Getting married at an early age

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Me, I got married at 18. Why? Because I got pregnant 3 months after I turned 18. Was I ready? No but I'm happy now. I'm glad it was my husband who got me pregnant and not some other guy who might have ran away after finding out his girlfriend is pregnant. Now I'm 23 and I have 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls.

But not all early marriages have happy endings. I know a lot of people who got pregnant early. Some got married some didn't but most of them broke up.

Getting marriage at a young age is not easy. You give up a lot of things. Getting married early is not something I would want for my children. hehehe

your lucky that you ended up w/ the right guy. You're right on 2 counts,1. a lot of early marriages didn't work,mainly because they didn't have the emotional capacity for it, and 2. Getting married at an early age is never easy, espcially sa panahon karun, crisis kaayo....

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getting married at an early age has its positive and negative sides.

Positive: you get to start a family at an early age,and you get to enjoy your kids while growing up, sharing the same hobby, shopping together, talk about anything and everything under the sun since mom and dad can relate to what I'm talking about (not all though), and daddy can be my drinking partner (heheh), I can still run after my kids without complaining how my knees hurt because i already have arthritis and so on and so forth.

Negative: obviously, it's hard to raise a family especially if both parents are not yet stable, still in school, husband/bf cannot support wife/gf, act like kids (immature), husband still hang out with friends most of the time or vice versa, hmmmm etc etc....thus leading to fights/war of the worlds, majority? let husband's/bf's/wife's/gf's parents take care of the finances including child support etc etc.

But in the long run, not all early marriages work out. Some separate a few months after getting married, even if the wife is already pregnant, or sometimes it will take years but eventually break up after a few of the so called second chance (3rd 4th 5th and for the nth time) while others stay together until they grow old or either of the 2 dies ahead.

Above all this, it boils down to the 2 of you. Ready or not ready for the big responsibility ahead, pregnant or not pregnant, it really depends on how you work things out. If it's not working, then why stay. If you think there is still a chance to save the marriage, then give it another try.

My husband and I got married at an early age too. I was 19, he was 21.

Are you guys ready for a long story!?

Anyway, He was my bf in HS (4th year). We had common friends. He's from another school, he was in College then. As all men are, no excuses, he was "bolero". As if!!!! Cute (hubby if you get the chance to read this, I should get a reward hehehe) HUMOT KAAYO (my goodness!!!!!) Very neat
( karun diay? of course!) and intelligent (can take any course he likes- 99% on the entrance exam-very good university). So, nanguyab sya nako and akong gi sugot. Visit sya sa house, meet mom and dad....all of a sudden, gi biyaan ko!? toink! bad dog! tsk tsk (btw, this did not happen here in Cebu, sa pikas bukid ni sya, but my husband's Cebuano). No goodbye's, no nothing! So I asked his friends, our friends what happened and they could not give me a straight answer. The only thing they said was to wait (yeah right). Days, weeks, months and years passed, still nothing! Ok fine! Let me just get on with my life. Before that years passed thing, a few months after he left (me!), I came to Cebu with my family, still hoping I could find him (sa ka daghan the same family name sa directory) I called each and every number (only to find out karun na minyo nami that the phone was not registered under his dad's name but to his mom, who used her maiden name, hahay pagka way swerte!) So tanan na akong gi tawgan, puro wrong number! I came home empty handed except sa akong gi shopping hehehe! bahala na! Since it was a hopeless case, I moved on. Had a few relationships after that but every time I visit Cebu, I still hoped that out of the blue, I'd see him again. Pero wa naman, so be it!

Not until 3 years after....remember how MIRC was so popular back then? MIRC addict man gud ko (sa una!)

The night before, I was talking to a friend on the phone and we were reminiscing about what happened a few years before and that included my husband. It was weird but we talked about him.

