Tambagi daw ko..my gf posted a msg to her ex sa facebook.

[amnesia]

i know you got hurt and its easily understandable why... exactly why you should both have TIME to really think about where your relationship is heading... its high time you let your gf REALIZE your worth as a person coz from what you're saying it seems like she doesn't really care that much.. But don't be too hard on her pud If you can see that she is indeed repentant and is quite willing to change, then.. compromise, why make things hard? everyone makes mistakes and there's always room for improvement at least now whe would know her limits...

as of now, you are too hurt to make rational decisions... so, try not to do something which you might just end up regretting....

[jeff_bonz59]

@amnesia...thanks for the advice.. highly appreciated jud..

[jimmy128]

tsk tsk tsk bai mao gihapon ang imo reason nanu nag cool off mo? tungod lang anang GAMAY na incident?

gosh.. ok just want to point out a few things na imo gi ingon in the previous posts

"I can't be the one to always adjust her and her 'showy' attitude" - dude.. its not a matter of "inhihapay".. one important thing about keeping a long term relationship is consistency.. yes it always has to be one or another to accept the other one's faults.. if you really and truly love a person.. you will not change them but accept them for who they are and who they are not.. accept her na ana jud siya pag ka tao.. she will always be that way and you cant expect people to change just because you ask them and you think its the right thing to do.. accept them for who they are not, as mentioned earlier you can never change a person.. a camel can be lead to the river but you cant expect the camel to drink..

"although in her mind she would say there's nothing wrong with it and its just her lang jud" - if there is one thing that i learned, it is that every one IN THEIR MIND is right.. you think it is right not to contact previous ex's.. people think it is right to do the contrary.. everyone is right.. no one is wrong.. tell me... who determines what is right or wrong? morality? society? or you? my point is not everyone will share the same ideals and principals as you..

"but after all the things she had done.. could i really eat up everything and just move on as if nothing happens..?"

Oh God.. what did she do? well from what i heard from this thread.. she sad hi, musta, and added her ex's facebook right infront of you.. ohhhhhh my gosh! its the end of the world! NOT.. so what? you are just putting meaning into something that could mean totally nothing.. try to separate reality and what your mind has conjured up for a second.. she says hi to an ex.. rephrased she says hi to a guy.. asks him how he is, and add him as a friend.. thats all that happened.. if you just take a step back and see things for what they are, that is all that happened.. but you had to go and make up stories in your mind na naa pa daw siya feelings for him or something.. with that mindset no wonder you are doing what you are doing now.. and calling other guys imal? so? once again you are making up stories in your head that she is attracted to other men.. hey my dad used to tell me (when he was alive God bless his soul) that "look jiim a sexy girl" but he was always a good father and diha ra jud to kutob.. bawal ba mag admire ng beauty?

"the pride in me as a guy is crawling inside me throat.. and its very hard to swallow it back again...." "I AM THE ONE WHO GOT HURT and MY PRIDE/EGO got HURT in the process as well..." - Oh God this makes me want to throw up... pride? PRIDE??!!!!! to hell with your pride.. what use is a mans pride? whenever a man fights for his pride everybody else in his inner circle gets hurt.. ever wonder why pride is one of the 7 capital sins? coz all it ever brought to anyone is personal satisfaction and others only pain and suffering.. it is because of pride that people become closed minded to other ideas that can be more beneficial to them. it is because of pride that men can justify their actions and women can not (which is TOTALLY unfair) and it is because of pride that ultimately this world is broken apart. so il say it again to hell with your pride.. it is useless and only brings you personal gain and neglecting other people.

open your eyes and see the bigger picture. its not all about you and what you think is right.. and HELL NO its not about pride.. oh and i wont give advice.. because it will be like telling you.. i am right and you are wrong

[ryeaka]

Hi Jeff... again as I've mentioned in my post earlier.... dili man ikaw ang sakto dili sad ang girl... but it boils down to her "intention(s)" when she sent that msg to her ex or when she says IMAL to hot looking guys .... but if she says her intentions are not meant to willfully hurt you... then that's fine... but we have to accept the fact that what's okay for me may not be okay for you or vice-versa... (One man's food is another man's poison...) that's what we call INDIVIDUALITY and that's what we always think when my bf and I disagree over some things... we're different people, we think differently, we have different preferences over a lot of things... but we learn to always compromise.. if you love each other... that's what you should do.. if wala man gud mo compromise ninyo then.. diha ang danger.. lagi nag cool off mo so you can let her learn a lesson that she is wrong gyud... but what if iyaha gyud na nature nga vocal kaau siya about things and being KEBS then that's her... because she will keep on doing it again in the future... it's either you accept her or she accepts you... if she gives way to your thinking that what she did was wrong and will never do such again then good for the you... if she doesn't hmm i don't know .. it's up to you if you're willing to give in to her way of thinking...

