GIRLS please read.. (open for GUYZ pd)

[hellraiser]

if you read my first post, i said im not condoning it. you must have missed it. cheating is wrong any way you put it.no question about that.

what im saying is that it is inevitable, meaning invariably occurring. this is the real world we're talking about. it happens to real people regardless the amount of love and commitment they invest in their relationships. it sucks to be cheated on and to cheat on someone you love. you cant say that in relationships there's only black and white. whether you like it or not, there will always be grey areas. its not like baseball where you can only get three strikes and then you're out. life's not like that. people make mistakes. cheating is a mistake... if you've been cheated by your partner before, did you look into your relationship and asked why? did it ever occur to you that maybe you were not as good as you think you are? or that maybe, naa ka pagkukulang sa inyong relationship? or that maybe, just maybe, you are not the person your partner is looking for?

in my opinion, people don't cheat just for the sake of cheating. THERE'S ALWAYS A REASON BEHIND IT. it can be intentional but it can also be unintentional. it is always a symptom of something...a result. it is a manifestation that there is an underlying problem in your relationship. now unless you are matured enough and ready to take on your "relationship issues", you will end up whining about how painful it is to be cheated on. of course it hurts big time! but sometimes we are so engrossed with the pain that we forget to look at ourself and our misgivings.

i didn't say "go ahead and cheat". instead, i said choose. choose what he thinks is best. if he loves his girlfriend enough to fix their relationship problem, then he should be sorry and then move on. dwelling on the past does more damage than good. BUT if he feels that they can't fix their "issues", THE REAL REASONS BEHIND THE UNFAITHFULNESS, then might as well quit. let go of the girl.

relationships are like that. they are never perfect. both of you will be making mistakes whether you like it or not. both of you will be hurting each other along the way. but it's ok... loving is pain in itself. make mistakes, make ammends and strive not to commit the same mistakes again.also you forgive, and you forget. that's just how it is.that is how you, your partner, and your relationship will grow.

Wow! what a nice and mature one (the reality). Something in my mind was cleared up. Well, my wife broke up with me few days ago coz she's not happy with our marriage anymore. You are right, forgive, forget and let it go. I deserve to be happy and she does too. Thanks for your words though it doesn’t belong to me.

you rock!

[namaligya]

phew! goodnews guyz.. i think its realy working nga ni stay ko niya and SHE did apreciate wat i did nga lil but sweet things.. weeeeeeeeeee.. hoping for more hapines!

[baLLooN]

gud luck...and maintain it...

everybody deserve second chances...

[maddox_pitt]

@ts: baws baws ra hahaha bitaw, she's been honest to you...and you said you know that even if it hurt..pero you were not honest to her...you cheated on her.... she doesn't deserve your treatment....you're just lucky she's still blinded by her love for you.... that's why she gave you another chance...
be smarter this time around if you really want her back..ay nag decide kung hubog haha bitaw, make up for what you've done if you really are in love with her or
let her go if you can't be faithful to her...she deserves better than that... you'll just cause her so much pain..

[saskee14]

ka harsh pud sa mga taw oi as if sila dili capable mubuhat ana. errr....

but i want to make it clear na im not condoning what you did because IT IS wrong. now the question is, unsa man jud imong gusto buhaton? do you still want to stay in the relationship or no? if you do, you dont have to keep making up for what you did. if you were really sincere about your apology and she already forgave you, that's it. let it go. end of story. move on and make it right this time by not cheating. if you keep on making up for what you did, eventually it will take its toll on you and you will only end up doing the same mistakes over and over again. it is a manifestation na ikaw mismo wala ka get over sa imong gbuhat and you should learn to forgive yourself as well because its only in forgiveness that you will find peace.

on the other hand, if you think you'd only end up sleeping with other girls then its better if you just let her go. she does deserve somebody better and you also deserve to be happy. if you cant be faithful to her then DONT give her reasons to believe that you are. if you still want to sleep around then be man enough to stand by your choice. dont hide it with pseudo relationships and hurt the person who loves you. she doesn't deserve it.

before the relationship gets toxic... you should decide.

nindoT kaU ka mhatag ug advice man.. hehehe..

[pacutecute]

You don't deserve her!

[Hinara]

TS: 1.should i continue and make bawi sa tanan nko na buhat.. coz i realy LOVE her nahh..
>>> If you really love her tlaga, then let her feel it jud, Yes...keep working things for her to think na u're serious in loving her na and not serious in cheating her...
TS: 2.or should i STOP making up to her and set her FREE?
>>> You love her and vice versa, so iy try sa jud ninyo settle ang rel. pasabta siya sa imo mga plano and tell her how u feel sa iyang pag padayon ug commune sa ex niya...

[esprugodoys]

1.should i continue and make bawi sa tanan nko na buhat.. coz i realy LOVE her nahh..

Answer: temptations are always there and finds a away to reach out to you one way or the other. if indeed you are sincere with ur present gf, how about you ask this question to yourself.... can you picture yourself with her for the rest of your life? reflect on that.. you will find the answer that you seek my friend..


2.or should i STOP making up to her and set her FREE?

Answer: putting yourself under the influence of temptation only signify a weakness of your feelings for the girl.. maturely enough if you truely care for your gf, preventing yourself into something that could lead you to cheat is the most wise move to make. but in your case, you never were able to help yourself. you even did it twice.. if you were able to pull it off at the early stage.. how much more when both you reach to the point where you will start to seek each of your own happiness (eg. laag with barkada and the likes). you will never know how life will draw its fate on you. better find and get to know yourself first than finding it from someone. LOVE maybe is a chemistry but it doesn't take out the fact that chemistry could also hurt you if you mixed the wrong chemicals

[KASAAC]

...its never too late to change, show her that you still love her and that you've realized all your faults and wrong doings, naa rana sa iyaha if mapasaylo ka niya if dili na gale aw sorry nalang jud bro

[namaligya]

tnx sa mga advice's.. im listening to you all.. OK!.. ako njd ni tarongon ds time.. as of now.. ok ra ghpon among situation.. na kuha-an pro stil she looking for me.. hmmmm..