I woke up early, classes start at 7 a.m. hay college life! Something or someone was pushing me not to attend class but instead, chat! Sayo kaayo ko nag MIRC that day (for the first time nga sayo ko) kay usually after school naman ko mag log in, like 7 or 8pm. Wa lang join join lang ko channels including the channel of my beloved hometown. Chat lang sa public chat room with friends nga taga amo but are not in the Phils but naa sad uban nga na ra pinas. So much for that! Mao nato...naa koy na notice nga nickname bag-o ni join....so blah blah has joined #name of channel. It so happened nga iyang nick gyud iyang gi use, soo nisulod nasad sya sa akong mind kay nakakita ko ug preha name niya (not knowing sya diay gyud to) and I was also using my real name. Ug naay ni private message nako....(sya!) he asked If by any chance naa koy kaila ba daw with the same name/nick that I was using. He told me nga I know someone man gud nga pareha nimo ug name maybe kaila ka. Ako sya gi ask kung unsa ang family name and akong family name ang iyang gi butang. (over murag MMK!) My first reaction and akongna ingun niya was, NO SH!T!? sure ka? ako man na! and nag kurog akong kamot sa kalagot kay after all these years, buhi pa diay ning tawo nga namiya nako. Sige sya insist unsa daw number kay mu call sya (wa pa to ma uso ang cellphone kaayo, naa pay antenna ang cellphone ug ang uban kadtong dagko pa! hehehe) wa jud sya nako hatagi! and as I stated earlier, genius man gud ni sya, iyang putlon ang connection (ug internet cafe pa ang uso adto! bawal ang internet sa amo-a kay mu busy ang phone, according sa akong mommy, unsaon nalang daw iyang negosyo!?) I don't know if gi unsa niya basta putol ang connection gyud. Hacker by birth siguro ni sya!? hehehehe Ako nalang gi hatag ang number sa house and mao nato nag talk nami ug ako na syang gi away. Ang 3 years nga akong kalagot, ako gyud gi yawyaw!

A few weeks after, nibalik sya sa among bukid and nagdala na ug engagement ring. (flash!) Wa rasad nako ingna akong mom adto nga nibalik na si Cassanova kay samok daghan yawyaw (but kahibaw akong dad and vote man kaayo si Father kay buotan man daw!? po and opo! pero wa sya kahibaw nagbalik nami) Almost 1 week jud to sya nag stay didto. Until panahon na sa pagbalik sa iyang Islang natawhan, Cebu! hehehehe Kini lagi can't have enough of each other, gi dala ko, aw kuyog sad ko! hahahaa! gi bitbit, gi taban, in english- eloped! I traveled under a different name, mau gani kay pwede ra mugna mugna ug name, passport not needed!hhahahaha! Sya kay iya jud name iyang gi gamit, ug ni apas ang akong beloved grandma sa pier and gipa page ming duha sa fastcraft, since human naman ug boarding, ready na para mularga, pa bungol bungol raming duha, as if wa mi gipangita! While naa mi sa dagat, ang among kapamilya nag coordinate na with one another (murag teleserye). Pag abot namo sa ilang house, wa na, smile na ang people, ug gi meeting naming duha. Both of us decided nga civil lang sah mi pakasal or di lang sah mi pasakal ay pakasal diay! hehehee Since the only person nga nakahibaw about what happened was akong lola, she told my mom and dad nga mao tu nahitabo and that I am getting married. My mom's reaction was, Hah?! married? to whom? wa man na syay bf! (because was koy uyab for a long time) Pero si daddy, naa nay idea at the back of his mind ug kinsa. So pamanhikan na daw!!!! pero my hubby and I were living together already dire sa Cebu (for formality nalang gud!). Since bata pa lagi ko, akong parents di jud ganahan ipakasal ko, even if my dad was PRO-Hubby, ug pwede later nalang daw. More than pila jud to ka times na move ang meet up and dili baya sayon kay mu travel pa. First attempt, wa ni show up akong mom and dad. So uli nasad cebu. Second, move to another venue, dili na sa house namo para neutral daw, wa lang gihapon ni show up. Balik nasad Cebu....after a dew attempts, finally nadayun na. But akong mom, sige gihapon ug ingun nga dili. Sige pud sya insist nga bahala na ug buntis ko, basta di lang daw sah ko magpakasal. I know it was for my own good. Sige sad ko ingun niya nga di lagi ko buntis. Pero kini laging gugma ug biga nga nag huros huros....hahay! Again, ni igun jud mi duha sa akong hubby nga civil lang ang wedding, pero iyang dad ni insist gyud nga church. Ganahan unta mi civil kay ganahan mi nga kami mu gasto inig abot sa time para sa church wedding! Ni hilak gyud akong daddy. (May his soul rest in peace!) Pero he was happy kay according to him, he gained another son. They have the same hobbies..akong husband murag mini me sa akong dad. Then we got married....

