Weird Emotions & Infidelity?

[godwhacker]

i agree with mr fix.. its a lust.. coz she's longing to hug that somebody.. and besides.. why spending texting, chatting to that guy other than to her husband...

@selfcontrol888.
It would be better if adto lang na nimo i-spend imong texting or chatting ba kaha sa imo husband,anyway naay roaming, naay YM,. maka feel pa imo husband ug presense than ana imong biga-biga nga binisaya sa lust..

You hit the nail right in the head. Naa bitaw ko amigo nga marriage counselor diha sa Sto. Rosario. Ingun siya nga kadaghanan nga husbands moduol niya nga gikan sa abroad kay tua didto nagtrabaho mao jud kunoy reklamo nga ilang mga wives maayo lang mo txt sa lain pero di gani kuno maka txt nila bisan mangumusta na lang kung naunsa na sila. And most of the wives are always complaining nga ilang mga husbands dili sweet unsa pa ni unsa pa to.

To think ha nga tua ilang mga bana sa gawas na-nrabaho tawon para mabuhi ilang familya pero mao pay mga reklamador kaayo. Maayo lang dawat sa dollar pero di gani ka txt sa bana pag-ingon nalang nga "kumusta naman ka diha?" Miss U. Bisan kana nalang but once maka meet lang ug mga saag unya maayo kaayo nga mo bolatik sa txt. Sus! mogula dayon ang "I really want to HUG him".

And just to be candid to this married lady. I won't have any sympathy for you should your married life heads to ruin. In fact, if I were your husband and I would see your post and I'm pretty sure it is you my wife nga nag bigabiga diay diha samtang nagtrabaho ko sa gawas, bya-an ta gyud ka. Ako kuha-on mga bata and you can enjoy with your evil ways.

[selfcontrol888]

Thanks jimmy128 for defending me. The purpose of this forum is to facilitate growth, not to belittle others. Maybe they don't understand the rules and regulations of this forum. Or they just so overwhelmed by their negative thoughts and jumping to a conclusions without any further clarifications

Many factors can affect each one of us mentally, physically and emotionally. So based on comments above, almost all in this forum is perfect, except me.

Actually for you information godwhacker, everyday, I continue reflecting myself on what I really want and what is that i'm looking for. Now i'm very much certain that all I want is someone to talk to and can understand what I really feels. Siguro kung isulti nako dire tanan, dili ta maghuman.

I have many friends to talk to but they don't believe on what I really feels, everybody believes that I am a very strong woman with a very strong personality. That I am happy all the times. That I have no problems in life and no worries to think. Even my husband is very confident that I could handle everything. When I share my own problems to my friends, they just ignored me and throw me back questions like "IKAW PA? naay problema?" So, the tendency is, I'd rather not to share to them what I really feels since it's useless, right? It's very hard to find real friends.

My purpose of posting this topic in here is to find real meaning not for confusion and insult.

[godwhacker]

^^^ Well I think as married people like you and I we have to be very careful in what we post here to avoid getting misconstrued by the public. Try to read back your very first post and the last one above, and it is quite a contrast on what you mean. If I may have cause you some discomfort over my statements you have to understand that I am also a husband. Na picture lang nako nga unsa kaha no kung ako naa sa lugar sa imung husband and I have read your first post you must be sure I must be damn as you can imagine. I have no intention of insulting people and in the several posts so far, kadaghanan ilang advice is to caution you on your adventurism. Ug nagtoo ka nga nanginsulto ko, that is not my style. I just want you to realize that had I been in your husband's place, I would not hesitate to do on what I had pronounced earlier.

I can understand your admiration to Jimmy's advice. You simply need an advice that you feel would suit your need. In fact Jimmy warned you that he is not married and doesn't have a relationship right now but still waiting for somebody and I'm not discounting your wise judgement to listen to advice coming from a single person who still doesn't know the intricacies of a married life.

Way nakig-away nimo dire. The fact is the right medicine is hard to swallow labi na ug duna kay sakit. Mao man gani nga kadaghanan dire nitambag nimo nga dili maayo imong gibuhat. But it is up to you kay duna koy tulo ka igsoon nga OFW ikaupat ang seaman pero mga maayo man ilang mga wives kay they devote time nuon pa membro anang mga kapunungan sa simbahan just to make their time worthwhile samtang ilang mga bana nanginabuhi sa abroad. Ikaw siguro nasubrahan ug pangga sa imung bana mao nga daku ka ug idle time sa ka txt, chat ug uban pa. May God bless you.

