Father and daughter relationship

[potterboy]

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ganahan lage ko ani nga thread. naa ko makat-onan. i have a daughter. she just turned 2. hehehe keep your posts coming.

[touch_me_not]

ay da..lain kau ka dai...hehe..ana man jud na ang father protective

hahaah!..d man sad ko ing-ana ka harsh sa akong father kuya wui..it's just that sometimes i feel like its too much nga makaingon ko ba if i would have to look back i havent really enjoyed my youth that much...and sometimes people got intimidated on me coz theyre afraid that if something might happen to me...mayataps gyud sila sa akong erpats so ang mahitabo is if im in a group KJ kow..ahehe...but actually were over it naman, done that stage na, its just that dli lang gyud magmeet among preferences sa life...he had set a standard that i should be like this and i should have this or i should go out with this kind of person or guy ...when he knows it's totally opposite of what i really wanted....but still the respect and love is there....

[cptn_star]

treasure your dads..not just dads but also your moms..you'll never know how much they mean to you until they're gone...

[Kenah]

parehas sad ka sa ko daughter , iya erpats ganahan mo bonding nya , peroxa dili if maabot gikan sa skul or lakaw sa akoa ra mo amen sa kamot ang iya papa labyan lang...maglagot au iya papa...magyawyaw are sa akoa...pero di ka tira sa iya anak..same with sad eldest japon ni namo xa....parehas sila member ug usa ka group...sa church pero d sila close...sa ako ra mas mananghid if asa.

[maddox_pitt]

parehas sad ka sa ko daughter , iya erpats ganahan mo bonding nya , peroxa dili if maabot gikan sa skul or lakaw sa akoa ra mo amen sa kamot ang iya papa labyan lang...maglagot au iya papa...magyawyaw are sa akoa...pero di ka tira sa iya anak..same with sad eldest japon ni namo xa....parehas sila member ug usa ka group...sa church pero d sila close...sa ako ra mas mananghid if asa.

can i ask sis kung ngano?
kay di man magrebelde ang bata if wala xa'y nakit-an na bati sa iyang erpats...
i mean, based lang sa experience nako...

[poisontree]

my rel with my erpat is not a healthy one. but hoping na sa future, maokay tawn. i know malipay sya ana.
frm birth to nw, work ghapon sya abroad.
and kng maabot sya diri, wa koy masulte niya.
imagine in a day mga 20words lang among masulte sa usag usa.
because mahigh blood ko niya, mairit! but idk why.
mtry siya makisama, but di lang ko karelate!
bt now, trying na ako na lang muadjust.

[xeoxander01]

I think this might be a little OT but TS, may I ask how old you are? You keep saying that you had a tough relationship with you father back when you were a teen ager. But based on what you posted, I think your a little immature to do such things. You sound like a little teenage blond who just wants to get into your dads nerves. I'm not trying to be a hypocrite here. I'm just not in favor of children shouting back at their parents coz for me its a sign of disrespect. Now, I dont know how your childhood must have been with your father but I use to be like you. The fear and the hatred I felt with my father. Although Im a guy, my father use to scold us a lot(kusog sad siya manapat). But later on I slowly realized why he was like that and why he did the things he use to do. Im sure you will come to realize that once you become a parent like me. True to what most say, you learn to love your parents more once you become a parent yourself.

[touch_me_not]

can i ask sis kung ngano?
kay di man magrebelde ang bata if wala xa'y nakit-an na bati sa iyang erpats...
i mean, based lang sa experience nako...

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for my part kuya, the reason why naa me gap sa ako father or awkward me with each other is that, i grew up seeing him only twice a week and 2 hours a day...wa ko kasababot before unsa iya work basta as what i have known he would spent more time with his barkada, laagan akong papa, and then f mouli xa, dli xa makigbonding naku...adto xa magbonding sa iyang mga manok..all i could describe him is he's irresponsible....and then many times i would see my mother crying because of him...and malooy kos akong mother, ...and if naa sad xa every weekend...i cant play games with my playmates, magsakit gyud akong dughan before,..kanang akong mindset is that, KJ xa, he doesnt want me to be happy....u know the feeling nga everybody is enjoying and then you were just stayng in the house watching them...until such time nga nag highschool ko...mao ra ghapon, he doenst want me to do the things that normal teenagers would do,...that's why i enjoyed more staying in school than at home.....at home basta naa xa...bad shot gyud kaayo akong feeling owez...highschool life was that stage gyud nga for almost a year wa me tingogay sa ako erpats...he's the reason gyud ngano nagsuffer me financially, yet my mother loves him so much despite sa nahitabo...but in fairness to him bisan ana xa, i wasnt a battered child man pod, bisan kusi nalang wa gyud ko katilaw ana niya...aheeh...dli gyud xa mopasakit nako physically....and now he has changed a lot nman pod, maybe because of age napod cguro...

