Protecting Yourself In Getting Hurt

[Soul_Captive]

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I've always believed that when you feel the pain, then you know for sure that it is real..It is an indicator that what you feel is true..

[ierolennail]

hurt..pain...will always be part of life..no matter how hard we try,it will always be there to help us grow and learn from our mistakes..as what iv read "it hurts the moment you begin to care" and its so true..i think what you mean is that how will you be able to lessen the pain and not totally avoid it..its just a matter of making decisions that you know would be more tolerable..

[tamse]

i know getting hurt and feeling pain is normal... but how can we AT LEAST lessen the pain or AVOID THE PAIN.. dbuh? para way cry2x... but agree ko ninyo, nga its totally part of our life...

[ierolennail]

i know getting hurt and feeling pain is normal... but how can we AT LEAST lessen the pain or AVOID THE PAIN.. dbuh? para way cry2x... but agree ko ninyo, nga its totally part of our life...

lessen the pain??hmmm...don't let yourself get attach tooooooooo much..dha man gud na musakit maayo if ihurot nmu hatag tanan..with your trust na 100%..give something for your own so that mag kinaunsa man,you still have something for yourself to move on..

[seira]

Getting hurt is a FACT of life and will always be part of loving. If you chose to love, be prepared to get hurt. Only the ones we love is capable of hurting us, and that doesn't necessarily mean ilang gituyo.

If you don't to want to get hurt, don't love. Himuang bato imo kasing². Ang downside lang, di sad ka malipay. hehe

I'd rather go thru a ton of pain for an ounce of happiness, than to feel nothing at all.

i totally agree on this..
love=hurt.. but it doesn't mean nga love ke love na lng jud gihapon ky part mn dw ni! hurt in a way nga you felt you're being loved but along the way naa lng jud pud mga misunderstanding that would surely hurt you in the long run.. pro if at the start pa lng, hurt and hurt ra jud pud,well better check yourself if you're giving your love ba to the right person.. no, no to martyrdom! spcialy sa bf-gf relationship pa lng, ky not gani makaya ang attitude at that stage pa lng, never think at marriage mausob na (at some, yes.. but so rare..),. most of the time mas pa kamaot nga attitude ang mogawas ana..

mind over heart..

[candy_ytal]

so far.. wla raman jd ko gibuhat.. i guess that's the life's cycle or love cycle.. no matter how many times we tried to avoid or limit ourselves in order for us not to get hurt, but still it will happen.. coz' tao raman jd tah.. like what other people will say, you will never be that strong or mature enough if it wasn't for the hurts, pain, trials and challenges in your life..

[Fallen6]

why fear pain?
ala man gani nahadlok ang gino-o nga ginoo na siya mismo.
kita na kaha? getting hurt will always be a part of our lives.
the only way through this is by being able to endure it...
no point in running away from it if we remain fragile and weak.
dont protect yourself from getting hurt but rather make yourselves tougher.
dba?

[Fern]

let me tell you something about the Art of War..

sun stzu said that the great General can win a War without drawing out the Sword

its a matter of knowing how the situation will progress and control it. in simple stuff

[cp103]

hmm.. just wondering gi unsa sa ubang tao pag protect sa ilang kaugalingon sa mga kasakit sa world..
I know that pain is normal to feel.. pero at least you tried to avoid in getting yourself hurt buh...
like for example, you we're betrayed by your best friend, how did you avoid na mahitabo nsad ni, nga di mausab mahitabo nimo as far as you could do..

pati sad sa mga gugma2x... how did you protect your heart nga di nka totally ma hurt..

sa mga wa pa ka agi ug mga kasakit nga ingon ani, gi unsa sad ninyo pag aviod nga maka try mo ug ingon ani..


mods, if this thread doesn't belong here, aw..paki move.. peace!

ahhhh, a very familiar question. prepare for a long one tamse,hehehe... where's your old ava na day? i like it better.

btaw wui, you know what tamse, it's good that you know that getting hurt is part of life, and you know what tamse? the answer to your question is already a part of the question? confused? ok, look at this, protecting from GETTING HURT? gets mo nah tamse? getting hurt is the way of protecting yourself from getting hurt over and over, coz if you don't get hurt, you will never learn anything so you won't try to do anything about it in the 1st place. it goes without saying that after getting hurt though, that you LEARN from your experience and try not to do the mistakes that you did. You see tamse, getting hurt is not the hard part, the hard part is learning from the experience, i mean, how many people out there do you know nga wala jud natagam, kay bsag kabalo na nga dili jud dapat buhaton kay cg jud ug balik2x ug buhat?

another thing d.ay about getting hurt, and this goes especially to all indecisive people. KNOW YOUR PRIORITIES, AND KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND BE HONEST TO YOURSELF. the reason i said this is because I've witnessed a lot of people already nga bsan pa ug kabalo na sila nga bati, they don't do anything to improve the situation, example nlng gud oh dri sa istorya, how many threads have you read nga naay title that suggest the idea .... " help, my bf/gf/husband/wife is cheating and i don't know what to do?"... dagahn na dba? they already know what they need to do but because they are so blinded by their emotions, and because they don't want to accept reality, that's why they keep on getting hurt over and over and over...etc...

so tamse, don't be afraid to get hurt, coz the more you get hurt, the more you are making yourself stronger and wiser person. what is important is how quickly you learn from your experience of getting hurt from a situation, and how deeply your willing to go to accept the truth about such situations.

and oh, about your questions, here are my answers:

a traitor bestfriend: luckily, next time, you will become better in choosing who you become close with, and be better at reading who a person really is, you can gain that knowledge by getting hurt and learning from it.

love and romantic relationship: falling in love is always a gamble, always has, always will be. you know why? because of the fact that you will never know if the person will hurt you or not, and the only way you can find out is by being in the relationship. it's not a matter of how to avoid getting hurt much, but rather, what is important is how fast your willing to accept the truth of the matter and stand up and move on.

people who haven't tried getting hurt: there is no such person in this earth nga wala ka.experience ug hurt my dear,and if naa man gani, i would say poor them, coz they are the weakest of the weak. Remember, the person that gets hurt a lot is the person that becomes a strong person. provided that that person gets the proper care and attention (e.i. a friends' comfort during your time of distress)

[tamse]

kuya alexander saonz, mas gnhan ko ani kay gwapa kaau ko nga ani nga ava..hahahaha

yeah.. ok ra man ma hurt... but the main thought is, how to lessen it... how to at least avoid it... dbuh!..