HELP My Husband is a good man but I'm in love with someone else

[jrvillacortz]

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ako i suggest, don't intertain sa imong thoughts about the possibility nga mahimong kamo ana laing guy.....kon mahimo refrain from seeing him or communicating with him, kalimti sya sa hingpit.

sakto jud c mr. dj oh..kung ngon ana ka mka survive guru ka oi...

[maitoots]

ako i suggest, don't intertain sa imong thoughts about the possibility nga mahimong kamo ana laing guy.....kon mahimo refrain from seeing him or communicating with him, kalimti sya sa hingpit.

i super agree wd this 1 kay anha man gd na magsugod mkasala nka if imo i entertain ang thoughts nga what if kamo na unya duha, pagkanindot kha.... instead, remember your reasons why imo na gpakaslan imo bana, usahay man gud ang kinabuhi sa bana ug asawa mawad an ug flame kay ma bc na sa daghan lain butang, help yourself to work it out pd, tayhopa na ang baga arn mosiga ug balik unya sugnuri arn modako napud ang kayo ana jud na ang kaminyu on naay ups and downs, tngali karn usa ra sa inyo mga downs, dn't worry mo up rana basta ikaw mismo pd maningkamot nga dili ka magpabilin dha sa down.

bow.

[nitwit]

UPDATE: just got back in aus. when we were in philippines, we attended counselling and the counsellor told us to do only one thing, if it won't work still, then we can process the divorce. thats what he told us after hearing our story.
this is what he adviced us to do : he asked us how long are we gonna be staying in philippines, i told him its probably a month or two and then he asked again if we stayed at the same hotel room, we both said yes (cause were still married,this confused me abit,all his interrogations seemed to be illogical).
i was getting annoyed, i was even thinking on just seeing another counsellor. and this is what he finally said, one of us should move out of the hotel and look for a hotel somewhere else without letting the other one knows the hotel's name and place. next is, never communicate with each other nor see each other and then come back and see him 2 weeks before we fly back to aus to process our divorce.

my thoughts were (what the heck?his not helping at all!)instead of settling us after hearing our story, his gonna part us? isnt that ridiculous?

but this is what happened.

we did as we are told. he moved out, look for another hotel without me knowing. no communications at all. at first i enjoyed so much being myself. i felt carefree,happy and i must say that i really had a great time.(thats what i felt in a couple weeks) but as i started doing things, scuba diving, jet skiing, all the memories we had started to sink in my mind,day by day i started missing him,i even considered myself paranoid cause i had these bad thoughts of him. (now that i dont know where he is, he must be probably seeing someone else, or does he miss me any?)i started fearing whats going to happen to us once we see each other again. one thing is sure, it was the longest time that we were apart from each other, pros and cons but more on cons. i started feeling desperate on seeing him,so scared that he might fall inlove with someone else like i did and what if it will all come back to me? ive already forgotten the guy,oh well,i thought i was inlove with him but i wasnt, he was just sort of someone who i thought can fill up what i want and that is care. despite what the counsellor said, i rang him and it freaked me our even more when his phone was turned off. i started guessing what he is doing,and where is he staying. thoughts were juggling on my mind but one thing i was sure, once its all done and my partner falls to someone,im gonna kill the counsellor.no doubt.

exactly one month of not seeing each other, i got a call and lucky its him. i started interrogating him where is he staying and who is he with (like a jealous wife!) and he made it even worse when he told me that his not telling me anything cause thats what the counsellor said. (he wasnt even thinking that what he did (calling me)already made the damage.

anyways, i asked why he called,is he sick or whatsoever. he then told me not to tell the counsellor but he wants us to see each other (which is the same thing as what i want us to do).i realized i miss him terribly, i wasn enlightened,loosing him would be my greatest regret. i wont find a guy like him in this lifetime anymore.

so yeah, we started hanging out with each other again but still staying at different hotels.(without the counsellor knowing). we've done things together and it was so great. we both realized how much we've missed.

unfortunately, when we were at the beach, without our awareness, the counsellor was there too with his family. he approached us with this suspicious look and said, "ill take it as your both doing good now, no divorce anymore?"

we never talk about divorce or "us", i think we forgot about it or just dont wanna talk abou it instead just enjoy what we were doing.

we had a chat with the counsellor and ive apologized for my manners,i thought that it was all ridiculous but its all working. we had a great time and were more inlove with each other.


he promised that things gonna change once we come back to aus. so now were planning to go out of town again for a snow boarding.


thanks so much guys for all the adviced,im now in cloud nine. i saved my marriage. i know this seldom happens.,most marriages fail,lucky ours didnt and im so glad.

with the guy i thought i was inlove with,i havent heard of him anymore.i changed my number and i dont care about him anymore.im now sure i got the right one for me.

ive learnt my lesson so d*mn well.

there is never a wrong decision, its up to u on how u make it right.

[DRL]

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate

[monrose29]

congrats sis.. abi nako og wala pa ma settle kay ga think na gyud kog isa ka page nga ika advice nimo hahahaha...

[nitwit]

congrats sis.. abi nako og wala pa ma settle kay ga think na gyud kog isa ka page nga ika advice nimo hahahaha...

na settle najud intawon me.thanks god.im now happy and content with everything.

[monrose29]

important gyud ka ayo ang time sa relationship...

samot na imong hubby is in to business ma o gyud na common problem wala nay time sa inyo relationship.. if deli ka mosabot then imong attention ma adto gyud sa lain butang...

your relationship is bata pa ka ayo.. 2 years pa mo right? pila diay mo ka years nag on before mo ne decide to get married?

and at your age sis.. need gyud ka og time and attention sa imong hubby... then sya at age of 32 dako ka ayo obligation sa iyang business....

know nga na settle namo...think 1million times kung dapat ba ka ma inlove sa lain guy........

to add spice in your relationship.. cook something for him..prepare his coffee...give him flowers..or something nga maka catch sa iyang attention nga na-a diay sya asawa... ginagmay ra na nga butang compared anang inyong mga holiday vacation nga mo gasto mo og thousand2x... diving..og uban pa...

but ginagmay nga butang inyo nakalimtan which is being a wife to him and him being a husband...

[okoy]

CONGRATSSSSSSSSSSSSS....

Good it all finally came that you still love your husband....... Have a pleasant journey in life with your husband.

Good Day...

[sUnDoLp]

i'm very happy for you TS, i've been reading this thread for quite sometime and i learned a lot from it. i agree that time for each other is very important in marriage.

My wife and i are still 1year married and still have to experience a lot of obstacles. God Bless TS.

[juncarl143]

mao na dha.. di lagi mgpa tintal sa dakong aton.. aw unsa ba hehehe...