Ask me any question about relationships

[anjerika]

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a dollar of the past is worth a cent in the present.
memories fade.
But the pain lingers on.

ok thanks thanks... doc what can you say about the usual teaching sa atong mga elders and churches na "forgive and forget"? is it really feasible in this world where everyone creates mistakes and hurts one another? how do you "forgive and forget" someone who you treated special but only turned out that you were just used? or this teaching is just a nightmare? hehehe. thanks


SD thanks

[Soul Doctor]

ok thanks thanks... doc what can you say about the usual teaching sa atong mga elders and churches na "forgive and forget"? is it really feasible in this world where everyone creates mistakes and hurts one another? how do you "forgive and forget" someone who you treated special but only turned out that you were just used? or this teaching is just a nightmare? hehehe. thanks


SD thanks

I think we should not forget.
Or we will never learn.

Our brain has its own way of forgetting.
Once the wounds are healed.

But our heart carries the scars of that wound.
That is why you still feel a little pain,
even if you already forgot what happened.

You must learn the lesson.
Do not forget the lessons,
or you will make the same mistakes over and over again.

[Soul Doctor]

Dear Soul Doctor,

Aduna koy uyab kaniadto,
close kaayo mi, ako ni siyang High School Sweetheart,
pag-college na namo, ming-balhin siya sa manila aron didto na mopadayon sa iyang pag-tuon,tungod ini nga sitwasyon, tagsa ra kaayo mi magka-communicate, hangtud na lang nga naka-abroad siya sa US as registered nurse. Naputol na among relasyon, mao nangita na lang pud ko ug lain, mao ni siya akong present nga special someone. Ang problema ini karon kay mingbalik man tong kanhi nakong Girlfriend unya gusto niya nga e-continue na pud namo ang among naputol nga relasyon. Dili ko gusto nga ma-unfair ko sa akong present one, pero naa pa man koy pagbati atong akong kanhi, tungod tingale kay naa mi pinagsamahan. Unsaon kaha pagpatay sa gugma para dili na ko maglibog.

gatamod,

Tirong-say

When you have to choose between two good things---
Do not think of what you get when you choose one.
Think of what you are going to lose when you don't choose the other.


Just learn one good lesson ----have patience.
You were never patient enough to hold on to her.

Maybe if you are patient enough now,
you will wait a little while for the signs.

Then you will know what to do.

Or simply ask yourself....
Which one of the two deserves you?

[beyee]

Hi Doc,

ask lang ko if magmahay ba ang tawo sa iya gibuhat na nagpasakit sya sa isa ka tawo labi na iya ex bisag ang rason na nibiya siya kay nakakita siya og lain?

curious lang jud ko Doc...

-bey

[Tirong-say]

When you have to choose between two good things---
Do not think of what you get when you choose one.
Think of what you are going to lose when you don't choose the other.


Just learn one good lesson ----have patience.
You were never patient enough to hold on to her.

Maybe if you are patient enough now,
you will wait a little while for the signs.

Then you will know what to do.

Just ask yourself....
Which one of the two deserves you?

Wow......what can I say....nice advice indeed.........

Thanks Soul D.

[anjerika]

pm pm na lang


SD

[NaVi247]

hi doc,

heres my dilemma... naa ako'y h.s. friend sa manila before nga na meet nako diri cebu, mga 2 weeks ago na, as usual, estorya2x kami sa among ka agi sa una sa h.s. sa manila, to make it short, nanguyab ko niya sa una sa h.s. pa mi, pero wala nako gi pursue kay murag basted ko daan... ako problem ron, i already have family and i'm contented. pero sukad nagkita kami, something deep inside of me awakens... everywhere i go and everything i do, pirmi nako siya mahuna-huna. i did not text her for almost four days until ganina, kalit ra siya nag text ug nangmusta...
sa akong side, ako gi try nga mulikay kay kahibaw ko ug unsa ang mga consequences ani, my problem is do you think i should tell her truth nga adunay pa ko feelings nya? ako ra man gud gipugngan ako kaugalingon pero karon murag bug-at na dalhon, wala sab ko'y lain nga masultihan kay wala man pud tarong nga itubag ako mga amigo...
kini ang ako suliran doc... thanks...

