How to survive, forget, recover and get over cheating and betrayal in a relationship

[Twinkz]

I've found out that my boyfriend/partner has been cheating on me and has been having an affair to someone else.
It's been 3 months already but til now i still feel the feelings of anger, pain, anxiety and depression though were already trying to work our relationship again. I want to hear something from you istoryans.... pls help me di ko gusto mwala xa nko after 2yrs and a half of relationship mahulog lng sa wla. maybe i was too jealous and nagger sometimes but i still keep on changing myself for a better me now.

ahm nakig-uyab-uyab jud sa lain?

unsa nga way na pang cheat?

or nakigclose ra sa lain...?

depende man sad gud na unsa ka bug-at hmmm pero still if kaya nimo og willing pa sya mo stay I mean siya jud mismo mohangyo na di mgbuwag...give chance and forgive. pero kong dili aw buwag nalang e divert imo hunahuna lain botang

[Arshen]

life is like that, it allows u to feel that ur alive by being hurt, i know it really hurts, ur love life seems to flow the way u dont like it to be, my advice is do things u never did before, njoy ur self, burst out to new you, love ur self more and ask guidance from God,, it would take time to forget but surely ull be healed

[Emzs]

permi lang gyud naay doubts ani. kay once naay mu cheat sa couple or ing ani nga sitwasyon lisud naman gud kaau ibalik and trust, and kahinanglan gyud ug Power of Love para ma recover ang trust.

[Moongoddess28]

sounds like ur blaming ur attitude thats y he cheated.
Please dont. When a person does an act, it mainly focuses on his DECISION.
Cheating was his decision. That doesnt mean its because ur this and that.

My x-BF moved on though--or MAYBE. HAHAHHAAHHA.

[Moongoddess28]

We already broke up 2 weeks ago because i found out he have gotten the girl pregnant. He asked my forgiveness and told me that no matter what will happen he still loves me...

I don't know how to describe or put into words how I feel at the moment. But you ever feel that no matter how many close friends you have or no matter how many past significant others or family members that have told you that they love you, you can't help but feel alone in the world? That's how I have felt the past few weeks since we broke up. I can not shake this feeling and it bugs the hell out of me.
i know its my fault coz i let myself trapped into this feelings of anger, bitterness and sometimes i even think about vengeance. I even forget how to practice embracing hope, forgiveness and joy. And i dont even know myself anymore. I hate this feelings but i cant help it. I already decided to let go resentments and thoughts of revenge as they betrayed me. I really want to untie myself from thoughts and feelings that bind me to the offense they committed against me. I want to focus to something positive so i can lessen the grip inside me. but its extremely difficult to overcome the pain they caused. I regret everything because of losing a valued relationship. maybe its because ive been too good and faithful to be treated this way. I knw God is always there and sees everything happened and i know someday, somehow i can surely overcome this pain. I am aware on the facts of the situation, how I've reacted, and how this betrayal affected my life, my health and my well-being. But I promised to myself and to all of you that I gonna throw all those wasted times holding memories that makes me blot out the joy of other life experiences and preventing me to appreciate all the good things and blissful life occurrences.

u know what? ur x guy is an ass.
he couldnt be f*cking wholes around the block and comin right at u with an empty 'I love you.'
Big-Ass-Liar.

Sis. Its normal. Ur feelings are normal. When we're tied down to trials and our weak points are tested,we all undergo into the process of DABDA. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. and finally, ACCEPTANCE. Sis, i have to remind you again that its not a process that u may go through overnyt. It takes time, let that sore heart heal in the natural course of time. Trust me. Ive been there. Although the x bf didnt impregnated someone else. (I just consider him...UNSTERILE, tho). ehheh!
You see, its not everyday that people feel like theyre 'human'..that theyre alive, that they have the tendency to bleed. That their soul is delicate and they need to take care of it. For me, undergoing DABDA is the main channel where I can assure myself that Im living the 'human' way. Im human, because I can feel things. I mourn and weep. I see things not everybody can. Not all people feel this way everyday. And youre blessed to undergo such process. Make sure that you're having progress everyday, though. You may cry once in a while, let your heart be washed from everything. But dont stay in the dirt for too long. Let us see that brighter new you.^^//

*Time runs the slowest, when our need is so great. Just ride along with it, though.*

