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[Soul Doctor]

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Hello Doc,
Why I feel this way like I'm jealous or afraid that my mr. unavailable ex will turn amazingly great partner to his new found girl? We didn't have closure to our past relationship. He left me with that new found girl in his office. But still he keeps calling/ asking how I am, clinging on my personal life. Though I apply the 60-day no contact rule, but I slide sometimes. But I'm trying to fulfill it. Yun nga lang, sometimes I get mad/jealous that he will turn out to be a super nice guy na to other girl but not a chance with me. Why Im feeling this bah?

Don't worry.
He sounds like a player to me.
No use wasting your time on him.

Normal lang na nga you feel jealous.
But your pain is on the thought that you've lost what could have been a perfect man for you.
But, he is not the right man for you. He is a player.
The way he easily replaced you means you already lost him a long time ago.
But players still want to play with the toys they already broke or threw away.
It gives them power (in their mind) to think they can play with any women anytime.
Forget the guy.
Find yourself a keeper.

[V@nity]

Thanks, there are times gani na I'm afraid na he'll turn to be a nice guy coz I wish him bad luck. I know he's not that into me. I thought after his hell experiences from the past that he already had 4kids already from diff. woman, dn na shot pa jud ko sa taro nya. I tot that kind of man will change coz mao iyang g-assure nko atong nanguyab pa xa na he's tired. But why man tawn oi, wala pay bunyag among bb he's ****ing somebody else na. Hayyy, I made the breakup beforehand rather than holding on for long and wake up that I have been replaced by skinny woman. I used to be skinny before I got pregnant. 2months old pa bb ko. And he even asked me where's the sweet and skinny girl in me. He's really an assclown prick.

[rod_x]

Once naay mahitabo nga ingon ana duna jud na siyay consequence sa inyong usag-usa.
Next time.
Ayaw na lang isulti tanan.
Although ang babae gustog honesty.
But they can not handle the truth that well.
That goes with men too.
Sometimes what they do not know wont hurt them.
But since andyan na yan,
wala ka nang magawa kundi i-prove na dimo na gagawin iyon uli.
It will take time.
ayaw lang kasuko nga lahi ang inyong reactions kaysa imong gi-expect.
Its clear that you can not live without each other for now.
But you must acknowledge that it is also painful for her to know that she has been betrayed.
Just understand that. Do anything to console her.
Be sensitive with her feelings more next time.

mao pod. but definitely im not doing it again.
di nako ma.handle ang drama u stress ui. haiz.
pero kung mg.communicate pa mi sa 3rd party,
di ba gihapon na 'cheating'?
for the sake of the friendship lang unta.
kay friend man gud to nako. and somehow ni.care pa pod ko niya.
but not as much as i care sa feelings sa ako uyab.
and im gonna make it clear lng, wa koi plano nga manguyab ato niya.
naanad lang ko magcge mi talk sa fone.

ingnon nako ako uyab nga nag.commu gihapon mi?
or should i just keep it to myself but swear never to cross the line again..?

[kathcute_rose]

@ doki

naa koy problem with my self lang jud ai...im so in love sa akong boyfriend and wala nakoy naha bilin sa akong self.. and gusto ko everyday me magkita kay kung dili me magkita mainis ko then mura kog maboang thenmao mangaway na hinuon ko niya... then dili sad siya kabuhat ana kay tungod sa schedule niya sa iyang duty... lahi lahi.. usahay ma AM, PM or graveyard...then akong problem unsa man akong buhaton kay di jud nako ma control akong self ai... labi na ma boring ko mag cge kog pangita niya.. then everytime makig lakaw ko sa akng friends di ko happy... akong huna hunaon siya jud.. then kung ganahn ko mkoyog sa mga EB EB sa bosacolz iya kong bawalan.. ma enjoy man jud ko nila jud kay ma pa happy ko nila unlike jud sa akong mga friends jud na sauna nako kaila... mga boring kaau kakuyog.. pero if mo adto ko sa EB nila kay ma enjoy jud ko... unsa man akong buhaton? basin one day tungod sa akong batasan kay cge ko pangaway kay tungod di siya kahatag sa time basin unya ma pul.an niya siya nako bah... then mahadlok ko.. naa sd ko pagka paranoid ai.. mulakaw lang siya gusto ko mokuyog ko then if di ko pakuyogon niya magnluod daun ko... naa man ko trust niya pero im so happy lang jud kong naa siya sa akong kilid.. unsa akong buhaton ani? wa na koy control.. naluoy ko sa akong self.. naa koy dapat usbon sa akong batasan?

