what's your question?

[alexxx]

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Unsaon man nako nga sugton ko kung manguyab ko ug tomboy.

well simple... you should be someone that "tomboy" is looking for

[alexxx]

how will i explain to the blind man what's the color of the rainbow..? [mao bah..?]

you dont have to....blind men already know the colors of the rainbow

[deejjerjov]

..why things are so complicated...it doesnt flow the way we planned to be.

[alexxx]

..why things are so complicated...it doesnt flow the way we planned to be.

things becomes complicated when you refuse to accept or understand them. no matter what kind of explaination you require, unless you open your mind and heart to it you will never find understanding and acceptance. often times you consider things to be complicated when they doesn't work according to what you want or how you plan it to be.

plans fail because of wrong perceptions about it. we usually perceive that a perfect plan will never fail and it will always work as expected. what we cannot accept is the fact that there are so many uncontrollable factors affecting any plan. no matter how much effort you excert in coming up with a perfect plan, there is still a big possibility of failure because of the belief that we have the power to control everything. we only have choices but not the power to control.

what's important is the attitude towards planning. it is not about your ability to come up with a perfect plan but how you bounce back and stand firm when things goes out of plan, fix it and continue how you want it to end.

[miramax]

We're just 2 siblings, residing just few meters away from each other,Despite of being the youngest in the family I used to extend my hand evrtym my brother needs it.

But why is it that he'll just call me if he needs sumthn.
He never ring me once just to say hello, or check if I'm still alive.
I have done a lot of sacrifices for him , even my own happiness, to the extent.

Nganong ing-ana man?

[alexxx]

We're just 2 siblings, residing just few meters away from each other,Despite of being the youngest in the family I used to extend my hand evrtym my brother needs it.

But why is it that he'll just call me if he needs sumthn.
He never ring me once just to say hello, or check if I'm still alive.
I have done a lot of sacrifices for him , even my own happiness, to the extent.

Nganong ing-ana man?

this is not a rare case...im currently helping a friend who is also into this situation, younger sister helping eldest brother. quite very similar with what you are in now.

what you are asking is not a payback to the help you have extended but just merely a simple act of appreciation. that is somehing difficult for guys specially to their younger sister (it's a "pride" thing) but not to their gf. the fact that you are the one helping him made him live the concept of you not needing help nor become weak. you are forever strong and understanding that you will never need him for some appreciation and comfort.

it is obvious you've given way too much as you mention "sacrificing my own happiness and a lot more"...
i will throw back your question to me, "nganong ing-ana man?" why it reached to a point your brother become so dependent to you? there are a lot of ways in helping him. what you are doing now is a direct help. answering his needs right away. there is also the indirect way of helping. meaning, helping not just for now but helping him to help his self without you. make him independent from you. he become like that because you allowed him to be. everytime he is hungry you always give him fish instead of teaching him to look for his food.

talk to him and tell him everything so he will know... you deserve to be respected as a sister and as a person

[alexxx]

up................

[nan-say]

unsa imung buhaton para dili ka maattach pag au sa usa ka taw.. it is my weakness....and i hate it...

[alexxx]

unsa imung buhaton para dili ka maattach pag au sa usa ka taw.. it is my weakness....and i hate it...

get close but don't attach

attachment is a manifestation of selfishness, that's how i see it. some people react like is it possible to be close with someone without attaching? definitely yes!! it has been a thought that the only way to be close is attaching oneself, giving out everything the person have. when the person you attach with is gone then you are left with nothing but heartaches.

consider this:

- you don't own anybody
- you can't totally control anybody
- you already survive before that person came into your life, you will not die without that person
- what matters more is the moment you had with the person, not only the person
- cheerish the good moments, learn from the bad ones, miss it when it's gone, prepare for the new one
- life is a cycle, what comes around goes around

and always remember that "every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end"

[alexxx]

up.............