Youll see in time, that all these heartaches have their reasons. ♥

[nitesky]

gurl, though its quite bad but it helps.... my mom told me this advice.... "alaot kaayo ka kay ikaw nag cgeg tama diha... samtang siya naa ngadto naglingaw2x sa iya uyab... maypa mangita ka imo lingaw kaysa magmokmok ka dha...."

in some point my mom was right... its ok if you'll weep over it but not too much.... learn to let go and find something that could divert your pain into something good... what i did was when i found out that my bf was cheating on me while i was pregnant (i only knew bout this circus just recently) i went away for a while, allowed my self to cry so so hard til im out of tears then i diverted the pain into something useful like i play with my daugther, or i bake or cook.... to keep my mind busy... slowly your gonna find yourself free of his pain.... ^_^ good luck!

[reginakrys]

hello.. i've been through a situation like yours before.. although wala cya ka-impregnate ug girl, he did admit to have had sexual relationships with a number of girls.. na-uyab mi for 3 years on and off.. i was really in love with him before, grabe ko ni-hold on.. we were "friends" for around 2 years after we broke up coz attached kaayo ko niya, naanad ko naa cya sa akong life.. but it wasn't a good relationship for me.. although naa cya, cge ra ko ka hurt..

We already broke up 2 weeks ago because i found out he have gotten the girl pregnant. He asked my forgiveness and told me that no matter what will happen he still loves me...

i can't tell you to believe him or not, i don't know sad if he means it or not.. but maybe it would be better nga let that statement pass lang, don't hold on to it, kay maybe it will keep your hopes up for nothing..

I don't know how to describe or put into words how I feel at the moment. But you ever feel that no matter how many close friends you have or no matter how many past significant others or family members that have told you that they love you, you can't help but feel alone in the world? That's how I have felt the past few weeks since we broke up. I can not shake this feeling and it bugs the hell out of me.

i felt like that sad before.. wala nako na-appreciate at that time ang fact that they were there for me when i needed company.. spend your time lang with them, it will help you forget.. but it takes time jud.. it's not easy..

i know its my fault coz i let myself trapped into this feelings of anger, bitterness and sometimes i even think about vengeance. I even forget how to practice embracing hope, forgiveness and joy. And i dont even know myself anymore. I hate this feelings but i cant help it. I already decided to let go resentments and thoughts of revenge as they betrayed me. I really want to untie myself from thoughts and feelings that bind me to the offense they committed against me. I want to focus to something positive so i can lessen the grip inside me. but its extremely difficult to overcome the pain they caused. I regret everything because of losing a valued relationship. maybe its because ive been too good and faithful to be treated this way.

girl, don't ever blame yourself for how you are.. it's definitely his loss nga wala niya na-appreciate ang imong faithfulness niya..

at this point, it's normal ra jud nga lisuran ka ug let go.. you've loved, and you've lost, of course it's difficult.. try lang to do activities that you used to enjoy so that ma-divert imong attention.. go out, shop, eat, watch movies, read books, write about your feelings if it helps you.. you will have to go through this day by day.. but there will come a time ra jud nga when you wake up, you've gotten over him na.. healing takes time, lots of time..

I knw God is always there and sees everything happened and i know someday, somehow i can surely overcome this pain. I am aware on the facts of the situation, how I've reacted, and how this betrayal affected my life, my health and my well-being. But I promised to myself and to all of you that I gonna throw all those wasted times holding memories that makes me blot out the joy of other life experiences and preventing me to appreciate all the good things and blissful life occurrences.

it's good nga you've held on to your faith.. God will help you through this, girl..

[baning]

if you think he deserves the chance then give it to him... but if you feel he is not worth it, then move on... ikaw ray maka decide for yourself... think of the best way na dili ka ma hurt ug samot...

[lynnkin_park85]

im broken coz the one i truly love already married to someone he really dont love.. nkasala xa sa babae while im away. working miles away for our future. and, now he confess that he really dont love that girl. napilitan daw xa bcoz of their baby as he said. he realizes that life isn't that normal since im gone. he still want me to live with for the rest of his life. But how? we just love each other but we have no ryt to pursue our relationship again as he is not free anymore. It's too sad when two hearts longing for each other but things have changed and theres no chance to continue the future we planned together. now im trying to live my life as it wasn't happened. i want to live my own life as he don't exist. but he asked me not to stop our communication.

[lynnkin_park85]

kalisud nlng jud... i really miss him...