
Originally Posted by
nitwit
marriage is my eye opener. it made me realize that were no longer in the courting mode that anytime,i can dump him but it wont works that way anymore so before i have to let go,i have to make sure that theres gonna be no turning back and make sure that once i decided to move on, its really over and nothing worth to hold on anymore but in our case, we have so much to hold on to and as we were on that counselling stage, it was so scary.just the thought of loosing and starting life all over again by myself,i may be free but since i still love him,ill never be happy.
i came to a point where in while i was missing him,i put myself as were already divorce and the missing part is not the hardest part but its actually the fact that you once had the person but you let him/her go and that thought wake me up.we arent over yet,that means i still have the chance to save our marriage before it all goes away and ill be left with nothing.
this is always what im gonna remember after what happened to us, true love is not finding the perfect person, but its really about loving their imperfections and we come to love not by finding the perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
im so happy i posted this thread,it helped me alot.