HELP I found a C*nd*m inside our car

[girlychick09]

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According to him, the girl is just a one night stand, wala na kuno sila nagkita after that night. kaila ra kuno to sa iya amigo. ako siya gi ingnan nga i am going to leave him and i cannot accept his unfaithfulness. he did cry so hard, telling me how much he regret it. dili na kuno ma ulit..
i want to give him another chance but i know that it is a very very long process. everytime i look at him, lain na ang ako gi huna2x. i don't even want to touch him, feeling nako siya na pinaka hugaw sa tanan.. he is under martial law karon, i get all his credit cards, atm and just give him a 200/day allowance. even coins ako kuhaon ... ako na sad magpa gas sa iya car to make sure wala mabilin niya na money.
People, do you think sakto ako gibuhat karon? is it right na ako siya gi tagaan ug regulations?

again, thanks for all the advices...

[wardrobe_onlineshop]

dont jump into conclusion lang sa sis..just investigate lang sa then if you that his really lying you should talk to him first b4 you go to desission..

[wardrobe_onlineshop]

so you mean nga nag gamit sya ug girl....i mean he betrayed you??+OMG+

[wardrobe_onlineshop]

just forgive him..but we cant force you to trust him..kay ing ana nga instance its really hard to give back the trust that you gave him b4...it takes years...

[wardrobe_onlineshop]

think it twice lisd gyd na sya may pa sa math naa pa formula...

[SIKWATE]

I found a c*nd*m inside our car last night while nag take out mi ug food sa usa ka resto. my hubby was the one who ordered and i stayed in the car lang. while waiting, i was suppose to get my LTO renewal application nga akong gibutang sa kilid sa driver sit door and when i opened it, OMG! i found a small box of c*nd*m!! box contains 3pcs and when i checked it, 2 pcs na lang!!! mura jud ko giliguan ug ice, as in! when i confronted him in a very calm way ( as if dili sakit), he told me nga sa iya to friend ug gibilin lang sa iya ang sobra. i got hysterical na coz i know he is not telling me the truth. until we reached home cge siya ug deny nga dili to sa iyaha.

My question is (most especially to all guys here)... do you think he is lying or possible sad nga gibilin ra to sa iya?

Pls help!!! I need someones opinion...

wow, sis swerte ghapon ka kay usa ra ang na use, meaning ang duha para sa imo, LOL....
if dili gani ghapon sya mo angkun, sayun ra kaayo na, pangayu a ang duha nga na bilin din ing na sya nga imo na gamiton...(if dili jud sya mo tug an).. ana lang, kay kapoi na au ang panahon karon, u can't trust to anybody na jud, bsan sa imo family mismo dapat dili ka mag kumpyansa.... ambot nganu pud na ing ani naman ta karon.... basta, eventhough
dapat mag think positive ka, pero dapat ayaw pag tinanga sa imo self kay louy au ka ana in the end of the day!! basin if mag away mo mo kalit lang na ug tell imo BF nga he needs space, kay mao diay kay naa na lain, hehehehehe.. amping sis!!

[SIKWATE]

All concern people... Thanks a lot!!! Finally!!! Ni angkon na gyud!!!! I pretended that i talked to his friend and told me that the condom is not his and he don't know anything about it. So wala na to siya choice but to tell me the truth and he did!!! From 10pm until 6am ako siya gi kulata!!!! Im not that kind of person but i cannot help it. Soooobra sakit as in! Sakit coz i trusted him toooooo much... Love him more than anything eles, more than myself... Hahay!!! Right now im thinking of the next move, if i will leave him or accept and forget everything.. But you all know that the 2nd option is not that easy.. People, pls pls pls, any advice for my next move Thanks for all the concerns, i really appreciate it. Thanks all istorians who shared their thoughts and feelings...

aw naa raman gani na, regarding sa imo second option, u know wat, all of us guys deserves second chance, pwes tagae lang siya if ever FTFT to nya na buhat, but if not, awss ikaw bahala......

[rockford_fosgate09]

for safety to niya hehehe

[girlychick09]

He did used another girl and that is sooo painful... I asked him if unsa pa ang kulang nako why he did that to me. Tanan ako na gihatag niya, wala na nabilin para nako. I asked him if gwapa ba ang girl or sexy mao na na tempt siya pero ni ingon man siya dili and he don't know that reason why he did that... God!!! That is what i cannot accept, walang reason! Karon lang ko nkahbaw nga naa diay lalaking nawawala sa sarili.. Hahay!!!
Karon every move nako mahadlok siya, if naa ko kachat or istorya sa phone cge siya ask kinsa ka istorya nako. If naay magtext nako, mag dagan2x 2 siya to get my phone. As what the saying goes, takot sa sariling multo... Tonight im going out with my friends to unwind, it is a scheduled night out with them. Since this morning cge na siya hangyo nako not to go out sa and just stay at home so we can talk and sort things out. I know he's afraid that i might do something to retaliate him. Atleast karon aware na siya sa iyang nabuhat....

[bluedes]

I'd like to share something I've learned about repentance and forgiveness. It may be common sense, pero I'll just post it..

Repentance means turning back or giving up completely something that was of very powerful attraction. If your husband can truly say na dili na jud siya ma-tempted mu-one night stand balik, then i suppose he deserves a second chance. Pero this is not overnight, its a work in progress, kamo duha mu-work on this.. if you are willing to work with him on it also.

When forgiving someone, do not console him or comfort him with your forgiveness. Any pleasure gained from repentance is in most cases tabla ra na pwede siya magpatempt balik, coz magsalig man siya na ma-forgive ra siya.

And whoever prides himself na repented na jud siya, you cannot expect a permanent improvement, so bantayi ni na behavior or attitude.. because true repentance is totally giving up that which was the cause of the offense--meaning, no pride comes out of it.. nothing ra jud, deadma..

Ang repentance sa tao na ignorante sa iyang offense is when they feel strong reactions when giving up something, or seek forgiveness for something without fully understanding the effects sa iyang nabuhat.

again, its really up to your husband kung dili na jud.. u cannot expect anything.. kay dili man jud nimo ma-control ang tao maski unsaon.. like you said, na-usab na jud imo pagtan-aw.. pagbantay lng na dili ni siya makadeteriorate sa inyo relationship in the future..