HELP My Husband is a good man but I'm in love with someone else

[Jack Ryan]

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put it this way sir, i do have a business as well,i do work but i always organize my time to do my household chores, i do my duties as a wife,i cook,i clean the house and yet i still have spare time to spend with him but he doesnt have any time for me. my feelings for him was sort of pass on to someone else due to i've felt that i am being neglected.

you know him better than us, you know how to deal with him and i hope you know that the person who's luring you is just taking advantage of your weaknesses.

we don't know who you are or what you are. what do you expect from these strangers (including me)? could give you definite advises to your situation? i don't think so. i suggest end this thread and talk to someone that you can trust, someone who is familiar to both of you (your husband and you).

don't be a nitwit, like your username. you can do better than this one.

please don't forget to say Thank you to all the strangers who quoted you.

[cute_me]

yeah its never easy to break away from your feelings..
but the overused "follow your heart" phrase also has limitations..
if you want the other guy, then i think your husband deserves to know what's going on..
but if you dont want to disappoint your husband, then you've got to stay away from the new guy..
its a matter of choice sis, not that easy but its easier than (dont get me wrong) just following your heart and having to face the consequences later..
you have to make a major decision..
but if i were to make them for you, i would probably want you to stay with your husband..
love doesnt grow overnight, but eventually it will grow, just as long as you dont do things for it not to..
if you want nga uncomplicated, and if you have even just a little of the care, love or even respect left for your husband, then make it work, and give all your effort to it.. after all, that's what married couples are for.. give your husband a chance...be fair to him..set aside the other guy and focus on him, he deserves it, after all, you said he's been good to you..and its your obligation since you are his wife..

but if all your energy has been squeezed out of you, and it still doesnt work, then take a deep breath, have him sit in a chair and talk to him,,,that way, you would hurt him, for sure. . but a lot less than keeping it from him and misleading him.. and you wouldnt have to spend your life with the guy you love, still being half-happy because you hurt someone...

[cute_me]

i hope that helps....

[raizene]

think first before you do so.....basin ugma ulahi na ang tanan....lol

[009]

@nitwit - i didnt read everything na imu gi post ka medyo taas2 sad siya but ang akong ikatambag nimu karon base lang sa mga pasiuna nimu gisulti kabahin sa imu sitwasyon karon...

una - make things work out bet you and ur husband..do everything..remember na kasal namo and dili na basta2 lang...nisulod ka sa kaminyuon tungod kay nahigugma mo sa usag-usa..kung naa man gani nawala pingitaa ug balik...what im trying to say is buhata sa ang tanan para ma save ang inyu relationship...

ikaduha - ang imong gibato karon anang lakiha (dili imong bana) kay medyo matawag na taphaw lang... nganu naka-ingun ko nga taphaw? syempre sa imung gikaingun cge mo ug away and dili mo magkasinabot sa imu bana unya naay laki nga totally opposite niya, so murag ang nahitabo kay nabalhin ang imong pagbati nga para unta sa imong bana sa dihang nakaila ka anang lakiha nga totally opposite niya...but you have to remember sad maam nga dili nimu mahibaw-an ug makit-an ang tinuod nga color sa usa ka taw... bisan pa tingali ug pila namo katuig nagkaila ug nakuyug dili jud ta kaingun nga kaila na ka sa usa ka taw...even gani kita ma shock ta sato kaugalingun nganu naa tay nabuhat, makaingun ta usahay nga " hala! dili man to ako ui"...in short maam, i asses imu feelings... its a good thing na wala pa moy anak... maau na imong gibuhat nga nibakasyon ka dri balik sa pinas para maka huna-huna ka ug klaro BUT ingna na ang laki nga you need space to think, kung tinud-anay jud siya nimu mosabot na siya..

ikatulo - kung unsa man gani imu decision siguroha nga dili ka magmahay... usa ka mosulod ug laing relasyon mapa legal man or illegal make sure that wala nakay lain business or tulubagon sa lain taw..

ika-upat ug katapusan - try to pray for guidance maam... dont take me wrong ha but i-try lang sa ug buhat ang tanan...mga butang na wala pa nimu nabuhat para i-save ang inyung kaminyuon..ana lang.

