ok na mo sa girl.. pero hadlok lng xa sa reaction sa iyang parents if masakpan nga...

[babypaupau]

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you have that kind of thinking because of the trauma you have encountered based on what your sisters have experience...that seems normal and your opinion is your opinion, yet, we all have different ways of thinking so i think it would be better to guide without cease but refrain from becoming tyrant...

this one i agree with.

although the parents' fear are rational and makes a lot of sense, you also have to consider that your children's lives are not yours. they were brought into the world thru you and you raised them, gave them good education, shelter and everything they needed since day 1.

we, parents can only influence our children, guide them and provide for them because that is our obligation. we owe it to the One who gave them to us. if you always tell your daughters (or children) what to do and not to do, its more likely they will take that as something negative. ni agi man ta ana tanan at some point na di ta ganahan maminaw sa atong parents when they tell us off. so ur actually doing more damage than good...rebellion is innate and there's nothing you can do to stop it. you can only pacify it but not get rid of it.

my mom practices what is called authoritative style of parenting...thats how we all grew up. she let us do whatever we want, make decisions for ourselves based on our own reasoning and judgement...we made mistakes along the way but we learned. and that is how we learn, by experience. by making mistakes. so i think that is the best way to do it. open communication between the parents and children is key.

[technowar]

Easy for you to say.

Let me hear about it when your daughter got pregnant before she graduates.

So basin mao na ni ang iya way sir, of being rebellious? Kay dili ka mosugot naa siya uyab because of what happened to your sisters, who got pregnant. In other hand, you have a point kay dako pa kaayo ka ug plans for your daughter then in an instant, buntisan ra sa uyab who can't support your daughter and ila baby. Naa man jud na ang fear sa parents nga mabuntis or mkabuntis ila anak. And yeah, I think your sacrifices, she took it for granted

[hobie]

hmm from a son/daughters side ko ha kay dili pman ko parent.

I had a gf nga iya parents dili gsto mg uyab2 xa, so secret tanan iya relationship and she was real bitch. grr

I also had a gf na iya parents maoy ga encourage niya kay cge lang atubang daw ug libro, we graduated together and she was one of our few cum laude sa amo batch

I have a kumare, very strict gyud iya parents, very protective. She end up getting pregnant before our graduation.

"What I can say, if you parents think that your daughter is responsible enough, let her explore. Let her explore if you believe that her partner is also responsible enough" If either one is not, then I'll have to agree with Soul Doctor in that case.

[babypaupau]

depende sa upbringing sa bata. ako mutuo jud ko na whatever the children becomes, 90% of that is because of how their parents brought them up.

[radnop]

kung ako ang ginikanan, mas maayo pa mu sugot nalang ko mag uyab2 akong anak kung college na para sa balay mamisita ang laki kaysa magtago2 unya inig kahuman burot dayon ang tiyan sa akong anak. di pa jud ko kahibaw kung maayo ba ang laki or dili. parents should undrstand kung unsay feelings sa ilang mga anak and suport them all the way. makahatag pa kag adive ug mka guide sa ilang relationship.. much better kung imo anak close nimo para musulti sya sa tanan niya problems, kalipay, etc... ug kitang mga anak, lets be honest with our parents lang sad para harmonious atong pagpuyo.. theres nothing wrong about uyab2 basta ibutang sa saktong panahon ang pag s** (minyo).. di ta mag una una kay kad**** ra kaayo ang lami pero ang pag antos walay kahumanan. sakto bah? ambot lang pud sa uban..

[j.alob]

pa undangi na nila.... wala pa sa right time kung mag ulaw ulaw...

igat lang na dagway nila

[jadestoner]

sa ako lng point of view..

dba lahi raman ang "fear" kaysa "respect"?
and dba its better to be respected than to be feared.
as a son i respect my parents because they listen to my side of the story.
kasabot ra sad ko sa parents nga strict because i know that they are just looking out for the welfare of their children.
but when will be the right time for parents to start letting go of their children?
there are things in life that neither the school or the parents could teach.

[noigwen]

1 year and two months na mi sa ako uyab, pero wla pa jud ko niya gipaila2 sa iya parents.. bawal man gud daw.. sabot na lang sad ko.. hehehe

[babypaupau]

sa ako lng point of view..

dba lahi raman ang "fear" kaysa "respect"?
and dba its better to be respected than to be feared.
as a son i respect my parents because they listen to my side of the story.
kasabot ra sad ko sa parents nga strict because i know that they are just looking out for the welfare of their children.
but when will be the right time for parents to start letting go of their children?
there are things in life that neither the school or the parents could teach.

i so totally agree. why keep our children from learning? their mistakes and problems will teach them and what they'll learn will get them through their life. parents should remember that they will not be around forever so their children needs to be equipped and prepared when they're thrown out to sea. its a harsh world out there and parents can only do so much for their children. lisod ug mag agad and mag depend sa comforts nga mahatag sa parents kay maglisod nya ug barog on their own.

[Soul Doctor]

Parents also can see if their daughter is responsible.
If only I have a responsible daughter,
then I would encourage her to have a boyfriend.

Pero if dili gani mo sulod sa klase kay nagduwa og Dota.
How much more if she has a boyfriend?

Girls should also show to their parents that they are responsible enough
to handle relationships while studying.

What kind of parents would say no to their daughter if she's top ten of their class?