wa'y salig sa uyab tungod sa akong past

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[jntio]

ms akit pg mg dugy mo nya inana lng ghapon ka

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[mrnice4u]

don't live by your past, learn to accept that it happens already and make it as part of your memories...coz it will remain there and become a scar...

give this present bf of yours have a chance to prove his love, coz the truth is he is not your past...


remember this:

to love is to get hurt

to get hurt is to learn

and to learn is to love again...

[deniseismyname28]

hmmm.. giving yourself a chance means letting go of the emotional baggage. if your not ready to let go of the hurt yet, then dili jud na chance. i think you have to give him a chance because he's a different person. it wasn't him who hurt you.


if dili ka ready, wala nlng unta ka ni sugot. but if dili pa ka ma ready now, when paman? nga dili man ka mka himo og contract ana nga 'wai pasakitay ha?' kay there is never gonna be an assurance pud that he's never gonna hurt you, but pag sulod nimu anang uyab uyab with him, mura nkag ng hatag ug waiver ana. dapat mu trust ka niya nga dili xa mu hurt nimu like how he trusts you not to hurt him. two-way man gd na.

dili pwede siya cgeg give, nya ikaw cgeg take. love, trust and respect should be given freely from both sides..

[bemzlynx]

"i am still having very heavy emotional baggages" - wla sah unta nimo xa sugta...settle first any baggages lalo nah kon heavy... mk-paabot bitaw nah xa kon love jud ka nya...but anyway kamo naman diay so better forget about your emotional baggages & focus on your relationship...

"i'm still very hesitant and doubtful (with guys in general) " - dont generalize ky dili tanan guyz ing-ana...naa pay nangahabilin nga goodboys...mao sad n-bad boy ang uban ky nakaagi ug ing-ani gidudahan... better trust but not give all yourself...

-to be continued akong advice gurl ky mopauli nako...hehehe
e-plurk tka later or reply ko diri later...

[maitoots]

lagi...ako ang problema. i know.

now that you know that you are the problem.. what are you gonna do about it??

[edddder]

just my 2 centavos:

sige ka ingon nga na feel nimo ang sincerity sa guy, so give him a chance. in our life imposible jud
kaayo nga dili ta masakitan, pero kung mo stop lang ka diha, dili jud ka makafeel ug Love in your lifetime. pareho rapud na kung mo kab-ot ka sa imong dreams, inig ka dagma nimo ang importante mobangon jud ka...

pero kung galibog ka, buwagi na siya nya echeck kung mingawon baka niya, kung dili find another one.

basta ang importante you never stop, never stop, never stop after you fall...

[chinody]

naglibog na ko'g maayo...
i am currently in a relationship now, pero naluoy nako sa akong uyab kay i am still having very heavy emotional baggages...i'm still very hesitant and doubtful (with guys in general) unya naluoy nako sa akong uyab kay siya mao'y nadamay sa akong pagkabitter ug pagka-way salig...i did decide to give myself another chance...mao bitaw gisugot nako siya, pero ug kung love na gani...dili pako willing muhatag tanan sakong love niya....for fear of failing again....unya akong mentality naman sad ron kay dapat wala nako'y any form of attachment kay dili biya ta kabaw sa mahitabo...binuangan lang nya ta or unsa ba...dili man jud ka makaingon ug magkadayon ba gyud mo or dili...mao na dili nalang ko mu-effort or whatsoever...kay para nako mura'g useless....when i know the same thing is gonna happen again...so dili nalang ko mag effort...
nakafeel man ko nga akong uyab kay sincere gyud nako...ako man gani siya giprangkahan nga dili 100% ako gihatag nga love niya...syempre nalain siya (wala ma'y lalake dili malain siguro ani, nya late nasad nako na narealize, wala nako nagbantay sako gipangsulti...ing-ana nako kainsensitive)...pero niingon ra siya nako nga iya rana girespeto. Siya gyud ang mag effort sa among mga dates...nya ako kay wala lang...i enjoy his company man...i'm just guarding myself as much as possible.
ako sad siya giignan nga dili nako as passionate as i was before, kay narealize raman sad nako nga useless rasad akong effort kay binuangan lang ka...mao na dili nalang ko mag-effort...nya giignan rako sa akong uyab nga lahi siya, lahi nani karon compared sa akong past...pero ambot. hadlok gyud ko nga wa'y salig...
i feel his sincerity man, and dili nako ganahan mufall kay hadlok nako mafail na sad nya...
ug kung magpadayon nga ing-ani gihapon akong mentality i think it would be unfair to my boyfriend...basin mas maayo nalang siguro ug buwagan nako siya? naglibog naman ko. i think i've finally found a guy nga tarong na gyud, nga dili na magbinuang nako...kaso...ako naman ang may apan ron.

just my POV sis..i dont mean to hurt you in any way. im just airing out my thoughts..

thats very unfair of you sis...in the first place nganu gisugot man nimo siya na kahibaw man ka naa pakai "emotional baggages" or issues na kelangan nimo i resolve first..sakit kaau na para sa laki kai basg in love na kaau to nimo tas gihatag pod niya tanan nimo then ikaw mahulog nalang pod na ug binuang lang imoha..dli bya lalim sis dba naka experience nagud ka na gipasakitan ka sa imo x ayaw sab na buhata sa uban.. if i were you buwagi nalang na sis... i know ma hurt to siya.. pero sagdii nalang kaysa magpadayun mo tas ing ana lang gihapon imohang mentality. that would lead to something bad.. tas ang relationship ninyo dli jud na mo grow.. we wouldnt want that to happen.. do whats right sis buwagi siya... let him go... if dli paka maka love niya whole heartedly then buwagi.. That would be better for the both of you..

[RainDrizzle07]

YOu know what beautiful agree jud ko nila tanan..

Why man nisulod ka in the first place nga daghan paman diay kag ghuna2x and besides ikaw mismo kahibaw unsa na ug unsaon na nmo

ang ending ra jud.. bsag unsa pa kanindot ang mga solicited advice na imong gpangau ug wla kay buhaton..way kwenta ang effort sa mga tanan nag post here.. I dont want to sound harsh nor to offend you, pero bitaw louy sad kaayo ang guy na imo g ingon ana..

in my personal experience ako 1st bf ( and 1st tanan) cheated on me and as naive as I am at that time..201% ang trust, 201% ang pagka tanga kay love gud.. pero when he cheated aw.. papas sad tanan nako na feel kay gi give man nako tanan so pagka sala nya aw wla na jud room for forgiveness kay feel nako ato at that time I am emotionally battered, cge ko ask ngano iya to nabuhat? unsa pay kuwang nako? I thought he loves me? LoL

pero kbaw ka, bsag ingon ato ang nahitabo, pag next relationship nako.. aw wla nako nag huna2x na bacg bnoangan ko kay ako mga barkada ug bestfriend for that matter 3 ka lalaki na mao jud ako daganan ug maghilak ko unsa ako need pero ang 2 ato nla kay virgin pa jud ang usa faithful sa uyab, mao naka ana ko na dli tanan lalake amaw and I learn nmn pud what I need to do when in relationship so karon I am so happy and contented. aneh nalang gwapz ai.. pag huna2x nlang ug mga lalake in general na imong na ilhan nga faithful sa ilang mga partner anah nlng then you pick up from there ug feel nmo na d pa nmo kaya karon.. ayaw intawn pa antosa ang guy.louy pud.

hope this helps. more power to you! and enjoy life!! ^_^