
Originally Posted by
tylerdurden
practical advice: start planning on moving out now. drop hints on how "nice" it would be to move out. how it would make work easier (travel), etc, etc. try to avoid mentioning that you are moving out because of the pressure's in the house. make it seem like you are moving out but you are not abandoning them (though this should be your plan all along).
prepare your stuff. it is best to get your stuff out of the house BEFORE you plan to move out. take time moving them out. don't move your stuff out in bulk. if they try to convince you to not leave, agree lightly but give hints that you might change your mind later on.
when you finally move out, make sure that you move to somewhere where they cannot visit or find you. they are obviously trouble and you don't want them visiting you and bringing trouble to your doorstep. during the moment of actually moving out, schedule it so that you only have to deal with one of them. by that time, the two of them should already be aware of your plans. i think it would be best if you have this confrontation with your sister rather than your mother. she probably wants you out of the house because she wants your room.
once you've moved out. do your best to minimize contact with them. love yourself. this does not mean that you go out and party or what. this means that you live your life as you choose. don't get pressured by peers and make sure you are actually following what you want and not submitting to peer pressure, loneliness or social norms.
i know you will have a hard time separating yourself from your family. just keep telling yourself that your family is not healthy for you (they induce thoughts of suicide in you, remember?). love yourself first. don't be a martyr to family. sometimes, it is best to be separated from your family so you can have a good relationship with them.