Three Keys to A Strong Bond

[Peenut]

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If you find yourself in a toxic group situation, remember these important keys.


• Talk and be honest - In messy situations, the best way to strengthen things out is to be honest. Explain your side, and say what's on your mind - but remember to be tactful!

• Don't take the bond for granted - Once you get it all out, remind yourself that a team is a team - one for all and all for one! Find ways to bond even more so you can build a stronger friendship.

• Trust in one another - In any relationships, it's important that you trust the people involved. A team can't win if the players don't trust right? And a friendship will not work if there is doubt or suspicion. earn each other's trust and the rest will follow.


So do all your questions about bonding had been answered here?
If not....
Just read it again.
Cheers to all.

[annerhexian]

• Talk and be honest - honest is for those NAIVE people.. We demand honesty and yet those who demand for that THING is never been doing it in the first place.

• Don't take the bond for granted - Yes you're right but when love over ruled, they forgot they're friends.. They will just go back and cried for u when they are already broken and hurt.. but when u wanted them, u are the 2nd prior to the first one.. So i waited for that day but nothing came for a reason that person's love.ones(Gf/BF) is sick LOL! but then, wat the hECk! I just said to my friend, I am alright. And went home empty handed for i needed a friend at dat time but that friend never came for a REASON.. but wTH!!! ho cares! that person is my friend and that person had some prior next to u.. so shut UP and be emotionaLLy independent to MYSELf! no matter what! coz if I do that... then if they Leave.. well I CAN STILL BE ALIVE! breathing and smiling!!!! hahahhahahahahhha

• Trust in one another - Trust is enaf to believe someone no matter what. hehehe sure I trust my friends but my soulmate, my lover, my enemy, my allies and my confidante is ONLY to myself.. Is that narcissism? No it isnt.. I was just saving my self from harsH reaLity and expectations from the very start..

[Peenut]

• Talk and be honest - honest is for those NAIVE people.. We demand honesty and yet those who demand for that THING is never been doing it in the first place.

Those people who don't give their honesty in return does not have enough courage to themselves. They might afraid of their perception about being true. But in dealing with someone (not in a bond), honesty maybe tentative.

• Don't take the bond for granted - Yes you're right but when love over ruled, they forgot they're friends.. They will just go back and cried for u when they are already broken and hurt.. but when u wanted them, u are the 2nd prior to the first one.. So i waited for that day but nothing came for a reason that person's love.ones(Gf/BF) is sick LOL! but then, wat the hECk! I just said to my friend, I am alright. And went home empty handed for i needed a friend at dat time but that friend never came for a REASON.. but wTH!!! ho cares! that person is my friend and that person had some prior next to u.. so shut UP and be emotionaLLy independent to MYSELf! no matter what! coz if I do that... then if they Leave.. well I CAN STILL BE ALIVE! breathing and smiling!!!! hahahhahahahahhha

Hmmm.. it is always important to have a solid group of friends in which you can lean on. It may be a group people who are working in your place, your old high-school buddies, your bestfriends for life, etc.
If your friends aren't there to support you, then your bonding must be in a decreasing stage. Give them a phone call/ text message and set a rendezvous point to relieve those happy moments with your friends.

• Trust in one another - Trust is enaf to believe someone no matter what. hehehe sure I trust my friends but my soulmate, my lover, my enemy, my allies and my confidante is ONLY to myself.. Is that narcissism? No it isnt.. I was just saving my self from harsH reaLity and expectations from the very start..

Trust is in every fiber of our being. I admit, it's hard to give away trust to some people. Because even our shadow leaves us in darkness.
Give trust to people whom you may deserve to.

As what you've said, "I was just saving myself from harsh reality and expectations" - Just be firm and strong to yourself

[annerhexian]

Those people who don't give their honesty in return does not have enough courage to themselves. They might afraid of their perception about being true. But in dealing with someone (not in a bond), honesty maybe tentative.


Trust is in every fiber of our being. I admit, it's hard to give away trust to some people. Because even our shadow leaves us in darkness.
Give trust to people whom you may deserve to.

