To have or not have children?

[pleeep123]

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kung financialy steady na oki na au,...

[mannyamador]

Contraception and the Sexual Revolution
Janet E. Smith
http://www.aodonline.org/aodonline-s...Revolution.pdf

The modern world considers contraception one of the most important discoveries of the late twentieth century. And rightly so, in a sense, for our modern lifestyle is in large part made possible by contraception. Thus it is no surprise that the Church’s condemnation of contraception is one of its most controversial teachings.

The sexual revolution of the sixties was a true revolution; our understanding and practice of *** changed radically. Contraception made *** outside of marriage “doable” in an unprecedented way. The modern world thinks of *** as a momentary pleasure that requires no commitment to one’s sexual partner nor to any children that may result. Pregnancy is now considered largely an “accident” of sexual intercourse. The landscape of our lives is now cluttered with individuals damaged by unsuccessful “love” affairs (was true love really involved?), broken marriages, children born out of wedlock (1 in 3 are) and women and men hurt by abortions (nearly 1 in 3 pregnancies is aborted).

The Church considers *** one of God’s great gifts to mankind -- a gift that, when misused, can result in terrible unhappiness, a gift that, when respected, can nurture true human happiness. All traditional moralities teach that *** should be reserved for marriage for two reasons -- because it signals and cements a deep personal relationship and because children need two parents committed to each other. God made *** as a means for men and women to bond in a powerful and committed way and so that through an act of love they could bring forth new lives, the result of their love and a new source of love.

For the Church, as for God, love, marriage, *** and children are meant to be a package deal. God entrusted spouses with the power of bringing forth new souls -- souls that God wants with Him for an eternity. The refusal to leave sexual intercourse open to the possibility of children is to reject the live-giving power of sexual intercourse and to diminish the total self-giving meant to define sexual intercourse. It is to treat one’s sexual “partner” not as one’s treasured beloved to whom one is totally and uniquely committed but as a replaceable *** object.

The Church recognizes the morality of the use of methods of natural family planning to space or limit family size. NFP is totally ecologically sound -- it does not require placing dangerous chemicals in one’s body. It is also extremely effective -- not only as a means of controlling one’s family size but also for creating strong marriages. A very high percentage of couples using NFP report great satisfaction with it largely because of increased respect for each other and increased self-respect. NFP helps individuals achieve self-mastery in the sexual realm, a virtue that spills over into other facets of life as well. NFP couples speak of enhanced communication, greater intimacy, selflessness, and cooperation. Happy marriages are uncommon; couples following the Church’s teaching on sexuality seem to have them at an astonishingly high rate. Indeed, there is evidence that NFP couples rarely divorce.

Some of us believe that when the rest of the world comes to see the sense of the Church’s teaching, they too will have happier marriages, children, and lives.

[mich_pink03]

to have.. pro lau pah kaau oi.. wla pku naghuna2x ana..

[Princess Padme]

mas nindot kung naa moy kids. ako newly wed pa s0 unya lang magkids family plannning sa. but we're open f0r adoption ba kung di mi pagkalooban ni Papa God or we'll grow old together lang ng ak0ng bana.

[icon_king]

if you ask me, bisag mu kwarta paka ug minilyon ug wala kay anak, lahi ra gyud. money cannot buy happiness. there are some things money cant buy and that is having kids. Unsaon man nimo ug milyonaryo ka ug baog mo or you cannot make babies or your wife cant give birth. lahi ra gyud ang naay anak

[Sol_Itaire]

^but there are people who can't bear children, bro. do you mean to say they can't be happy?

Oprah doesn't have kids but she is mommy to the girls in her leadership academy in south africa.

Happiness is a personal thing.

[elmariachi]

mas nindot kung naa moy kids. ako newly wed pa s0 unya lang magkids family plannning sa. but we're open f0r adoption ba kung di mi pagkalooban ni Papa God or we'll grow old together lang ng ak0ng bana.

wla p gni mo ka bb..tapos family planning na daun?!!!..wat's d point?!!!!

[Raikage1]

family person gani ka.....there should be children...

many said that a ladys peak is motherhood and I agree

[thaDUKE]

ganahan ko if naa koy stable job or akong ma asawa bahalag mo work cya nya naa rako sa haus nabali na hin00n hahah

[xxSTARLIGHT]

to have.,. at the right moment =) i love to see my next generation