[Fern]

If you have pride as big as mine,
then you would not entertain her anymore.
I know I would not.

To get over her means you have to have closure.
You can have closure---
If you yourself want or need closure.
You can talk with her.
Find out her reasons.
It does not hurt to know.
No promises, no commitments.

mao lage doc... i dont wan to hear the reasons . but i will try

[Soul Doctor]

Thanks, there are times gani na I'm afraid na he'll turn to be a nice guy coz I wish him bad luck. I know he's not that into me. I thought after his hell experiences from the past that he already had 4kids already from diff. woman, dn na shot pa jud ko sa taro nya. I tot that kind of man will change coz mao iyang g-assure nko atong nanguyab pa xa na he's tired. But why man tawn oi, wala pay bunyag among bb he's ****ing somebody else na. Hayyy, I made the breakup beforehand rather than holding on for long and wake up that I have been replaced by skinny woman. I used to be skinny before I got pregnant. 2months old pa bb ko. And he even asked me where's the sweet and skinny girl in me. He's really an assclown prick.

See?
The problem with girls is they assume that guys like him will change.
But the truth is- it will get worse and worse.

The same thing with guy that are:

Smokers
Drinkers
Gamblers
Drug Addicts
Womanizers

Never ever think for a moment
that they will change because they love you.
That may be their "script".
But trust me, they'll never change for the better.

[achibaby]

sir, akong bf ba always mkalimot sa amo monthsary and also anniversary... angay ba ko masuko? importante ba nang mga butanga? para nako importante man gud na unya mura ra ug wala nia...

[Soul Doctor]

@ doki

naa koy problem with my self lang jud ai...im so in love sa akong boyfriend and wala nakoy naha bilin sa akong self.. and gusto ko everyday me magkita kay kung dili me magkita mainis ko then mura kog maboang thenmao mangaway na hinuon ko niya... then dili sad siya kabuhat ana kay tungod sa schedule niya sa iyang duty... lahi lahi.. usahay ma AM, PM or graveyard...then akong problem unsa man akong buhaton kay di jud nako ma control akong self ai... labi na ma boring ko mag cge kog pangita niya.. then everytime makig lakaw ko sa akng friends di ko happy... akong huna hunaon siya jud.. then kung ganahn ko mkoyog sa mga EB EB sa bosacolz iya kong bawalan.. ma enjoy man jud ko nila jud kay ma pa happy ko nila unlike jud sa akong mga friends jud na sauna nako kaila... mga boring kaau kakuyog.. pero if mo adto ko sa EB nila kay ma enjoy jud ko... unsa man akong buhaton? basin one day tungod sa akong batasan kay cge ko pangaway kay tungod di siya kahatag sa time basin unya ma pul.an niya siya nako bah... then mahadlok ko.. naa sd ko pagka paranoid ai.. mulakaw lang siya gusto ko mokuyog ko then if di ko pakuyogon niya magnluod daun ko... naa man ko trust niya pero im so happy lang jud kong naa siya sa akong kilid.. unsa akong buhaton ani? wa na koy control.. naluoy ko sa akong self.. naa koy dapat usbon sa akong batasan?

Yes!
You are choking him.
You may be obsessive.

Try working.
Wash your clothes.
Clean the house.
Cook food.
Make some money by buying and selling.

Maybe you are not used to doing this activities.
But this is what you need to do to have self worth.

You girls think that you need boys to be happy.
You do not.
You just have to empower yourself internally.
Meaning, you learn woman skills.
Survival skills.
Once you have all of this,
then boys will see you as someone worth loving
or men will see you as someone worth marrying.

And they will come running after you, not the other way around.

[Soul Doctor]

sir, akong bf ba always mkalimot sa amo monthsary and also anniversary... angay ba ko masuko? importante ba nang mga butanga? para nako importante man gud na unya mura ra ug wala nia...

Guilty jud ko ani ai.
Men normally do not remember dates and birthdays and anniversaries.
If they do remember, it is because they have a system to remind them.
It not a big deal.
Not unless he has nothing to do.
Or he is just in the house and nothing to be busy about.
Then he should have all the time to take effort in remembering those things.
Pero pag busy siya palagi, excused na na siya.

[achibaby]

^^sir, nya d man cya busy.. gikapoy na lagi ko..pasagdaan nlang cguro nako..thanks sir