As what you've said, "I was just saving myself from harsh reality and expectations" - Just be firm and strong to yourself

What else can I say for this? hhehe No more.. Thanks for your shared thoughts and encouraging words. This is easy to say but when ur already in ActUaL thing.. its Kindda hard to percept and understand that cud lead weaknesses in each individuality...

safe way in saying,Pain is inevitable therefore I don't want to avoid it but I am not inviting it, as weLL.

Its a matter of time.. A matter of each situation per understanding and acceptance.

Hmmm.. it is always important to have a solid group of friends in which you can lean on. It may be a group people who are working in your place, your old high-school buddies, your bestfriends for life, etc.
If your friends aren't there to support you, then your bonding must be in a decreasing stage. Give them a phone call/ text message and set a rendezvous point to relieve those happy moments with your friends.

Oh not in a decreasing stage,my friend.. Its a matter of understanding to a friend to the lifestyle they had... Dont worry, we still do keep iN touch. Ive seen them as a JEWELS and not pebbles in the sand... It just that.. Id learned to be independent especially in a Dynamic status here in life.

Our life is not static one but its changing every seconds it is ticking.. I just observed that no matter how important and u needed someone for a reason.. a reason will keep u understand for the reality that we had....so learning and accept them.. from their ugliness, wisdom, mistakes, smiles, cries, strengths and weaknesses they shared from me.
From the imperfect person we cared and tangled and yet it functions NORMALLY in a crazy thing that we called "relationship" maybe it be in friends, family,co workers, acquaintance,lovers,enemy and to the person u just know and yet u never meet in a virtual box.


Just my observation and some experienced to the said thoughts.

[TEDA]

:2thumbsup: for you TS! super like! and i dooooooo i agree with all of it

[Peenut]

What else can I say for this? hhehe No more.. Thanks for your shared thoughts and encouraging words. This is easy to say but when ur already in ActUaL thing.. its Kindda hard to percept and understand that cud lead weaknesses in each individuality...

safe way in saying,Pain is inevitable therefore I don't want to avoid it but I am not inviting it, as weLL.

Its a matter of time.. A matter of each situation per understanding and acceptance.

Your welcome. It is always been a good thing to share thoughts and ideas, in this way it will honed our insights and outlooks in life. Yep, you're exactly right, some things are harder to do than said.
Pain is just a result of our own actions and inactions.

As what they say, time will tell. And do include each others perspective, perception, belief in life.

Oh not in a decreasing stage,my friend.. Its a matter of understanding to a friend to the lifestyle they had... Dont worry, we still do keep iN touch. Ive seen them as a JEWELS and not pebbles in the sand... It just that.. Id learned to be independent especially in a Dynamic status here in life.

Our life is not static one but its changing every seconds it is ticking.. I just observed that no matter how important and u needed someone for a reason.. a reason will keep u understand for the reality that we had....so learning and accept them.. from their ugliness, wisdom, mistakes, smiles, cries, strengths and weaknesses they shared from me.
From the imperfect person we cared and tangled and yet it functions NORMALLY in a crazy thing that we called "relationship" maybe it be in friends, family,co workers, acquaintance,lovers,enemy and to the person u just know and yet u never meet in a virtual box.


Just my observation and some experienced to the said thoughts.

Sorry I stand corrected.
It is truly a matter of understanding within the group. Lucky your friends are, because they have a friend who see's a diamond from a coal.

Hmm.. very well said. Life can also be likened to a clock, every second we waste is a second we can never have it back.
Acceptance is very vital aspect in our life. We must and will have to practice this throughout of our lives in order to lessen pain and agony.

As for this, I see a better YOU as you trudge along the road of a never-ending journey.
Peers greet you wither and tither and it doesn't matter even they are from a cyber world.

-Cheers

[Peenut]

:2thumbsup: for you TS! super like! and i dooooooo i agree with all of it

Thank you for the appreciation.

Just don't get a "bond" to get broken, if you do it will never be the same and stronger than before.

[tingting]

nice one...hehehehe

[Peenut]

nice one...hehehehe

Thank you...

Keep your circle of friends stronger.

[Peenut]

This is easy to say but when ur already in ActUaL thing.. its Kindda hard to percept and understand that cud lead weaknesses in each individuality...

I agree..

For me, I could easily speak for others, but sadly a little bit hard for myself.