Then our married life started.......gave birth 2 years after, gave birth nasad a year after and gave birth nasad 2 years after the last one.we have been through a lot. Kanang through the years nga song, mao na sya. We have been through everything there is......tanan nga ups and downs in life. But I was there when he was at his worst and vice versa and kanang gi ingun nila nga mugawas na ang tinuod color, correct na sya. Everyday mag away mi. No need to ellaborate any further, basta worst worst worst. Ganahan nako mag hikog gud kay gi kapuy nako, plus naa pa friends niya nga mga demonyo, samot. So nilayas nako....bitbit among mga anak! faet! murag refugee....and ato nga time wa nakoy dad, he passed away na, so wa nakoy hero. knowing my mother, di ba di gyud sya ganahan ug pakasal (mao diay, mother knows best gyud!) wa gyud ko niya dawata bahala if naa nay apo (a few days lang siguro sa house but for good? no way gyud). Balik lang gyud gihapon ko sa akong hubby. That time, akong feeling ang katong kilig nga love story, murag nahimong horror movie. Instead of Daniel Steel, nahimong Stephen King. Then mulayas nagyud unta ko for good. Ni hangyo iyang mom, nga please ayaw lang biya kay basin daw unsa buhaton sa kong buotan nga husband.

Until niabot sa point nga he had to go away for awhile (while I was pregnant sa among 3rd baby) para ma realize sad niya nga he has kids na and its time to be responsible already. During that time nga we were apart, I was literally a single parent, i thought di nako makaya. I was a student and at the same time a mom sa akong 3 baby girls. Good thing naay yaya pero I had to be present kay wa na gani ilang papa, dayun wa sad ko, unsaon nalang. Thank you to my mom in law who was all the way supportive gyud, no questions asked. My husband was struggling to find himself that time, murag lost in space bah. Kini lagi pa dalos dalos ta decide, I didn't know ingun ana ka dysfunctional ang iyang family and sad to say he was affected gyud dulot sa bukog! no matter unsaon niya pag convince iyang self, he was lost, ga crisis iyang utok. But leaving him that time never crossed my mind gyud. He was here in Cebu, while ako and the kids tua sa among bukid pero I had to travel to Cebu once a week to visit him, let's say it was like a vacation but according to my husband, hell hole daw! So from school, out ko 7pm, prepare sa dad-onon, then 2am, gawas nako sa house para mu wait sa ride. Whole day mi mag kuyog, then 5pm, travel nasad ko pabalik, abot sa amo mga 11 pm. then school nasad ko the next dat at 7am. so wa jud tulog, pero never ko ni reklamo, because I am a wife and i am his wife no matter what. I clinged on to God, my church, my faith and made my kids my strength that no matter what I am going through, It's all for them.

I gave birth to our 3rd child nga wala akong husband and how I wished nga he was there (we all wish for the same thing). That time stay out pa ang yaya sa 2 kids, ang I was living separately from my mom. It was me and the 2 kids ra at home. Midnight sakit na akong tiyan and never thought labor pains nato kay I was not expecting until first week sunod month. mid paman to sa previous month. i was already bleeding, mao tu ingun ko this is it, manganak nako. nangayo pagyud milk akong 2 ka anak, so naog ko to get milk and then called my mom. si mother na alimukawan! ingun ko my, manganak nako, gi tubag rako ug ok....ingun nasad ko hoiiiiiiiiiii mommy manganak nako....didto pa sya ni panic ug hahhhhhhh...time sah......ug gi pukaw akong brother nga hubog.....hahahahaha pagka lingaw....akong bro niadto sa akong lola, ug akong lola ug ako niadto sa hospital...akong mommy and bro nabilin sa kids. (buotan ra bya si mother, abuton lang gyud usahay) Nakaya raman gyud nako. Thank God!

