Tambagi daw ko..my gf posted a msg to her ex sa facebook.

[T0xic]

mao na! pahamak ning facebook!

[esprugodoys]

tsk tsk tsk bai mao gihapon ang imo reason nanu nag cool off mo? tungod lang anang GAMAY na incident?

gosh.. ok just want to point out a few things na imo gi ingon in the previous posts

"I can't be the one to always adjust her and her 'showy' attitude" - dude.. its not a matter of "inhihapay".. one important thing about keeping a long term relationship is consistency.. yes it always has to be one or another to accept the other one's faults.. if you really and truly love a person.. you will not change them but accept them for who they are and who they are not.. accept her na ana jud siya pag ka tao.. she will always be that way and you cant expect people to change just because you ask them and you think its the right thing to do.. accept them for who they are not, as mentioned earlier you can never change a person.. a camel can be lead to the river but you cant expect the camel to drink..

"although in her mind she would say there's nothing wrong with it and its just her lang jud" - if there is one thing that i learned, it is that every one IN THEIR MIND is right.. you think it is right not to contact previous ex's.. people think it is right to do the contrary.. everyone is right.. no one is wrong.. tell me... who determines what is right or wrong? morality? society? or you? my point is not everyone will share the same ideals and principals as you..

"but after all the things she had done.. could i really eat up everything and just move on as if nothing happens..?"

Oh God.. what did she do? well from what i heard from this thread.. she sad hi, musta, and added her ex's facebook right infront of you.. ohhhhhh my gosh! its the end of the world! NOT.. so what? you are just putting meaning into something that could mean totally nothing.. try to separate reality and what your mind has conjured up for a second.. she says hi to an ex.. rephrased she says hi to a guy.. asks him how he is, and add him as a friend.. thats all that happened.. if you just take a step back and see things for what they are, that is all that happened.. but you had to go and make up stories in your mind na naa pa daw siya feelings for him or something.. with that mindset no wonder you are doing what you are doing now.. and calling other guys imal? so? once again you are making up stories in your head that she is attracted to other men.. hey my dad used to tell me (when he was alive God bless his soul) that "look jiim a sexy girl" but he was always a good father and diha ra jud to kutob.. bawal ba mag admire ng beauty?

"the pride in me as a guy is crawling inside me throat.. and its very hard to swallow it back again...." "I AM THE ONE WHO GOT HURT and MY PRIDE/EGO got HURT in the process as well..." - Oh God this makes me want to throw up... pride? PRIDE??!!!!! to hell with your pride.. what use is a mans pride? whenever a man fights for his pride everybody else in his inner circle gets hurt.. ever wonder why pride is one of the 7 capital sins? coz all it ever brought to anyone is personal satisfaction and others only pain and suffering.. it is because of pride that people become closed minded to other ideas that can be more beneficial to them. it is because of pride that men can justify their actions and women can not (which is TOTALLY unfair) and it is because of pride that ultimately this world is broken apart. so il say it again to hell with your pride.. it is useless and only brings you personal gain and neglecting other people.

open your eyes and see the bigger picture. its not all about you and what you think is right.. and HELL NO its not about pride.. oh and i wont give advice.. because it will be like telling you.. i am right and you are wrong

wow some nerves eh....
did you even gave the TS the benefit of the doubt why he is having that kind of behavior?
i bet you already have heard and known Master Yoda, right?
came across with this lines? "Fear leads to anger, Anger leads to hate, Hate leads to Suffering"
and here's my question, can you now see where the thing called "PRIDE!!!!" (as how you express it in your post) came from?
you cant make every man of your own, same skin, skin attitude, etc.. that is what makes our lives unique.
Bible inscribed it as MORTAL SIN but who are we sinners to be blamed if some events lead us to creating such SIN in ourselves?

if you were in a situation just like with TS, would you not wonder WHY she did that?? (?)
the gf's response was not even ENOUGH to clear the clouds in TS's head.. "WALA RA MAN TO"
doesnt it make us look dumb when we do something without even knowing why we are doing it...
how will TS understand the whole act if that is how gf responds? and we all know that flames doesn't just blaze by itself... there is always that ignites it.

