Stop dreaming and start putting those dreams down as goals... You will find happiness and satisfaction once you start achieving those goals.." I started out with just reading a self-help book. My goal at that time was to just finish reading the book. And I did after 2 weeks. After that, I felt a sense of accomplishment... And, boy, it was such a rush for me.. So, I got a pen and tried to make the 101 goals, as my mentor suggested. Learning how to cook, learning how to speak Japanese, speak in front of a crowd, save money, travel abroad, and the list goes on... Believe me, it was darn near impossible at first for me. But as time goes by, and as I started achieving those goals, it became a lot easier..

My suggestion is try to start with something easy but something that's totally different from your routine. How about meeting someone new in person? And then slowly get to know that person. Don't stop until you know his/her dreams, goals, likes, dislikes, fears, etc... Or maybe something like I did? I've got a list of books that might be of interest to you..

I'll share with you a message that I've been keeping always with me.

"Life is a constant battle for survival and the rules change on daily basis. Our mission is not to escape but to survive. Not to deal with triumph but to deal with failure, not to run away from fear, but to master it. It takes courage to keep on fighting and wisdom to dance with intricacies of life. So if you feel like... rules has shifted one step higher, deal with it with greater faith and never ever surrender."

I hope this helps...

[johnC]

you do make so much sense!!infact, im jealous at your situation..knowing that you have overcome all that..i know its the hardest thing to do..learn to love your life and find your meaning of existence..10 years ago i used to think of life is just a life..nothing more..i just do whatever i like..not knowing after i graduate highschool..i realized that i have missed 50% of existence and meaning of my life..then a day came i watched this CLANNAD-anime movie..it so hits me alot..i didnt complete the movie for so it hurts me and make me more useless and stupid..ever since that realization..ive been roaming around in circles..dont know what path to take, thingking something that what did i miss in my life..i suggest you watch the movie too..the movie clannad gives happiness but also sadness..well ur fortunate you made it..for im a kind of person that gives up easily or can be affected easily in any circumstances..meaning..i have a weak and soft heart..im always thinking of..why do LOVE exist??makes you happy yet has a horrible side effect.. -__-

[Tirong-say]

What you need is just the strength in facing your weaknesses,
finding your space in this world sometimes is not so easy, most of the time,
it's quite challenging that it needs a lot of effort ang courage.
The quest for happiness is not so easy, keep the struggle something is
always in store for you ahead.

[johnC]

What you need is just the strength in facing your weaknesses,
finding your space in this world sometimes is not so easy, most of the time,
it's quite challenging that it needs a lot of effort ang courage.
The quest for happiness is not so easy, keep the struggle something is
always in store for you ahead.

ty2x..but i think theres something wrong with me..y do i get to touched inside or sympathize anime life knowing that its all fantasy?does it mean im trap in a state of always dreaming and fantasy?or is there just loneliness deep inside me?dont know yet..hope i cna find the answer..maybe i result to anime coz i think i still cant accept the reality and result to dreaming and fantasizing..

[walker]

bro, first to practice this simple principle in life:

be the reason for the smile on someone's lips
rather than be the cause of a tear in someone's eyes...

practice that each day...and u will find ur direction lageh.

and this one:

Thoughts are Things...

do not think nga there is sumting wrong with u..or else that will really materialize. trust me...thoughts are things!

[johnC]

bro, first to practice this simple principle in life:

be the reason for the smile on someone's lips
rather than be the cause of a tear in someone's eyes...

practice that each day...and u will find ur direction lageh.

and this one:

Thoughts are Things...

do not think nga there is sumting wrong with u..or else that will really materialize. trust me...thoughts are things!

arigato gozaimasu!!i will try to..well hopefuly will

[Tirong-say]

ty2x..but i think theres something wrong with me..y do i get to touched inside or sympathize anime life knowing that its all fantasy?does it mean im trap in a state of always dreaming and fantasy?or is there just loneliness deep inside me?dont know yet..hope i cna find the answer..maybe i result to anime coz i think i still cant accept the reality and result to dreaming and fantasizing..

It's always normal to dream,
there is that fine line between reality and fantasy,
you can always aspire and try to reach something, but in the end
it is as always be defined by your capacity to reach.
Sad to say we do have our own limitations in possessing what we ought to have.

[hobie]

ngano datg.as kau inyo mga post kapoy basa ..

ako ma sulti ra TS ..find meaning to your life and you will be happy

[prettylotus]

hala! nahan ko ani... but I'm not really good at this noh? I was once like that too... M young btw so i guess normal ra to xa... but before, I also didn't know what to do with my life. wla ko kbalo unsa akong gnhan... tanan nlang jud OK sa ako... and this attitude made me a passive person. like unsa nlang iingon sa akong family and friends na this should be done-that should done, OK ra kaau sa ako tanan coz, like you, i felt wlay direction ang akong life and it sucks, you know? at 20, 2 years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. [sometimes man jud no kung naa ka sa situation na lisud, makareflect ka sa imung life]... i wasn't scared actually... i embraced it instead! And then all I was thinking is WHAT IF mamatay ko, fulfilled na ba kaha ko sa akong life? or naa ba kaha koy memories na ibilin sa akong family and friends. And since then, i realized na wala! wala jud! I was always a puppet... A puppet of my family and a puppet of my ideals... And so i've decided that when I'm through with this cancer thingy, I'm gonna do all the things that I wanna do in my life... Learn everything there is to learn in this life.... learn to smile, learn to laugh, learn to scream and LEARN TO LIVE BETTER.... so since then, since i have always wanted to learn spanish, gatuon tuon pud ko ug spanish ui and fortunately, through my blog, where I usually write about my thoughts and significant events of my life, I've met some people who are also fliuent in spanish and they helped me learn. And then few months after my chemo, I went to work again [it was funny though coz my hair was sooooooo short pa back then, like murag boycut and my co-workers thought that i was a tomboy or something, HAHAHAHA!], and then after 3 months of working, I finally knew what I've wanted and needed..... It's with me all along...... Now I'm in law school.... and I'm happy... I'm happy that I have made people happy, I've shared my learnings from my experiences and I have touched other people's lives.....

Life is beautiful dude... Yeah, it gets difficult sometimes..... and boring na xa usahay.... BUT IT's BEAUTIFUL! it needs effort lang jud para manotice ni nato..

Don't feel rejected ui... All of us here loves you.... so live life to the FOOLEST.....aw.... FULLEST d i... ^_^

Have a Happy LIFE! ^_^