Ask me any question about relationships

[Soul Doctor]

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soul doc, naa koy question, you want a serious relationship, but gisugot nimo ang taw dayon kay pareho mo nagkagustoay. is there something wrong with that? is there a "right" and "wrong" time in saying yes to a guy? naa ba jud kailangan nga time frame before sugton ang usa ka guy, esp when you want a serious one?

Ok ra nang gisugot nimo.
Pero ayaw sugot sa tanan niyang gusto.

Every man and woman magkagustoay, its just a natural physical attraction.
But if you are looking for a serious relationship.
Ask your self if you are ready for one.
Are you financially stable?
Are you mentally and emotionally stable? basin bag-o lang ka nakigbreak sa imong ex.
Are you physically ready? basin bata pa kaayo ka?
Are you spiritually ready? sakto na ba ka sa values? wala ba kay mga bisyo?
These are the important things you have to consider before you go into a serious relationship.

Unless you are using you own trial and error method.
You should think hard before you go into a relationship.
This is why couples end up in painful breakups, they get into a relationship too fast.

[disomniac]

here is mine...

ive jus recently been in a pseudo relationship and let us say that we just had light benefits...
she is currently in a relationship wit a lesbian..
we are so close and we often see each other...now i fell in love wit her ,ventured deeper and recently i realized that am just provoking more pain hurt and suffering and i had to endure it everytime were together and the worst i dont have the right t show it to her..

she was always been the most private most sensitive type of a woman that i ever met..

i decided to deattach myself from this so relationship by making her hate me (breaking her trust invading privacy) to the extent that she no longer want to talk or even see my face again coz dli na nako makaya ang kasakit bug at na man, hu-ot na man gkapoi nako magsakit...

but little did i know na it does hurt and it does really hurt big time than those times that we are still together as friends... im badly hurt , devastated ,confused unsettled and in dire pain..


now what should be the best thing to do?...make up and try to regain our friendship? or just leave it as it is and move on..


so confused and dint know what to do ,..need help /advice or whatever...

[anjerika]

Stop thinking about love.
It is just an abstract commodity used to sell just about everything.
From soap to cosmetics, from magazines to movies.
That's the business of love.

Think of your self and the relationships you are having with every aspects of your life--
and do not just think of romantic relationship.

You only think about love when you are ready to love and marry a person.
But if you are not ready, why think about it?

the universe will assign the right person for you to love and he will love you too.
but he will come at the right time.
At the time when you are both ready.
Just be on the look out as soon as you are ready.
This means being ready financially, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

so meaning kanang mga nag uyab2 karon esp. mga batan-on joke joke ra diay na? ehehehe aw

[Soul Doctor]

here is mine...

ive jus recently been in a pseudo relationship and let us say that we just had light benefits...
she is currently in a relationship wit a lesbian..
we are so close and we often see each other...now i fell in love wit her ,ventured deeper and recently i realized that am just provoking more pain hurt and suffering and i had to endure it everytime were together and the worst i dont have the right t show it to her..

she was always been the most private most sensitive type of a woman that i ever met..

i decided to deattach myself from this so relationship by making her hate me (breaking her trust invading privacy) to the extent that she no longer want to talk or even see my face again coz dli na nako makaya ang kasakit bug at na man, hu-ot na man gkapoi nako magsakit...

but little did i know na it does hurt and it does really hurt big time than those times that we are still together as friends... im badly hurt , devastated ,confused unsettled and in dire pain..


now what should be the best thing to do?...make up and try to regain our friendship? or just leave it as it is and move on..


so confused and dint know what to do ,..need help /advice or whatever...

pain is a good thing.
pain teaches you one thing.
that something in the way you think is wrong.
you expect one thing and another thing happened.

embrace pain and learn from it.

she has a relationship with a lesbian.
that should tell you something about her.
im not here to judge her or anybody else.
someone who have a relationship with the same *** has some issues.
would you have a relationship with a gay guy?

your pain is telling you that it is wrong to love her.

one of my worker has this live-in partner.
She used to have a lesbian girlfriend.
They split and she become the girlfriend of my worker.
she got pregnant and they lived together.

Now the kid is 2 years old.
She still text her lesbian girlfriend.
she accuses my worker of playing around,
but this worker is so buotan that it becomes funny when you accuse him of any bad doing.

It turns out that the lesbian has been giving her alahas and money.
now my worker is being cursed and insulted and is very stressed with her.
he is absent from work from time to time.
apparently he is the last to know that when my worker go to work,
the lesbian goes to their house and visit her.

I told my worker, is your girlfriend/ live-in partner wearing fancy underwear?
he was surprised why i asked him that.
i told him, she would not wear sexy underwear when he is around right?
he said yes "busloton pa gani usahay".
pero nganu kung molakaw siya magpasexy man siyag bra ug panty?

i really pity my worker.
imagine this thing happening to you in the future.

Just move on man.

[disomniac]

pain is a good thing.
pain teaches you one thing.
that something in the way you think is wrong.
you expect one thing and another thing happened.

embrace pain and learn from it.

she has a relationship with a lesbian.
that should tell you something about her.
im not here to judge her or anybody else.
someone who have a relationship with the same *** has some issues.
would you have a relationship with a gay guy?

your pain is telling you that it is wrong to love her.

one of my worker has this live-in partner.
She used to have a lesbian girlfriend.
They split and she become the girlfriend of my worker.
she got pregnant and they lived together.