[touch_me_not]

I think this might be a little OT but TS, may I ask how old you are? You keep saying that you had a tough relationship with you father back when you were a teen ager. But based on what you posted, I think your a little immature to do such things. You sound like a little teenage blond who just wants to get into your dads nerves. I'm not trying to be a hypocrite here. I'm just not in favor of children shouting back at their parents coz for me its a sign of disrespect. Now, I dont know how your childhood must have been with your father but I use to be like you. The fear and the hatred I felt with my father. Although Im a guy, my father use to scold us a lot(kusog sad siya manapat). But later on I slowly realized why he was like that and why he did the things he use to do. Im sure you will come to realize that once you become a parent like me. True to what most say, you learn to love your parents more once you become a parent yourself.

yeah, ur right, im not a teenager anymore just my early 20's but yeah sometimes i would realize im still immature...but hey i would just like to clarify that i wont shout on him back, if somethings wrong, we dont talk to each other...and the "sukol" thing is not the shouting back which you mean..and then he has this ability gud nga magjoke nga sakit mosulti...so ang ako sad kay murag nakakuha guro sa iyang talent ana...thats why i would hit him back a joke as a response to him also but i wont shout in him ..the sukol .thngs which i mean is that for instance he would say youd better not go there or he would ask what kind of people are you going out with ka mga bati ana nilag nawong...but i wouldnt listen to him...molakaw ghapon ko..and wa xa mabuhat...things like that are very irritating to me specially now that im older magboot ghapon xa sa kong gusto when in fact if i would have to say this or i dont know if i had the right to say this i "dont give him the credit nganong nakatapos kog skwela"...coz its our mother whos bringing home the beacon...who made sacrifices and even came to the point where she's begging for alms on our well-to-do relatives..(mother-side)...he should even be thankful i guess to me, coz never did it came to the point that i provoke him for what he has done...the only role of a father that he played well is being the "protective" father...and i appreciate that, i know its his way of showing his luv on us....

[maddox_pitt]

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for my part kuya, the reason why naa me gap sa ako father or awkward me with each other is that, i grew up seeing him only twice a week and 2 hours a day...wa ko kasababot before unsa iya work basta as what i have known he would spent more time with his barkada, laagan akong papa, and then f mouli xa, dli xa makigbonding naku...adto xa magbonding sa iyang mga manok..all i could describe him is he's irresponsible....and then many times i would see my mother crying because of him...and malooy kos akong mother, ...and if naa sad xa every weekend...i cant play games with my playmates, magsakit gyud akong dughan before,..kanang akong mindset is that, KJ xa, he doesnt want me to be happy....u know the feeling nga everybody is enjoying and then you were just stayng in the house watching them...until such time nga nag highschool ko...mao ra ghapon, he doenst want me to do the things that normal teenagers would do,...that's why i enjoyed more staying in school than at home.....at home basta naa xa...bad shot gyud kaayo akong feeling owez...highschool life was that stage gyud nga for almost a year wa me tingogay sa ako erpats...he's the reason gyud ngano nagsuffer me financially, yet my mother loves him so much despite sa nahitabo...but in fairness to him bisan ana xa, i wasnt a battered child man pod, bisan kusi nalang wa gyud ko katilaw ana niya...aheeh...dli gyud xa mopasakit nako physically....and now he has changed a lot nman pod, maybe because of age napod cguro...

btw, it's a "sis" hehehe
anyways, well, same guro ta sis... my dad if ka.bright, bright...if ka successful sa chosen field, successful... the problem with him is we are not his priority.... mas muhatag pa xa sa akoang mga ig-agaw ug iyahang mga igsuon..worse, mas mutabang pa xa sa iyahang mga amigo ug constituents... as a child, i thought it was okay...but time came when our family suffered financially, as in we hit rock bottom..and it was really hard for me and my younger brother kay pagmata namo okay ang amoang kahimtang..then suddenly our allowances were cut into half, usahay gani it was half into a quarter, niya nawala ang car etc...it was hard for us especially that time my bro and i were studying in an exclusive school..so murag all of a sudden di na mi ka.join sa uban na kaschoolmate namo etc (immature kaau haha)....anyways, the bright side was, that was our mind opener...diha mi nakabalo ug tigom, ug pagkakuripot..basta, murag in one instant, na.mature mi dayon sa akoang manghod... wala man mi choice, dba? then i realized it all happened kay my dad had wrong decisions and it affected our family a lot... maayo gani my mom had a job of her own to support my schooling.. there was a time when i thought di na ko ka.skwela... basta, during those times labad kaayo akong ulo ato... murag maluoy ko sa akoang amahan na maglagot...anyways, my dad had a falling out from my mom and bro...ang2x awayon pa nako xa dba? through all those times, i tried to understand him...really understand him bisag usahay murag wala nay sense..it took years before my parents finally reconciled and it took years before my brother finally forgave my dad...ako? ako taga salo sa tanan nila na kalagot...sponge...that was my role for the longest time.. anyhows just when i thought everything was slowly going back into place, naa nasad nabuhat ko dad... ang di lang nako ganahan kay nganong i.sacrifice man sad mi niya oi para s iyahang own interest? basta, mejo complicated ang situation...ayon, i still am in speaking terms with my dad..pero, lisuran jud ko ug sabot sa iyahang decisions...same sad ta, i was never hurt by him physically, pero ang nakabati, emotionally, i was tormented... last yr gani, we were in this overpass in Araneta, it was really a bad evening...all through the night, while we were walking towards the bus station my dad was yelling at me... i didn't even bother listen to what he has to say...masakitan lang ko... there was this point when i thought of jumping off from the jeepney that same night on the way to Laguna... but then i realized "i can't jump...my license is not with me...i don't even have a single cent!" mura kog buang ato... ato na incident mas nagpalagot nako..murag dira jud ko nibuto...i did not talk to my dad for 2 months after that..then after ato, murag wala na jud nabalik ang una na relationship namo