single moms, single dads

[yvonne6]

sa mga single parents, usahay makakita man gihapon ta ug ka relasyon inspite nga naa na tay mga anak daan. based on my personal experience, dili gyud tanan stepfather/stepmother to be, maau mo treat sa anak sa laing taw. personally, wala pa hinuon ko makasulay ug bf nga naa nay anak daan. sa mga single parents, how is the relationship between ur kids and your gf/bf? unsay reaction sa imong mga anak towards sa imong bf/gf? kamong mga anak nga dagku na, do u like ur mom/dad's bf/gf? share ur reactions here

[chik_08]

nindot ni imu discussion dah... but no idea jud q...

[redman69]

I am divorced but wed in the church so always married there. But legaly I am single. I have two daughters who are teenagers and cause me alot of growing pains. I want to have someone in my life.
Yet, When I met a girl my daughter said she just wants the house Dad. I asked her who told you that. Her answer was MOM. It is hard. But these are choices we have made not them. You still have to love and live for them. And maybe find happiness with someone else. But it is very complicated with the church, children, family.

[d`monyita]

@redman - well a solution to the "house" issue would be the guaranteeing of the ownership of the house to go to your two daughters. and that if and when you marry again, you will not deprive them of the house they grew up in. that should shut your ex wife for a while lol.

[yvonne6]

i myself was a product of a broken marriage from my parents to myself. lisud gyud. when my dad married another woman, he was so inlove with that bitch that he wont even listen to what we will say thinking nga amo rang gidautan ang girl. then the time came, after 13 years, the girl had so much money from my dad na because my dad was working abroad, she left my dad will all their savings. that time, ni ana ko sa akong dad, unsa man? tuo naka karon? its all too late for him. karon, ang girl datu na kaau, tua sa states, head nurse na. when she was still with my dad, ni eskwela siya balik ug nursing. my dad was so bilib nga she was doing it for them, for her ra diay. karon, akong dad, well, makakaon man ug katulo sa usa ka adlaw. ako lang advice sa mga single moms and dads, paminaw sad mo sa inyong mga anak. ayaw kaau i blind ang kaugalingon sa gugma. kung ang atong ka relasyon mobiya, ato gihapon mga anak ang mahabilin nato

[jhaness]

i myself was a product of a broken marriage from my parents to myself. lisud gyud. when my dad married another woman, he was so inlove with that bitch that he wont even listen to what we will say thinking nga amo rang gidautan ang girl. then the time came, after 13 years, the girl had so much money from my dad na because my dad was working abroad, she left my dad will all their savings. that time, ni ana ko sa akong dad, unsa man? tuo naka karon? its all too late for him. karon, ang girl datu na kaau, tua sa states, head nurse na. when she was still with my dad, ni eskwela siya balik ug nursing. my dad was so bilib nga she was doing it for them, for her ra diay. karon, akong dad, well, makakaon man ug katulo sa usa ka adlaw. ako lang advice sa mga single moms and dads, paminaw sad mo sa inyong mga anak. ayaw kaau i blind ang kaugalingon sa gugma. kung ang atong ka relasyon mobiya, ato gihapon mga anak ang mahabilin nato

i will remember that.. although don't have plans getting married.. i'm contented being with my child now..

[d`monyita]

it is funny though.... in my situation it is my son who wants me to get married so he can have siblings. toinks.

[redman69]

D, I have thought of doing that. But I have a mortage on the house and so I could not put it in a trust for the kids because they can not payments now. They are 15 & 17 and I want them to go to school. I will be finished with the payments in 7 years. I will also be 62 then and an old man. I and many like me try to do the best we can for the kids. But, all they see is their needs. They are not old enought to understand what they are asking for means for us their parents.

Thank you for the thoughts and idea's. RED

[d`monyita]

@Redman - Have you tried to sit down with them and have a good talk?

@yvonne - how sad naman what happened to you!

[redman69]

D, They are teenage girls. I talk till I am blue in the face. It's ok, I remember my parents saying the same to me.

Also you see the pain that Yvonne has now and probabaly for ever. I see that and say to myself my time has passed. I do not want them to go thru Yvonne's pain. Pero, my Dad is still alive at 81 so that is over 25 years from where I am. And you ask yourself what to do after the kids have moved on with their lives. That is why I feel as though I will just wait for them to be in college and then see what life brings my way.

Your advice about the house is right on. But, when you read Yvonne's story you see a whole different thing, and ask do I want my kids to feel like that? Do I want to end up like her Dad.

Your son wants more sibblings, does he think about how to send them to college? Does he think about school uniforms and books? Does he think about more space and medical bills? Do we expect him to see and worry about those things? Of course not. Yet we both think about those things. And our own happiness, where does it fit in. And we have to do the right thing by GOD. Yet we can still find many things to make us happy. Writting this now helps me clear my thoughts and reaffirm ideas. I hope you too.

Yvonne, pray for your father and stepmother. Give it to GOD.