Now the kid is 2 years old.
She still text her lesbian girlfriend.
she accuses my worker of playing around,
but this worker is so buotan that it becomes funny when you accuse him of any bad doing.

It turns out that the lesbian has been giving her alahas and money.
now my worker is being cursed and insulted and is very stressed with her.
he is absent from work from time to time.
apparently he is the last to know that when my worker go to work,
the lesbian goes to their house and visit her.

I told my worker, is your girlfriend/ live-in partner wearing fancy underwear?
he was surprised why i asked him that.
i told him, she would not wear sexy underwear when he is around right?
he said yes "busloton pa gani usahay".
pero nganu kung molakaw siya magpasexy man siyag bra ug panty?

i really pity my worker.
imagine this thing happening to you in the future.

Just move on man.

glad am on the right track...

thanks much!!! that eases me a bit...

[Soul Doctor]

so meaning kanang mga nag uyab2 karon esp. mga batan-on joke joke ra diay na? ehehehe aw

they have their reasons.
lust, puberty, hormones, curiousity, etc.
but they justify it with love.
blame it all on love.
that is because they are still irresponsible.

although they were programmed to "fall in love"
by TVnobelas, romantic pocketbooks and romance movies and magazines.
And they were pressured into it by their peers, too.

we all know it would not last and it is all not that real.
its a real mistake though when they got themselves pregnant.

[anjerika]

*HOT SEAT*


soul doc, unsa imong business? hehehe
did u happen to have a cinderella love story? i mean, you are the prince and your wife is cinderella?

[Soul Doctor]

*HOT SEAT*


soul doc, unsa imong business? hehehe
did u happen to have a cinderella love story? i mean, you are the prince and your wife is cinderella?

No.
I was in need of someone then.
I came from a broken family.
When my mother remarried, I live alone on a small nipa house across my mother's house.
I worked in our own company and this is where i meet my wife.

i was impressed by the way she organized her time and money.

i said to myself, she is the type of girl i would marry.
because i know i will never have financial problem with that type of person.

she is intellectually compatible with me.
we play chess, scrabble, piano, play guitar together.
we have fun in just everything we do.
we both sing good.

although she already have an ariel rivera look alike boyfriend--who is also my friend,
but i know he is just playing around with every girls.
so i said to my friend.
bro balato mo na lang sa akin itong isa.
ok rin naman siya.

everything was great except that i did not know how important it is to know your in-laws first.
we got married and i went into poultry business.
then everything went crazy when i lost my poultry business to bagyong ruping.
they insult me when i do not have money to give them.
they say in your face that they regretted having me as their in-laws.
it was hell.
and to think that they were very happy before
everytime you bring them 5 kilos of dressed chicken on weekends.

in short they were materialistic bunch of people
and they tried to break us apart so their daughter can remarry a foreigner.

cinderella maybe, because i have a very wicked mother in law.
but thats reality. you decide your own ending.

[anjerika]

No.
I was in need of someone then.
I came from a broken family.
When my mother remarried, I live alone on a small nipa house across my mother's house.
I worked in our own company and this is where i meet my wife.

i was impressed by the way she organized her time and money.

i said to myself, she is the type of girl i would marry.
because i know i will never have financial problem with that type of person.

she is intellectually compatible with me.
we play chess, scrabble, piano, play guitar together.
we have fun in just everything we do.
we both sing good.

although she already have an ariel rivera look alike boyfriend--who is also my friend,
but i know he is just playing around with every girls.
so i said to my friend.
bro balato mo na lang sa akin itong isa.
ok rin naman siya.

everything was great except that i did not know how important it is to know your in-laws first.
we got married and i went into poultry business.
then everything went crazy when i lost my poultry business to bagyong ruping.
they insult me when i do not have money to give them.
they say in your face that they regretted having me as their in-laws.
it was hell.
and to think that they were very happy before
everytime you bring them 5 kilos of dressed chicken on weekends.

in short they were materialistic bunch of people
and they tried to break us apart so their daughter can remarry a foreigner.

cinderella maybe, because i have a very wicked mother in law.
but thats reality. you decide your own ending.

grabeha no, hehehe. cinderella jud. but no problem with that. if you have knew about your in-laws first, could you have had second thoughts about marrying your current wife?

[miakka070]

Doc...

naa koy gf before.... nagkabuwag mi ( walay tarong break-up).... ni ask ko ug time na makig kita nya para makig estorya... then nisugot sya... my question is..

1. love paba kaha ko niya?
2. naa pay chance na magkabalik mi? ( sige sya ug sulti na break na daw mi... pero iya mga friends cge ug ingon nako cge daw siya ug hilak... ganahan siya na magbalik mi...)
3. unsa man ako buhaton...love sad japon nako siya.

please... hope to read ur reply..

o ui..love jud kah pa niya..sahai gd ang girls lahi ang true feelings sa gpakita nga moves..maybe she's still messing up with her mind. dghan factors ui. try to recnsider..evntually if ur both meant to be bck in ich other's arms it wud happen.. but infairness to her..it myt also be..she has a guilt feelings she's done to u but cnt tell u mao buwag nlng last option for the betterment of u two.