Unsay Tanaw Ninyo Sa Mga Boys Nga Naa Nay Anak Pro Dii Minyo?

[gcc4426]

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Yup, as long as the guy does not run away from his responsibilities TO THE CHILD, being an unwed father is no big deal.

But I do wonder why some insist that he has a responsibility to the mother. If they made the mutual decision to have *** (meaning nobody forced her to spread her legs) and an unwanted or unplanned pregnancy was the result, and a mutual decision not to get wed or be together was made, then what "responsibility to the girl" are you referring to?

Nowadays, both parents are expected to work and share all responsibilities of bringing up a child, whether or not they are wed or living together. If the girl does not want to marry the guy, then why should she demand financial support for herself. Yes, the child's financial needs should be a major responsibility of the father assuming possession is with the mother, but that should not mean that the girl should also expect to have her personal needs be attended to by the guy.

There has been to much "guy-bashing" here and in other threads. Don't get me wrong, I too am a child of a single mother when our dad abandoned us for another woman. I loathe at parents who abandon their families. But I am also a 40-something happily married guy for 18 years with 4 kids who understands that not all unwed fathers are automatically at fault. Where is it written or cast in stone that the mother is always the better parent than the father.

Many single mothers has posted that they were wronged. I wouldn't want to deny them their version of how the relationship went south. But I would take their version with a grain of salt. I have witnessed many of my married friends separate or got into serious problems, and mind you, it is not always the guy's fault, although some of the girls has shouted to the whole world that they were the ones wronged. I guess human nature dictates that we take the side of the girl but reality dictates that this is no so, specially in the times we live in.

My principle of this "unwed or single mother/father" topic is this - if both mutually agreed to end or not to continue on with the relationship, then both should carry the financial responsibilities and should also take extra attention on their moral and psychological support to the child/children. If the decision was mutual and child-possession is with the mother, then the father should never waver on his financial support to the child/children as well as his other parental responsibilities. As for the mother, she should not demand financial support for herself, but should get herself a job so she can spend for her own needs.

Gone are the times of the single parent brooding and crying about his/her misfortune. Today is all about picking yourself up and owning up to your responsibilities.

well said bai.

[xxxevanxxx]

it depends,,.... kung iyang gipanindigan ang yang pagka father sa baby ......kay bilib ko niya.... pero kung wala cyay pake sa yang gipaangkan..., wala siyay ayo!

[tamse]

di ready sa marriage ug sa responsibilities pero ready sa kabuang

[miramax]

it depends,,.... kung iyang gipanindigan ang yang pagka father sa baby ......kay bilib ko niya.... pero kung wala cyay pake sa yang gipaangkan..., wala siyay ayo!

Lupig pay iro, if way puangod bah!

Pero if gebuhi ug ge-amuma ang bata sa pagmahal maski wa na getagad sa inahan ang bata, hurot ako bilib!

[sherz]

it's fine if reponsible ang guy cutean ko magtanaw.. If for a bf nanay anak ok ra sad cguro atleast nana kay masugo palit ug suka ug asin

[momma26]

depende...

kng dghn ug anak sa lain2x ug bae. kani a big No jud sa akoa
kng naa nay anak bsta he takes his responsibilities aw okey pa
bsta single pa jud cya pure dili pa kasado.. complicated nmn gud kaayu ug kasado cla then wla na clay klaro.

samut ug ang bae na iyang gianakan ky samukan aw. gubot jud ..

pareha ni sa nahitabo nko..

we started off as friends..tapos lovers.. Ingn man xa na wla na cla sa prev gf, and wla na cla commu.. Several months later, he told me nanganak na iya ex sa ila baby.. basta ky grabe hilak nko ay.. ky gugma na jud lagi ako gbati for him.. Ingn xa wa daw xa kabalo abwt 8 pgbulag nila.. so ako xa giingnan na he has to face his respnsiblity sa bata..masakiton man ang bata so i kept pushing him na tabangan ang grl and to let me go..di man ko byaan. Then, a month latr, i fwnd out na buntis diay ko.. (irregular man ako period so wa ko kblo na mao na diay to until ng.morning sickness ko). Nigawas na ang tnuod story aftr i told him na pregnant ko. He knew all along abwt d gurl being pregnant diay. He said he didnt tell me coz knew di nko xa sugton if kabalo ko sa situation. Duh! The grl s a minor..luoy bya. And karn galikay na xa nko. I dnt rli care anymore if he loves me or not, basta ky iya supportaan ang baby ky lisud man sad ko, ako ra supprt sa ako parents, ako ra ang naa income. Wa ko ga.expect ug for me. Ang for the baby lng ako gusto. Haay.. Tama jud ng it's nt how u fall bt how u pick urslf up frm d ground. Ako ra btaw usa mg.paprenatal, palit things sa baby ug plano sa future. If naay single dad na mao ng.raise sa baby saludo jud ko.

[doydi]

sa panahon karonmurag daghan2x najud ning ingani nga sitwasyon...

[disomniac]

mao na clay mga supermaN basta naa lang nila ang bata ug ang responsibility..

[frenchfries]

ok lang.. normal sila kay nakaanak. meaning, dli baog. ahehe

[anjerika]

they are... ok. hehe. saludo kos mga lake nga mu take sa responsibility as a father, maski mag inusara lang sila nga mag raise sa bata. d gani lalim sa babae, samot na sa lake