[simoncpu]

The original poster is most likely fertile at the time of her posting. Evolution dictates that she must look for a mate in order to reproduce. Her chosen mate is physically away from her, so she is looking for someone to fill in the void. This is normal, as long as we recognize this and don't let emotions rule our lives.

[kuna_78]

hahaha first time pa ko dire ba, in ani diay ni ka seryus dire ang forum? bag-o pako ani da, taga probinsya lagi pero pwede ra pud ta mag post dire ug binuang?

kyuryus lang ko mga bro

[wally_ahls]

@selfcontrol888
Still not convince of the advice of the majority to take away..? well bitaw its your choice.. imo mana lyf.. Kinsa man me nga mopasunod nimo.. and besides were just stangers nga nasaag diri sa istorya.net..
Im agree with godwacker ky ako pud usa pud ka husband and planning to go abroad.. You were not in the shoe OF BEING A HUSBAND MAN GUD... try to revert the situation.. BUsy kaayo ka for a living then your husband is doing something like yours that wanting to HUG somebady.. di ba PAGKATOTOY...

[Meebo]

hehehe... look at the facts.. your husband is away, someone is filling in the void.. with that said..its obvious you are just missing your husband. and you said your husband isnt sweet when your together.. why did you marry him in the first place? i know it isnt just about the sweetness and the yada yada yada.. there has to be something in your husband that makes your insides tingle.. ayeeeee.. find ways to communicate with your husband.. instead of talking with this other guy.. WHO is MARRIED by the way.. not that i am insinuating that there is something going on between the two of you.. but i am merely suggesting that you avoid it.. because.. in my point of view, you are infatuated.. im 22 years old.. and i have the same problem.. though we are not married... i consistently talk with this other girl.. i could easily let go of my GF.. considering that we are not married and she is somewhere out of my reach.. but... when i looked at things.. and i turned to "THE MAN UPSTAIRS".. when you ask God for love.. does he Give you love? or does he give you the OPPORTUNITY to love..? go find ways to communicate with your husband.. he's what you need.. not some other guy.. opinion lang po.. although i know.. the other guy would make a great friend.. but for now.. he is not what you need.. its your man!! you just miss him! once again.. opinion lang po.. ^^

[CountCless]

^^^ Well I think as married people like you and I we have to be very careful in what we post here to avoid getting misconstrued by the public. Try to read back your very first post and the last one above, and it is quite a contrast on what you mean. If I may have cause you some discomfort over my statements you have to understand that I am also a husband. Na picture lang nako nga unsa kaha no kung ako naa sa lugar sa imung husband and I have read your first post you must be sure I must be damn as you can imagine. I have no intention of insulting people and in the several posts so far, kadaghanan ilang advice is to caution you on your adventurism. Ug nagtoo ka nga nanginsulto ko, that is not my style. I just want you to realize that had I been in your husband's place, I would not hesitate to do on what I had pronounced earlier.

I can understand your admiration to Jimmy's advice. You simply need an advice that you feel would suit your need. In fact Jimmy warned you that he is not married and doesn't have a relationship right now but still waiting for somebody and I'm not discounting your wise judgement to listen to advice coming from a single person who still doesn't know the intricacies of a married life.

Way nakig-away nimo dire. The fact is the right medicine is hard to swallow labi na ug duna kay sakit. Mao man gani nga kadaghanan dire nitambag nimo nga dili maayo imong gibuhat. But it is up to you kay duna koy tulo ka igsoon nga OFW ikaupat ang seaman pero mga maayo man ilang mga wives kay they devote time nuon pa membro anang mga kapunungan sa simbahan just to make their time worthwhile samtang ilang mga bana nanginabuhi sa abroad. Ikaw siguro nasubrahan ug pangga sa imung bana mao nga daku ka ug idle time sa ka txt, chat ug uban pa. May God bless you.

wheew! i have learned a lot from you! thanks! this isnt meant for me but at least, it helped ,