[raizene]

work things out between sa imo bana, nya tug an sa tinood ug nganu ingun ana imoha na feel....aw aron madali ug asa ka nalipay, hala adto............

[nitwit]

am you know bro naka solti na sad ko ani niya pero ambot lang onsa man gyu iya rason nano na wagtangan siyag gana except lang cgoro kung iyang hsuban nag bino-ang na lang gyud walay ka usaban mas maayo na maka storya sila sa iyang husband

if you have read my previous post maam i said there that i married him cause he wasnt like this before. it all happened 3 months after our marriage when he took offer the family business. he was an easy going guy, but after he handled the business, everything has changed. he said he doesnt have an option, he doesnt want to fail his parents. but at least we talk now, i can already see changes since ive opened up with him about the other guy.

[Soul Doctor]

if you have read my previous post maam i said there that i married him cause he wasnt like this before. it all happened 3 months after our marriage when he took offer the family business. he was an easy going guy, but after he handled the business, everything has changed. he said he doesnt have an option, he doesnt want to fail his parents. but at least we talk now, i can already see changes since ive opened up with him about the other guy.

Marriage is a series of stages.
Women always thinks that the man changes after marriage.
But it is only natural for relationships to undergo changes.
Thats the nature of life.

For your example,
3 months after marriage he took over his family business.
That, means that the first three months is the honeymoon stage.
Everything you do should always be sweet and romantic.
But reality sinks in.
This is where the married life begin.
You have to work to survive.
You have to work harder to have a brighter future for the family.
This is the "I will plan for my future- stage".
You should not compare it to the honeymoon stage.
Or you will disappoint yourself.
If you have a baby, that is another stage.
Totally different from the honeymoon stage, too.

If you have another baby, thats another stage too.
It is all a series of marital stages that couples go through.
Problems occur
when the wife compares these stages to the honeymoon stage
or the boyfriend-girlfriend stage.

Accept the reality maam.
You are not in the honeymoon stage anymore.
You are in the stage where your husband is in the-
"I want to have a bright future for my family"- stage.

thats the difference between a man and a woman.
women are more nearsighted than men --
when it comes to planning for the future..
Women wants to focus on today and the everyday needs.

[heavenknws]

sis stick with your anabs jud. save your marriage. kana kay imo man nang gipakaslan.............

[rickflag]

Marriage is a series of stages.
Women always thinks that the man changes after marriage.
But it is only natural for relationships to undergo changes.
Thats the nature of life.

For your example,
3 months after marriage he took over his family business.
That, means that the first three months is the honeymoon stage.
Everything you do should always be sweet and romantic.
But reality sinks in.
This is where the married life begin.
You have to work to survive.
You have to work harder to have a brighter future for the family.
This is the "I will plan for my future- stage".
You should not compare it to the honeymoon stage.
Or you will disappoint yourself.
If you have a baby, that is another stage.
Totally different from the honeymoon stage, too.

If you have another baby, thats another stage too.
It is all a series of marital stages that couples go through.
Problems occur
when the wife compares these stages to the honeymoon stage
or the boyfriend-girlfriend stage.

Accept the reality maam.
You are not in the honeymoon stage anymore.
You are in the stage where your husband is in the-
"I want to have a bright future for my family"- stage.

thats the difference between a man and a woman.
women are more nearsighted than men --
when it comes to planning for the future..
Women wants to focus on today and the everyday needs.

nicely said. the problem with some women is that they always compare the nows and the thens. like saying "sa uyab pa ta sweet pa kaau ka. pirmi ko nimo i date every saturday's. karon di na.". they don't see that even if we liked to, we just find it hard to time. lisud pangita ug kuarta para ibuhi imo pamilya.