[stev08]

good day to you, i got some question to ask,
my friend and her girlfriend are in a relationship for 2 years nw, then her girlfriend told his boyfriend some of the revilation that she did to his back... and one of that is she f*ck someone els and nw the girl is asking for forgiveness to my friend... and the girl told to my friend that she regret all that she done and she want to have a change to start all over again and to start a new relationship with him and she promise to my friend that she will never ever do that things again to him...
question:would my friend forgive her GF and start a new relationship with her with all the pain that he felt?
would my friend trust her GF again with all the wrong things that she did?
im just helping my friend bec nw he is very depress of all the things and he is blaming his self of all the wrong things that her GF had done!
TNX in advance

[Soul Doctor]

Hi Doc,

ask lang ko if magmahay ba ang tawo sa iya gibuhat na nagpasakit sya sa isa ka tawo labi na iya ex bisag ang rason na nibiya siya kay nakakita siya og lain?

curious lang jud ko Doc...

-bey

Kung ang iyang pagpasakit kay gibiyaan siya----angay lang.
Unsa pa may imong mahimo?, gibiyaan na gud ka.

[Soul Doctor]

hi doc, gud pm, ako nasad ni. naa koy pangutana, unsay maayo nako buhaton ani nga sitwasyon, ani man gud ni. naa koy younger brother who was very fortunate enough na makauyab og girl na adunahan, and really as in gwapa, puti, kwartahan. ang problema (not really), kay taga layo ni siya, sa Cavite nagpuyo, then ang communication nila sa akong brother kay thru call, text and chat lang. nagkaila ni sila tungod sa usa ra ka online game. more than a year na sila tig communicate sa akong bro thru that kay lagyo lagi, but then nagka meet na sila kas-a in person atong niari sa Cebu ang girl kuyog sa iyang family for a vacation. og sa dihang...

the girl started giving him gifts. pirmiro tsinelas lang to from crocs (orig pa) while i got 2 bottles of VS cologne spray (giapilan ko haha). pagkadugayan, there was a time na akong bro nawad-an og cellphone and wa na nako paliti kay di kahibaw muamping sa yang things and since his girlfriend couldn't stand waiting for him to get online or call me and ask about my brother, gipalitan siyag cellphone plus loadan pa jud siya. og sa dihang naanad man si manong. now he learned his way of getting stuff gikan sa babae. sa dihang mag away2 sila, di mu online akong bro kay kapoyan kuno sya mag net (just an excuse) og sa dihang gipalitan na naman sya og laptop plus siya pa nagbayad sa monthly internet connection. you know? mura bag ang girl iyang paliton ang love sa akong manghud. everytime naa silay big argument, para lang di na masuko akong bro kunohay niya, there is always a material reward in exchange for his forgiveness. di lang kani, naa pay gipadala na money for shopping, etc. btw, my brother is 20 and the girl is siguro late 20's, architect, stable financially while my bro is still a student.

now, i tried to interfere with the situation, coz i was thinking sobra na kaayo, di ko gusto na mugawas akong bro nga gipangwartaan lang sa girl. i discussed this with my bestfriend (duh.) and he said di lang daw ko manghilabot coz it's their relationship, and if the girl is happy about giving gifts to my bro, then so be it.

but of course i wasn't satisfied with that. nidako sad ulo sa akong bro, murag iya na tuyoon mag-away sila sa yang gf so he could get something that he wants and malooy sad ko sa girl. dako na kayo og nagasto ang girl sa iya. i tried to tell my concerns to my bro but he would just laugh, so i thought i will tell the girl na lang.

doc, what advice can i give to my brother and to the girl? na bother lang jud ko.


sorry taas kaayo. seryoso na jud kaayo ni. thanks SD

Thats a tough call for a sister.
If your brother is enjoying himself being spoiled, he might find you as a traitor or killjoy.
I know you do not want to be in the same situation with the girl, but somehow she seem happy to spoil your brother.

If you really want to help.
Give me her number (PM lang) and some details about your brother,
and I will be the one to give advice to her.

That way, you will not be the one to blame whatever happens.