salute ko nimo babykai... depende jud sa individual... kay dili man tanan guys pareho ni jeff ka possessive... i openly tell my partner about how a guy looks like.. mokatawa ra sya... mo-ana pa gai ko gwapo ai... or imal... no comment sya but wala man namo nahimo away... nya exes nako, magtext pa man gai mi until now nga married nako... wala sad sya problem ana... ang iya lang jud i know my limitations... i know some of you may not believe nga nagcommunicate mi sa akong exes... basta mao na tinuod.. wa man sya problem ana.. and naa mi rules even kato uyab pa mi (he's the one who set this rule ha?) nga walay mangubi ug CP... dili mi mamasa ug messages sa cellphone.. di sad mi mangutingkay sa di namo pitaka... privacy, that's what we call it... but if magtext mi or naa mi tawagan we never hide it man sad... nanu ingon ana amo relationship? kay we talk things out... walay magpataka ug kasuko... storyahan ang dapat storyahan ana nga day di na paugmaan... di pagminyo namo, nadala namo na nga values sa relationship...

[ryeaka]

i dont commu with my ex.. bsag naa pa koy fb nya or cp# nya.. i dont rightly add her up or txt her...for me.. the bridge has been burn long time ago.. i dont like to build it again...what blows the top off me is that why she can rightly add her ex and send a message to him at my expense of seeing it... murag g.take for granted ta ka as if your presence is not even there....

hehehe... but then again, we are INDIVIDUALs... unique man ta... you may think that way but for her di man... but storyahan jud na ninyo TS... luoy sad ang girl...

its easy for others to have your hubby see your exes... but at least.. your his wife na.. your TIE the KNOT already... gf/bf..? there's a thin thread only linking that can be loosen or tighten depende sa situation... and that situation is the one im presenting here...im just worried her ex might respond to her 'Musta' mssg... and a whole other conversation might ensue between them na.. w/o my knowledge anymore...mura btaw ug kawatan nga nasakpan.. sa sunod.. d na na magpasakop na jud... THAT worries me more..

mmmm.... sa amoa, nanguyab palang sya hangtod nagkauyab mi hangtod naminyo mi, he knows nga nagcommunicate pa mi sa akong exes... i really dont see anything wrong with it... 2 of my exes are even married but we still communicate... and friends mi sa ila wives... 2 of them sad naa steady GFs... kaila sa ila GFs nako...

but then again, lahi man ka... you should tell your GF nga di ka gahan mausab... nga dapat ingon ani ingon ana... but if di siya mosugot ana nga condition, diha na mo pagdecide if kelangan naba ninyo istop... kay kung irestrict sad nimo siya sa iya naandan, ang tendency, mamakak na sya nimo... tago2x na niya buhaton... which i think samot nga di ka gahan...

[pretty_jasmine]

its easy for others to have your hubby see your exes... but at least.. your his wife na.. your TIE the KNOT already... gf/bf..? there's a thin thread only linking that can be loosen or tighten depende sa situation... and that situation is the one im presenting here...im just worried her ex might respond to her 'Musta' mssg... and a whole other conversation might ensue between them na.. w/o my knowledge anymore...mura btaw ug kawatan nga nasakpan.. sa sunod.. d na na magpasakop na jud... THAT worries me more..

but she already told you the ex is already married.. so there's nothing to worry na TS.. relax...the reason pod na we ended up marrying our partners s bec kato uyab2x pa mi, we always talk and compromise.. we don't let pride do some damage on our relationship.. we don't let negative ideas ruin our rel.. ang trust sa mag asawa mo start na while uyab pa...

[pretty_jasmine]

tsk tsk tsk bai mao gihapon ang imo reason nanu nag cool off mo? tungod lang anang GAMAY na incident?

gosh.. ok just want to point out a few things na imo gi ingon in the previous posts

"I can't be the one to always adjust her and her 'showy' attitude" - dude.. its not a matter of "inhihapay".. one important thing about keeping a long term relationship is consistency.. yes it always has to be one or another to accept the other one's faults.. if you really and truly love a person.. you will not change them but accept them for who they are and who they are not.. accept her na ana jud siya pag ka tao.. she will always be that way and you cant expect people to change just because you ask them and you think its the right thing to do.. accept them for who they are not, as mentioned earlier you can never change a person.. a camel can be lead to the river but you cant expect the camel to drink..

"although in her mind she would say there's nothing wrong with it and its just her lang jud" - if there is one thing that i learned, it is that every one IN THEIR MIND is right.. you think it is right not to contact previous ex's.. people think it is right to do the contrary.. everyone is right.. no one is wrong.. tell me... who determines what is right or wrong? morality? society? or you? my point is not everyone will share the same ideals and principals as you..

"but after all the things she had done.. could i really eat up everything and just move on as if nothing happens..?"

