HELP How should I deal with my two-timing boyfriend?

[beyee]

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walk away and move on... either padaun ka patonto nya or u value ur dignity as a person na u won't allow to be treated like a plaything for him...

[ellehpo28]

Iveslovespink has a good point. I'm sorry you had to learn your lesson the hard way: Stealing bfs does not pay.

The guy's a jerk, by the way. You should be snagging someone single and unattached. Things you should be doing now:

1. Take back/withdraw what you deposited in your joint bank account.
2. Change your sim.
3. Stop renting the place that you mentioned.
4. Cut ALL communication lines from the guy.

Sakto! But who cares? Nahitabo na. It was obvious that in the first place, murag naay deception and bad motive ang guy kanimo. What u should do now?

1. Learn the lesson.
2. Move on.
3. Keep busy.
4. Love yourself more.

Follow the advices of fellow istoryans. Di lang siya ang lalaki dito sa mundo. At di lang ikaw ang may ganyang karanasan. In short di ka nag-iisa. Smile!

[Tirong-say]

Salbahisa pud tawhana no, kung naa pa mo sa gawas adto walay siguro igo na to sa kilat...he-he
what a monster, mas maayo kay nahibaloan na nimo unsa iyahang kalidad, unsa na lang kaha kung naminyo na mo unya mao pay pagkahibalo nimo ana niya, free pa kaayo ka karon, open your heart again for another person nga deserving but be wise na next time, I hope he exists for I think he can help you cope up and repair all the damages made.

[lerrie]

what would you do if your bf for 1 year has another gf before you were together...
nana cya gf while nag cge mi ug laag2x..
the sick part is.. ive given everything to him...
we even have a place na we rented so if gusto mag spend together..
...we can sleep over..
we had a joint account para savings namo..
we share a credit account..


heres the painful part..
me and my friends were watching a movie at ayala...
and we noticed a couple nga loving kaayo..
so pag out namo.. it turned out to be my bf with his gf..
i thought he was at work.. on leave pala siya..

so i confronted him (professionally) and he just denied everything..
as if hes saying he didnt know me..
that i was just some crazy b*tch trying to make an issue..

i cant forget his words "ikaw man tong stalker nako sa work nga mag padala ug letters pirme noh??.. mao na cya ako giingon nimo bebe.. siya to nagpadala nako ug flowers ug chocolates pag valentines..."

im kinda feeling low right now...
i havent gone to work for a week na coz i just cant bear it..

what should i do now?
im losing my job.. im losing myself, im losing my sanity..
sorry if nagdrama ko here.. i just dont have anyone to talk to right at this moment...

louya nmo oi..kalimti nlang to murag gigago raka niya..just go out with friends nlang for the meantime...heal urself hehe

[P-Chan]

pullout tanan... if mo istorya siya nimo ana.a.. "ikaw man tong stalker nako sa work nga mag padala ug letters pirme noh??.. mao na cya ako giingon nimo bebe.. siya to nagpadala nako ug flowers ug chocolates pag valentines..."

[odrujahad]

nahulog man kaw ang kabit sis mao na dli jd mosalig bsag knsa karn

[maitoots]

msta na kha ang TS ani.. murag it's been a while nman..
pero if in ani ang situation, now that you know drop him off ang leave him for dead ika nga
dn't let him see you are affected, don't get mad.. get even ehhehehe
don't worry napa daghan dha oi.. you deserve sum1 else better.

[ronz_rodz]

well imo siya papilion sis assa siya malipay and compatible ang relasyon kaysa masakitan ka.. let it go if ever ad2 siya.. daghan pa guys deserving nimo

[vikkz]

Sis, did you even have the slightest idea that he had a gf while you guys were togethere If not, then you don't know him at all. I suggest nga kalimta na gyud na siya. If he can deceive you once, he can do it again...although di na muapply for some people...it does for most. Better to have love then lost, than to have never loved at all diba. Sige nalang, atleast you know that you treated him right and that you were good to him. Kabaw ka nga wala kay sayop. Let his conscience eat him up when he realizes that you've been nothing but a good girlfriend to him. Sometimes, di na makarealize until mawala na gyud ka. Ofcourse, ayaw pud pagtuo nga mubalik na. Let him see that you are moving on and that you are a strong woman. Ka swerte ba pud niya if you destroy your life because of him. Ayaw pud intawon. Take all your money out (including his)sa inyong joint account. Ishopping na oi. Haha. Di pitaw siya muangkon nimo...ah di imuha nana. Haha! Go out, and think of a diversion like hanging out with friends arung di kaayo ka maghunahuna niya. Only time will heal. Put it in your head nga you deserve better and that there is someone out there right for you. In any case, if he ever contacts you kay gimingaw nimo (kagwang gyud na sila usahay)...just be nice. Ayaw ug give in and don't meet up with him. Let him see that you're okay and let it bother him nga gibaliwala ra nimo. If he insists that you two meet up, (and just incase you have his other gf's number), texti pud tu unya ingni magkita mu didto. Don't show up ofcourse. Let his gf know also that kamu duha ang biktima...not just you. Arung kamung duha mawala niya. Or return everything you have that's his with his girlfriend infront of him (be it clothes, or whatever). Kana, di na gyud na madeny. Bahala na sila kung magaway sila. She needs to know anyway.

"i cant forget his words "ikaw man tong stalker nako sa work nga mag padala ug letters pirme noh??.. mao na cya ako giingon nimo bebe.. siya to nagpadala nako ug flowers ug chocolates pag valentines..."" -boanga pud ani oi. Ako pa to...ako na tung gisumbag. hehehe. really i would.

It's natural to feel low sa imong situation, but don't just stay home and do nothing. That's the worst thing you can do...nga magmukmuk ra ka sa room, manambok, unya walay trabaho. Pray...and have some fun with people you know will take care of you...

what should i do now? - go to work, don't lose your job. You're not losing your sanity. You're just feeling really bad which is understandable...but puh-lease!!!! don't let him be the reason why your life is turning upside down. Get on your feet and show him that you can do without him. Stop focusing on him, and focus sa imong self. Make yourself better...pagexercise, diet, work and be successful, laag, anything that will bring your self-esteem up. It'll be a slap on his face when he sees that you're looking even more beautiful than ever diba.