Me, myself and I and the kids for almost a year. Then niabot si hubby, ug after a few months of being awake, alert, alive and enthusiastic ni hubby, nag crisis nasad. Ako nalang sya gi pasagdahan kay hopeles naman. Mao natung away everyday, war of the worlds, world war 3....mag self pity nako. Pero at the back of my mind, if akong biyaan basin maunsa nya

Hangtud napuno nagyud ko, ug ni biya ko. Ug nag buwag mi.

And daghan na niapil nga mga demons! ang mga friends nga instead mu help, solsol hinuon and ang mga girlaloo naka kita ug chance nga mu ginhawa ang buhay ug si my dear husband ang mahimong Godfather/padrino. May I claim dayun nga pregnant ang sya para sustento galore. ambisosyang sosyalera! nawong nga pareha sa bagtak sa lamok!ug nagpa feeling close sa akong mga anak. Picture kunuhay sila nga murag one big happy family I was not living with them naman gud. Katong girlaloo (well i know and we all know pahungawan rato sya) wa sya kahibaw nga sige mi meet sa akong husband ( kay ang girl nang hakot naman gud sinina sa house and iyang mga sisteret hinay hinay nasad adto matulog sa house together with friends) murag ako hinuon ang kabit, hahaha.....and she was acting like the wife and take note sya pay isog. Pero at the same time, we were also working on having our marriage annulled. Weird! So after work, mu visit ko sa akong kids, wa diha ang girl kay buntag maninda man sya ug sinina, tindera sya. Ofcourse, ako ang legal wife! Luoy sad bya ang girl (hahahaha) kay she was hoping gyud nga ma annulled among marriage and she gets to sit in my throne! Everytime nga ingnun sya sa akong hubby nga papaulion na sa ilaha, daghan nang ek ek. Basta biyyan daw sya sa akong husband mag japan sya or mu larga sya Singapore or mularga Malaysia and she claimed that she was pregnant. lefong ka!? although pwede mahitabo kay she was doing everything na bya to be the next mrs. But sorry dearie, your looks, your height, your brain and most of all the entire YOU dili kapasar! You are only something in between my Mister and the matress. so sorry ka nalang! Mind you, ready na unta ang cases to be filed against him and his ever wife wannabe. But every time nga padung nako file, naa gyud mahitabo, one time padung ko sa Police then sa court, sa tanan places sa world, nag sunod sya nako.

I was not (and never) hoping nga makigbalik sa akong hubby kay puno na lagi ko and It was fun nga nag tago tago ming duha murag forbidden lovers (in the eyes of the people, the church and everyone else of course it was legal, illegal only to the mistress's eyes ) and nalingaw ko nga mag rigor ang utok sa girl nga mura syag irong buang mag sige sunod sunod and tawag.

To make the long story short, nagbalik mi. The eye sore kept coming to the house hoping to get a second chance, good thing naa ko sa gate, nakatilaw jud sya ug shagit. Di nagyud sya angay magpakita sa iyang anino, kay panitan sya nako ug buhi unya sawsaw sa suka.

We are ok now, happy and stronger. And 4 na among babies, all girls.

Although naa gihapon away, but no marriage is perfect bya di ba?

An excerpt from my blog:

If I list down all the failures, the hurt, the tears, the sacrifices, the pain and everything else that I have experienced and given for this marriage and for the man I married, then I might need lots of paper but If I list down all the opposites, I might end up writing my entire life. As I was saying, there is no perfect man and no perfect marriage. He may be stupid at times, unreasonable and I-WANT-EVERYTHING-DONE-MY-WAY but that is the way he is. We do not marry a man and make it our goal to change him. It’s what we call MISSION IMPOSSIBLE! In fairness to my IMPERFECT CHOCO LAVA LOVER, he’s way different than he used to be, he still has the flaws but nothing to worry about. So, I took it one day at a time. Let the future worry for itself.

It’s like it was only yesterday but it was 9 years ago when we got married and fortunately were still here, coping with all the imperfections in life and trying our very best to make it through.
With 3 beautiful baby girls, another on it’s way, an imperfect-loving-trying-to-be-the-best-husband-and-father, I could not ask for anything more. This is my life and this will always be.

Now, I already have the answer to everyone’s question, " WHY DID I GET MARRIED?"




FORGIVE ME IF DAGHAN SAYUP NGA GRAMMAR OR DI MASABTAN, IT'S ALREADY 3:24 AM

i hope you got something from my tragic-imperfect-happy life!