Oh God.. what did she do? well from what i heard from this thread.. she sad hi, musta, and added her ex's facebook right infront of you.. ohhhhhh my gosh! its the end of the world! NOT.. so what? you are just putting meaning into something that could mean totally nothing.. try to separate reality and what your mind has conjured up for a second.. she says hi to an ex.. rephrased she says hi to a guy.. asks him how he is, and add him as a friend.. thats all that happened.. if you just take a step back and see things for what they are, that is all that happened.. but you had to go and make up stories in your mind na naa pa daw siya feelings for him or something.. with that mindset no wonder you are doing what you are doing now.. and calling other guys imal? so? once again you are making up stories in your head that she is attracted to other men.. hey my dad used to tell me (when he was alive God bless his soul) that "look jiim a sexy girl" but he was always a good father and diha ra jud to kutob.. bawal ba mag admire ng beauty?

"the pride in me as a guy is crawling inside me throat.. and its very hard to swallow it back again...." "I AM THE ONE WHO GOT HURT and MY PRIDE/EGO got HURT in the process as well..." - Oh God this makes me want to throw up... pride? PRIDE??!!!!! to hell with your pride.. what use is a mans pride? whenever a man fights for his pride everybody else in his inner circle gets hurt.. ever wonder why pride is one of the 7 capital sins? coz all it ever brought to anyone is personal satisfaction and others only pain and suffering.. it is because of pride that people become closed minded to other ideas that can be more beneficial to them. it is because of pride that men can justify their actions and women can not (which is TOTALLY unfair) and it is because of pride that ultimately this world is broken apart. so il say it again to hell with your pride.. it is useless and only brings you personal gain and neglecting other people.

open your eyes and see the bigger picture. its not all about you and what you think is right.. and HELL NO its not about pride.. oh and i wont give advice.. because it will be like telling you.. i am right and you are wrong

agree ko nimo bro.. ang pride ra jud ni TS ang nagpa dako ug samot sa ilaha away... gudluck jeff. i hope ma settle na nmo ni...

[camzywinsy]

she didn't mean to hurt you.. look at the brighter side...

She didn't do it secretly. Iya gani gibuhat na naa ka kay wa lang jud cguro to niya sa tinuod lang.

[treize]

TS: undangi nang bisyoha... naa pa gyud nay feelings ang babaye sa iyang ex, siya gud ang ni initiate og contact.. then kuyog pa gyud mo, ka way puangod.. even if mo ingon pa siya nga wa ra to niya then she's too dumb if she didnt know that it would actually hurt your feelings.. undangi nalang na.. ikaw ray mag-antos...

[A.D.H.D.]

hmmmm.... nalingaw ko ug basa ani nga thread... TS, how are you with your girlfriend nah? still in Cool off mode? nagbuwag na? or nagbalik nah?

For one, nganu man d.i ug gi add niya ang iyang ex sa FB? basin ug wala lang jud to para niya kay gibuhat mn niya in front nmu... if lain pa ang iyang intention atoh, brad, dili jud na mgpakita ug ebidens... if ganahan xa lumpungon mu duha, nganu iya pa mn ka pakit-on. Kung ang lalaki magdinaghan ug uyab ipa obvious d.i nah? diba dli? same thing sad na sa babaye...

The key there is you talk it over. openminded ug kalmado. If salig ka sa imung girlfriend, you would believe her. But if whatever she says ky doubtful ka, then the problem starts..

Two, nganu man d.i ug mu comment xa nga naay gwapo? lingi mn gani mu ug naay gwapa maski kuyog nnyo inyong girlfriend, nya pa simple lang... ang problema lang kay vocal xa, pero db pareho ra mn nah? ok ra kung buhaton sa laki pero kung babaye ky big deal? if mu comment xa ug ningana, nya ni ingon xa nga wala ra jud na niya.. nya kung ikaw gani ky mu comment about isa ka girl nya grabeh xa mu react, that's not good. Kay dapat unta ok ra sad na para niya ky usual mn jud na sa usa ka tawo.. pareha ra na sa kung pranka ang isa ka tawo expected nga kung prankahan xa, dli xa malain... If wala ka kauyon, let her know nga dli ka gnahan ana (pareha advise sa uban dri nga thread).

Hmmm, wala d.i ka ka observe ani nga batasan (pagka vocal sa imung uyab) katong imu pa xa gi court?

basin naa lang jud kay gipangtaguan nga mga hinigutgut dra nya last straw lang toh iyang gibuhat sa internet..

u know, even if uyab na mu, learning the person you're with is always there, even gani sa minyo nah. Basin karun ra nggawas ang inyong tagsa2x nga batasan bah... nya na shock ka. Nag-effort xa ug ask ug sorry, so meaning u mean something to her and you could start from there. A very good conversation could help you clear things out. Grabeh mn sad nang imung gi mention nga pride2x wui... mura mn sad ug gi duha mu sa imung uyab....or nabuntis xa sa lain nga laki.... although we see your point nga malain xa, dili mn sad guro enaf reason nga mgsulti ka about pride sa katong iyang gibuhat.