How can I stop loving the person who hurts me most?

[r0mm3L]

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pa rhymes rhymes pa gyud tawn ni sila oi.

mao ra gihapon, ang mangita ug lain ra ang sak2 nga solosyon ani

[sandy2007]

I can relate a bit, I'm kind of going through the same at the moment, di siguro exactly the same sa imo situation but nasakitan sad.... best solution.... start adopting a "KEVS" or keber attitude.... like bahala siya...
daghan ra laki ah... but I know lisod gyud ni siya.. uhmmm if it's hard for you to do this right now...

just start loving your self more! ..... it's kind of selfish.. but you must love yourself first

"So if you're hurt, just try to use your pain for yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, work out a lot, get your nails and hair done...do whatever you can so you can feel more pretty and confident!"

Other tips:
1.) cry cry cry.. let it all out... para ma hubas ang pain.. ma pul.an ra ka kadugayan... but don't let him see you hurt or cry ever.. show him that you're okay and you're just fine without him..

2.) list down and think of the qualities na eiwwww niya.. like hugaw ug kuko... baho ug ulo.. bugason.. siga ug mata.. murag bayot sa kaputi.. kagiron... hugawan... loser.. jerk... *ssh*le... tanan negative niya.... then basaha siya everyday.. and you can swear to yourself that the next man has/is none of the above. and think.. why the hell do I love him anyway.. eiwww....

3.) avoid him... as much as possible avoid the loser.... dont call him.. dont text.. dont read his messages.. if naa saved messages... erase them if di nimo kaya ayaw tawn basaha... better yet.. erase his number. ..or block him in any comm portal as possible..

4.) go out with your friends... P-A-R-T-Y!!!!! but be careful when you get drunk.. coz we always have the urge to text, call or confront him basta under the influence of alcohol.. ayaw lang gyud..

5.) since you are beautiful... and loser siya for hurting you.. start meeting new people.. new friends... to widen the possibilities of dating a new guy... who is way better than that guy who hurt you... and if you do... date.. even if dili nimo type gyud.. date lang.. coz who knows diba..

6.) also do extra kuri-kuri activities... hmmn.. aside from like uhh feeding your body.. feed your soul too... participate in feeding programs (I did this before)... visit a homeless shelter or home for the aged... tutor someone.... etc., and a good way of meeting someone else.. na possibly buotan pa diba..?

ug last but not the least.. think lang that it's not your LOSS but his.. basta shofa ka.. mao na na! pa gwapa lang gyud ug pa sexy ug samot sis... sila ra lagi na mag laway nya... pustaanay pa hehehe..

pagka mau na advice..hehehe..gotcha sis!!

[beyee]

do ur best not to dwell on the past and what-could've-been's or do play-by-play of ur sweet memories or even the sad ones coz that wud entrap u to ur own past relationship and u wud hurt urself even more.... accept ur new change now and be happy of what u have now...


go out and mingle life is fun to worry on such misery

[bumblebee1]

unfathomable pain...

help pls...

tnx.. ...

Think of someone else who's worth thinking of.. or approach someone whom you can trust and lean on to.

[lerrie]

its not a matter of how...just do it..and no but..keep yourself busy all the time focus on ur career hehe

[jiro]

unfathomable pain...

help pls...

tnx.. ...

i can relate but i guess time heal all wounds.
start with forgiveness.
the scar is still there but it doesnt hurt anymore.

be happy that she's now happy. move on.

even if she not with you, continue loving her i guess.
what's wrong with that? ^_^
i dont think i can force my self to stop loving her.
my heart has a mind of it's own.

tutal, God said, love your enemy ^_^. so i still do.

[public7enemy]

cut off your communication..........

[Tirong-say]

Just think about the pain that he inflicts, I do think it helps.....

[sandy2007]

i believe it does..focus your strength on the negative things that you have noticed from the person..you get stronger through anger and hatred..then learn to forgive..turn your back and never look back..when we say never look back..never allow yourself to reminisce on those sweet moments you had..otherwise you'll be back to zero.

[treize]

if you can still take the pain then go, but if you think it's too much then stop. think all the burden he gave you, all the heartaches he cause you, all the bad things he did to you, surely it will help you move on.