I dont have a dad.

[sfi.smith2009]

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I'd like to share it to the people in cyberspace that I dont have a dad. I didn't know that the person I looked up to as my sister was my real mom. It was my grandparents who became the parents I respected and loved. What hurts a lot is the reality that I didnt have a single idea that I was hurting my mom for not loving her as my mother. I knew that I was different from the rest of the family because I was the only one dark skinned, and until high school I didnt know that my dad left my mom when she was 3 months pregnant. Right now, I still think that my dad did not have the balls to stand by my mom when she needed him.

[PraiseMe]

hmmm sis,try to talk sa imong mom,or close relative nimo that knows everthing sa inyoha para matabanga ka nila to search your roots,i understand jud sa imong situation,and im happy for you that you have a strong emotions towards ani...

[sfi.smith2009]

Thanks. Wala na man sad ni na issue nako. I dont even care if my dad shows up or not. And I did not even dare to ask from my mom or my relatives who he is. Nakabalo lang ko kay na ligas amo silingan sa pag istorya nga dili ko anak sa akong lola. ganahan lang ko mu share para makabalo sad ang mga guys nga naay plano mamiya ug nabuntis nga girl unsa ang bation sa ilang anak kun makabaton na panimuot nga wala sila.

BTW, I am a bro. hehehehe

[yokyok]

brod... ask gyd forgiveness sa imo sister or your biological mom kung imo man cya na hurt...

brod di gyd na maayo ang mamiya kung mkabuntis...

pag tarong lng skwela brod, homan og skwela then pangita nindot trabaho... kblo ko proud kau na imong mom nimo... mas mo samot ka pround imo mom kung maka homan ka without sa help sa imo father...

[PraiseMe]

aw sori bro diay, anyway,even ingan dapat u should know kung knsa imo papa,its your right bisag dli ka angkunon basta at least u know him...

[sfi.smith2009]

Thanks sis. Humana man ko ug school 3 years ago. ako ra pud nag gasto sa ako school kay working naman ko since 1st yr. Im sure my mom is very proud of me. Dili sad ko makabuntis bro kay wa jud ko plano nga ma hilig ug babaye. (if you know what I mean ).

[monrayz69]

i'm not like you!! I DONT HAVE A DAD coz he died!! ^_^ gi atake!! 1st atak p nya tiguk dayun!!

[lady_veedever]

same mi'g situation sa imong mom, i'm still 19 but dis coming last week of august magka baby na ko, unfortunately wa sad ni sya'y daddy nga maabtan, can i ask a question? the time nga nabaw-an nimo imong sister kai imo diay mom, unsa imong na feel? i'm planning to do the same thing sa imong mom, but ang akong khadlukan is, What if mabaw-an sakong anak ig dako niya nga ako diay iyang mom, daun di niya masabtan daun, mu cause cguro ug hatred noh? if dili hatred bacn mag rebelde akong anak.

sa imong situation ron, unsa imong na feel pra sa imong real mom? and, naa kai plans pra mngita sa imong father?

[sfi.smith2009]

@lady_veedever:
Thanks sa pag share.
Actually, mura ko ug naulaw sa ako kaugalingon ug naglagot ko sa ako dad pag kahibalo nako. wala pa jud nako g confront ang mga taw nga involved. kahibalo man amo mga silingan pero wala lng jd sila naka sulti kay gusto sad nila mag gikan sa amoa ang tanan. Of course, wala ko nituo sa silingan namo nga nakasulti. But I thought of it nga close kaayo namo ila family so wala sad siya reason nga mg buhat ug storya. Naka huna huna pud ko sa mga times nga maka bantay ko na masakitan ako mom nga ako lola ako tawgon ug mama. Tinuod nga ate ako tan aw niya but there is a certain level of respect and love that I had for my grandmother. Nausab ra ako pag respect nya nga hinay hinay siya nahimo nako nga second mom pero elementary pa ko ato. And I would hear from my grandmother's co- teachers if I still did not know who my mom is. 2nd year high school na ko nakabalo sa tanan.

I think mas maayo man tingali nga panindigan nalang na nimo. It's a consequence you unknowingly committed to when you and your partner made him/her out of love. I love my mom more than I think. tinuod jud diay na mas mulabaw jd imo feelings para sa taw nga nag anak nmo. I thought I loved her as my sister but I loved her more because she is my mom. And I am proud that she had raised me well without my dad's help. Mao gi tago ko sa ako family kay student pa man ako mom sa CNU ato na buros cya. nahadlok ako grandparents sa consequences nga ihatag sa school. until now, her status is single. wla jd cya naminyo but I know she is very happy with her life.

It never hit me to find my dad. I'm sure he has a family now and he is happy with what he chose 23 years ago. I forgave him for being a sucker and for being a coward. But I'd never forgive him for making my mom cry when he left her.

[havaianatic01]

pasagdi na tu imuha dad bro wala man tu pulos. ako sab, naa ko dad peo wala man sab xa paki katu gagmay pa mi. ningkamot kau ko sakoa lyf, and karn na na mihayag na akoa kinabuhe, adisir pa taraw sya mangumusta unya manghambog pa jud sa iyaha mga igsoon. pero duh wala koi paki nya wala koy love niya bsan gamay man lang.