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taasa pud oi kapoy basa..hehehe

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me i got pregnant but not married

hope you dn't mind if i ask, ngano laman ka nagminyo? di nimo feel and guy sis?.

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kinahanglan manubag jud baya ang guy anah, dba?.

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getting married at an early age has its positive and negative sides.

Positive: you get to start a family at an early age,and you get to enjoy your kids while growing up, sharing the same hobby, shopping together, talk about anything and everything under the sun since mom and dad can relate to what I'm talking about (not all though), and daddy can be my drinking partner (heheh), I can still run after my kids without complaining how my knees hurt because i already have arthritis and so on and so forth.

Negative: obviously, it's hard to raise a family especially if both parents are not yet stable, still in school, husband/bf cannot support wife/gf, act like kids (immature), husband still hang out with friends most of the time or vice versa, hmmmm etc etc....thus leading to fights/war of the worlds, majority? let husband's/bf's/wife's/gf's parents take care of the finances including child support etc etc.

But in the long run, not all early marriages work out. Some separate a few months after getting married, even if the wife is already pregnant, or sometimes it will take years but eventually break up after a few of the so called second chance (3rd 4th 5th and for the nth time) while others stay together until they grow old or either of the 2 dies ahead.

Above all this, it boils down to the 2 of you. Ready or not ready for the big responsibility ahead, pregnant or not pregnant, it really depends on how you work things out. If it's not working, then why stay. If you think there is still a chance to save the marriage, then give it another try.

My husband and I got married at an early age too. I was 19, he was 21.

Are you guys ready for a long story!?

Anyway, He was my bf in HS (4th year). We had common friends. He's from another school, he was in College then. As all men are, no excuses, he was "bolero". As if!!!! Cute (hubby if you get the chance to read this, I should get a reward hehehe) HUMOT KAAYO (my goodness!!!!!) Very neat
( karun diay? of course!) and intelligent (can take any course he likes- 99% on the entrance exam-very good university). So, nanguyab sya nako and akong gi sugot. Visit sya sa house, meet mom and dad....all of a sudden, gi biyaan ko!? toink! bad dog! tsk tsk (btw, this did not happen here in Cebu, sa pikas bukid ni sya, but my husband's Cebuano). No goodbye's, no nothing! So I asked his friends, our friends what happened and they could not give me a straight answer. The only thing they said was to wait (yeah right). Days, weeks, months and years passed, still nothing! Ok fine! Let me just get on with my life. Before that years passed thing, a few months after he left (me!), I came to Cebu with my family, still hoping I could find him (sa ka daghan the same family name sa directory) I called each and every number (only to find out karun na minyo nami that the phone was not registered under his dad's name but to his mom, who used her maiden name, hahay pagka way swerte!) So tanan na akong gi tawgan, puro wrong number! I came home empty handed except sa akong gi shopping hehehe! bahala na! Since it was a hopeless case, I moved on. Had a few relationships after that but every time I visit Cebu, I still hoped that out of the blue, I'd see him again. Pero wa naman, so be it!

Not until 3 years after....remember how MIRC was so popular back then? MIRC addict man gud ko (sa una!)

The night before, I was talking to a friend on the phone and we were reminiscing about what happened a few years before and that included my husband. It was weird but we talked about him.

