How to survive, forget, recover and get over cheating and betrayal in a relationship

[YLINGAO]

I've found out that my boyfriend/partner has been cheating on me and has been having an affair to someone else.
It's been 3 months already but til now i still feel the feelings of anger, pain, anxiety and depression though were already trying to work our relationship again. I want to hear something from you istoryans.... pls help me di ko gusto mwala xa nko after 2yrs and a half of relationship mahulog lng sa wla. maybe i was too jealous and nagger sometimes but i still keep on changing myself for a better me now.

do whatever you can do best para masave inyo relationship. pero if ever lang gyud nga na in-love siya sa lain, set him free...bahala nag sakit kay mas sakit pa sis kung ikaw ray nahigugma niya.

[desperada]

naa nko mnila karon. lagyo n mi. pero wla p mi closure which means kami lng gihapon. i ask him kung cla p ba ghapon atong girl. he told me na wla n daw cla. hmmm ambot di nko motuo. mao sad n iya ingon sa akoa b4 but then cla lng diay ghapon ato n tym and nasakpan p nko cla ningkuyog ang girl sa iya vacation sa mindanao. as in sabay sila ug leave from work. NOw he told me na di nlng daw to hisgutan. and he ask me na di nlng to nko cge huna-hunaon para di daw ko masakitan. now were not together and panagsa nlng mi mgcommunicate. im trying everything just to get over from those things that makes me feel those pain na ako naagian b4. but i admit i really2 miss and love him and im hoping that he also feel the same.

sis,been in your situation too last few weeks ago..i know and i truly understand sa kasakit nimo nga na feel karon..sakto imong gibuhat to stay away from him...if possible sis,no contact lang sa have yourself a break para mka think jud ka sa angay nimong buhaton..kay its really you man jud ang mka decide in the end..pero have a little break lang sa kay kani ganing naa ta sa kahiubos ug kalagot dili baya ta mka huna2x ug tarong..or kung na man gani ta mahuna hunaan nagtoo na ta nga sakto na ang naa sa atong huna2x..

[xinevirtucio]

sis...do not ever blame yourself.....it is not ur fault....nga ingana ka..it is who you are....jealous or nagger?so what..mao man jd ng mga babay...naa cla mabuhat ana....

den, as much as possible ayaw pag self pity, instead....improve yourself, physically,psychologically and emotionally. trust me..kanang mga ingana na situations, it will help you mature especially when it comes to relationships.

i've had my fair share of cheating boyfriends and in retaliation i cheat on them too.however, i always end up hurt.pero bahalag sakit,move forward jd..bahala na..don't let him bring you down..it's his loss not yours.

kasuway sad ko anang nakigbalik..aron to work things out kuno..pero wa gihapon,kai magcge naman kog hunahuna nag unsa xa,asa xa,knsa ya kuyog...puno na kaau ug pagduda ang relationship,wa nai peace so ang ending buwag ghapon.

pero naa rna nimo,if you want to imprison yourself in his memory, then go mag tiis ka,pero i tell it is a much better world out there.

once a cheater always a cheater,nabuhat na gali nya kaisa,what are the chances nga iya ghapon na buhaton....dba taas?

sagdii ng sakt ug kalagot sis...it is a normal reaction.maingana jd ka..alangan g-btray gud imo trust...alangan nmn malipay ka nga nagbinuang xa.


if in the end,wa nakai peace of mind sa inyong relationship, den kabalo naka unsa imo buhaton..it is really no use to keep yourself imprisoned in a tumultuous relationship.

balikon nako ha..do not blame yourself for what he did,iyaha ng choice...it's good nga ur trying to change, but do not change too much to the point nga ur not being urself anymore.

"if you can't accept me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best"

ana lang na xa.di man ta perpekto...naa man jd ta bati...

in moderation lang na imo selos ug nagging ha..ako bitaw...nagger man ko...pero ngkadugay mi sa akoa uyab..i jst found out nga nihunong nko anang bisyoha...hehehe

[alelpacres]

I've found out that my boyfriend/partner has been cheating on me and has been having an affair to someone else.
It's been 3 months already but til now i still feel the feelings of anger, pain, anxiety and depression though were already trying to work our relationship again. I want to hear something from you istoryans.... pls help me di ko gusto mwala xa nko after 2yrs and a half of relationship mahulog lng sa wla. maybe i was too jealous and nagger sometimes but i still keep on changing myself for a better me now.

sorry but the only advice i could tell you is...love is not enough to have a long lasting relationship...you need to have trust, understanding and respect...and as for your situation...trust and fidelity was destroyed....its hard...i know how that feels...but trust is so hard to gain back...or will never be gained again...

as this point youre trying to change yourself?? for what?? for him well here's the cue honey, he dont really love you that much as you imagined...cause he cheated on you and wasnt that strong on accepting who you really are...if he did really loved you then he would make the move to tell you frankly what's the problem between the two of you...look, he cheated on you...i know you can forgive him but surely you'll never forget that thought?? and then what?? you'll get paranoid thinking of the thought he had cheated you and he might do it again??

look...eventually time will come youll get tired of changing yourself to be a better one with the only goal you change for him....change for the mere reason you love yourself...heal yourself...ok??

[yvonne6]

i know its hard to leave the person you love even after batrayal. nasakitan ka, the more ka masakitan sa break up. then while being with that person, sakit lang gihapon, dili nimo malimtan ang iyang nahimo or worst na praning ka and wala nakay salig. it may seem harsh, pero, give yourself a break...that kind of pain wont kill you, it will only make u stronger. balo ka, once ang usa ka babay mo allow ug ingon anion sa lalaki, tendency is, usbon gyud ni. i know people can change, but too rarely. nawala na gamay ang respect sa lalaki by doing it, mas mawad an siya ug respect nimo if after what he did dawat lang gihapon. nay uban mogara raba basta dawaton balik. i just hope mag bag o gyud siya so u both can be happy na

[lynnkin_park85]

now i find myself that i do still love him.. but im tired of him... i really do.

[emnace09]

now i find myself that i do still love him.. but im tired of him... i really do.

an istoryan replied from the other thread nga "u cant forget; acceptance lng jd"...

God has planned another man for u..2.5yrs ra nah imoha,, akoa almost 4yrs mi sa akng uyab sauna and been cheated for 2yrs..pero nkaya rman nku..ggsto lng jd nku nga mkget over and start for another journey

[cjmagowan]

mmm.... Give him a chance oi... 1 chance is good enough.. everybody deserves a chance but then, if he cheats again.. then slap him on the face and say goodbye...

[Meebo]

give him a chance.. everyone deserves one.. and you love him so much sad baya.. that way... you can give him a good beat down if he screws up again..

[GOthique]

I've been there sis, I was cheated before but you know what did I walked out his life with dignity, how did I survive? It’s because of my love ones and my goals, they keep me going. I said to myself nobody can hurt me unless I want them to. Happiness is a choice, it's up to you if stay and you’re constantly hurting or set him free and find true happiness. Life is too short..Don’t let somebody ruin your life sis.Don’t waste it w/ that guy who’s treating u like a crap!