yes its true.. if we truly love our partners we accept them for who they are but IT IS NOT an excuse to make yourself look stupid and spoil your partner all the way. maybe in bf/gf relationships it will but long term? i dont think so... we are noooo00000 superman not to feel being abused at some point in our lives too. that's one reason why some hubby/wifey/bf/gf cheat.. it is not mature enough to accept it even if it is that obvious that one has done something wrong...

to TS:

bro i can sense your paranoia on it.. piece of advise?
ask yourself..... how far will you go with TRUST to your gf?
TRUST is a gamble.... take it that way. risks are inevitable yet it is there and you have to take it if you really love her that much. jimmy is right about acceptance but everything has it limitations.. set the boundaries... know yourself more then show to your gf who you really are... and so does your gf. that is 1 way to build up consistency and comfort zones in the relationship.

my tip, you can never tell if the book holds a great story unless you open up the pages yourself and read it.

[tessF]

ok ra mana TS basin nahan lang sya makabalo unsa na iyaha ex.. it doesnt mean na gusto sya makig balik ..limti nalng to..

[jeff_bonz59]

thanks for all who have advised me on my thread.. there's no right and wrong advises... the best advise are the ones I take it jud, conscience wise...

THANKS TO EVERYBODY HERE.....

[treize]

thanks for all who have advised me on my thread.. there's no right and wrong advises... the best advise are the ones I take it jud, conscience wise...

THANKS TO EVERYBODY HERE.....

bro basin magmahay ka wa nimo gi take akong advice... kinasing kasing raba kaayo to nakong pagtambag... wahehehehe...

[ReconGunny]

one thing is for sure is to take a seat and talk it over as dagko na mga tawo... you might wanna ask her if naka get over na ba gyud sya, it happened to me na pre, nga na rekindle ang flame sa iya ex because of the what ifs nga naa pa sa iya mind... sakto ang girl cge ug make effort nga manawag siya of course kay kbaw man pud siya nasayop sya... dili man sa ingon nga panakip lang ka. but think out of the box, consider the scenarios, its ok to be paranoid sometimes... it would save your life.. heheheh!! talk it over...

[darkphoenix777]

naa man gyuy uban dili pa ka-move on totally. ang buhaton ra sa laki ana kay i-win ang babae. kung naa man gyud tuod toy nabilin pa nga nabati ang babae, tabangan nimo ug pa-wa ug pulihan nimo. kung mao puy gusto sa babae. ingn man siya nga wala ra to so pasabot ganahan siya nga makalimtan pud ang laki. wa lang niya malikayi nga mangumusta kay naa pa lagi nabilin nga pagbati. basin ikaw pud bai, insecure sa ex. kung wa ka na-insecure, pasagdi to uy. confident mn kaha ka nga mas ok ka kaysa sa ex. i-win anng babae.

[eilrach]

bai.. naa ra jud na nimo bai kung unsa imo decision.. lain2x man jud ug opinion kada taw.. kabantay bitaw ka sa uban girls, mo ingon nga wala ra jud to.. naa sad mo ingon nga ok ra to.. wala ra daw to nila.. same with the guys.. naa uban mo ingon OK ra, ang uban sad dili... ikaw man nakaila sa imo gf, so ikaw ra jud maka weigh aning butanga..

sa ako lang opinion noh, kay ni explain naman jud si gf nga mao ni, mao na.. blah blah blah.. maybe wala ra jud to,.. tagae cya 2nd chance,.. karon nga nakabalo na cya nga ingon ana imo reaction sa iya g.buhat, dapat dili na jud ni mahitabo pag usab.. kung mahitabo man gani gihapon, kana lain na jud na.. PERO, kung iya na ni nahimo nimo sauna, then same ang imo reaction sa iyang gihimo before, kana lain na jud na.. matawag na jud na nimo nga wala respect ang imo gf nimo...

hope magka talk mo about ani bai.. gamay ra ni nga problema para sa uban, pero sa uban sad, daku na kaau ni nga issue...so, goodluck nalang jud ninyo... -thanks

[classicrock]

kung ang girl dli na jud ganahan sa iya X nganu mag msg.2x pamn sa FB oi.. ka hasul ba aning mga girls.. hehehe..

[lalee]

@ts: okey na mo run sa imo gf? nisorry na bitaw sya... accept it nalang

communicate always lng jud para mastoryaan mga probs