I woke up early, classes start at 7 a.m. hay college life! Something or someone was pushing me not to attend class but instead, chat! Sayo kaayo ko nag MIRC that day (for the first time nga sayo ko) kay usually after school naman ko mag log in, like 7 or 8pm. Wa lang join join lang ko channels including the channel of my beloved hometown. Chat lang sa public chat room with friends nga taga amo but are not in the Phils but naa sad uban nga na ra pinas. So much for that! Mao nato...naa koy na notice nga nickname bag-o ni join....so blah blah has joined #name of channel. It so happened nga iyang nick gyud iyang gi use, soo nisulod nasad sya sa akong mind kay nakakita ko ug preha name niya (not knowing sya diay gyud to) and I was also using my real name. Ug naay ni private message nako....(sya!) he asked If by any chance naa koy kaila ba daw with the same name/nick that I was using. He told me nga I know someone man gud nga pareha nimo ug name maybe kaila ka. Ako sya gi ask kung unsa ang family name and akong family name ang iyang gi butang. (over murag MMK!) My first reaction and akongna ingun niya was, NO SH!T!? sure ka? ako man na! and nag kurog akong kamot sa kalagot kay after all these years, buhi pa diay ning tawo nga namiya nako. Sige sya insist unsa daw number kay mu call sya (wa pa to ma uso ang cellphone kaayo, naa pay antenna ang cellphone ug ang uban kadtong dagko pa! hehehe) wa jud sya nako hatagi! and as I stated earlier, genius man gud ni sya, iyang putlon ang connection (ug internet cafe pa ang uso adto! bawal ang internet sa amo-a kay mu busy ang phone, according sa akong mommy, unsaon nalang daw iyang negosyo!?) I don't know if gi unsa niya basta putol ang connection gyud. Hacker by birth siguro ni sya!? hehehehe Ako nalang gi hatag ang number sa house and mao nato nag talk nami ug ako na syang gi away. Ang 3 years nga akong kalagot, ako gyud gi yawyaw!

A few weeks after, nibalik sya sa among bukid and nagdala na ug engagement ring. (flash!) Wa rasad nako ingna akong mom adto nga nibalik na si Cassanova kay samok daghan yawyaw (but kahibaw akong dad and vote man kaayo si Father kay buotan man daw!? po and opo! pero wa sya kahibaw nagbalik nami) Almost 1 week jud to sya nag stay didto. Until panahon na sa pagbalik sa iyang Islang natawhan, Cebu! hehehehe Kini lagi can't have enough of each other, gi dala ko, aw kuyog sad ko! hahahaa! gi bitbit, gi taban, in english- eloped! I traveled under a different name, mau gani kay pwede ra mugna mugna ug name, passport not needed!hhahahaha! Sya kay iya jud name iyang gi gamit, ug ni apas ang akong beloved grandma sa pier and gipa page ming duha sa fastcraft, since human naman ug boarding, ready na para mularga, pa bungol bungol raming duha, as if wa mi gipangita! While naa mi sa dagat, ang among kapamilya nag coordinate na with one another (murag teleserye). Pag abot namo sa ilang house, wa na, smile na ang people, ug gi meeting naming duha. Both of us decided nga civil lang sah mi pakasal or di lang sah mi pasakal ay pakasal diay! hehehee Since the only person nga nakahibaw about what happened was akong lola, she told my mom and dad nga mao tu nahitabo and that I am getting married. My mom's reaction was, Hah?! married? to whom? wa man na syay bf! (because was koy uyab for a long time) Pero si daddy, naa nay idea at the back of his mind ug kinsa. So pamanhikan na daw!!!! pero my hubby and I were living together already dire sa Cebu (for formality nalang gud!). Since bata pa lagi ko, akong parents di jud ganahan ipakasal ko, even if my dad was PRO-Hubby, ug pwede later nalang daw. More than pila jud to ka times na move ang meet up and dili baya sayon kay mu travel pa. First attempt, wa ni show up akong mom and dad. So uli nasad cebu. Second, move to another venue, dili na sa house namo para neutral daw, wa lang gihapon ni show up. Balik nasad Cebu....after a dew attempts, finally nadayun na. But akong mom, sige gihapon ug ingun nga dili. Sige pud sya insist nga bahala na ug buntis ko, basta di lang daw sah ko magpakasal. I know it was for my own good. Sige sad ko ingun niya nga di lagi ko buntis. Pero kini laging gugma ug biga nga nag huros huros....hahay! Again, ni igun jud mi duha sa akong hubby nga civil lang ang wedding, pero iyang dad ni insist gyud nga church. Ganahan unta mi civil kay ganahan mi nga kami mu gasto inig abot sa time para sa church wedding! Ni hilak gyud akong daddy. (May his soul rest in peace!) Pero he was happy kay according to him, he gained another son. They have the same hobbies..akong husband murag mini me sa akong dad. Then we got married....

Then our married life started.......gave birth 2 years after, gave birth nasad a year after and gave birth nasad 2 years after the last one.we have been through a lot. Kanang through the years nga song, mao na sya. We have been through everything there is......tanan nga ups and downs in life. But I was there when he was at his worst and vice versa and kanang gi ingun nila nga mugawas na ang tinuod color, correct na sya. Everyday mag away mi. No need to ellaborate any further, basta worst worst worst. Ganahan nako mag hikog gud kay gi kapuy nako, plus naa pa friends niya nga mga demonyo, samot. So nilayas nako....bitbit among mga anak! faet! murag refugee....and ato nga time wa nakoy dad, he passed away na, so wa nakoy hero. knowing my mother, di ba di gyud sya ganahan ug pakasal (mao diay, mother knows best gyud!) wa gyud ko niya dawata bahala if naa nay apo (a few days lang siguro sa house but for good? no way gyud). Balik lang gyud gihapon ko sa akong hubby. That time, akong feeling ang katong kilig nga love story, murag nahimong horror movie. Instead of Daniel Steel, nahimong Stephen King. Then mulayas nagyud unta ko for good. Ni hangyo iyang mom, nga please ayaw lang biya kay basin daw unsa buhaton sa kong buotan nga husband.

Until niabot sa point nga he had to go away for awhile (while I was pregnant sa among 3rd baby) para ma realize sad niya nga he has kids na and its time to be responsible already. During that time nga we were apart, I was literally a single parent, i thought di nako makaya. I was a student and at the same time a mom sa akong 3 baby girls. Good thing naay yaya pero I had to be present kay wa na gani ilang papa, dayun wa sad ko, unsaon nalang. Thank you to my mom in law who was all the way supportive gyud, no questions asked. My husband was struggling to find himself that time, murag lost in space bah. Kini lagi pa dalos dalos ta decide, I didn't know ingun ana ka dysfunctional ang iyang family and sad to say he was affected gyud dulot sa bukog! no matter unsaon niya pag convince iyang self, he was lost, ga crisis iyang utok. But leaving him that time never crossed my mind gyud. He was here in Cebu, while ako and the kids tua sa among bukid pero I had to travel to Cebu once a week to visit him, let's say it was like a vacation but according to my husband, hell hole daw! So from school, out ko 7pm, prepare sa dad-onon, then 2am, gawas nako sa house para mu wait sa ride. Whole day mi mag kuyog, then 5pm, travel nasad ko pabalik, abot sa amo mga 11 pm. then school nasad ko the next dat at 7am. so wa jud tulog, pero never ko ni reklamo, because I am a wife and i am his wife no matter what. I clinged on to God, my church, my faith and made my kids my strength that no matter what I am going through, It's all for them.

I gave birth to our 3rd child nga wala akong husband and how I wished nga he was there (we all wish for the same thing). That time stay out pa ang yaya sa 2 kids, ang I was living separately from my mom. It was me and the 2 kids ra at home. Midnight sakit na akong tiyan and never thought labor pains nato kay I was not expecting until first week sunod month. mid paman to sa previous month. i was already bleeding, mao tu ingun ko this is it, manganak nako. nangayo pagyud milk akong 2 ka anak, so naog ko to get milk and then called my mom. si mother na alimukawan! ingun ko my, manganak nako, gi tubag rako ug ok....ingun nasad ko hoiiiiiiiiiii mommy manganak nako....didto pa sya ni panic ug hahhhhhhh...time sah......ug gi pukaw akong brother nga hubog.....hahahahaha pagka lingaw....akong bro niadto sa akong lola, ug akong lola ug ako niadto sa hospital...akong mommy and bro nabilin sa kids. (buotan ra bya si mother, abuton lang gyud usahay) Nakaya raman gyud nako. Thank God!

Me, myself and I and the kids for almost a year. Then niabot si hubby, ug after a few months of being awake, alert, alive and enthusiastic ni hubby, nag crisis nasad. Ako nalang sya gi pasagdahan kay hopeles naman. Mao natung away everyday, war of the worlds, world war 3....mag self pity nako. Pero at the back of my mind, if akong biyaan basin maunsa nya

Hangtud napuno nagyud ko, ug ni biya ko. Ug nag buwag mi.

And daghan na niapil nga mga demons! ang mga friends nga instead mu help, solsol hinuon and ang mga girlaloo naka kita ug chance nga mu ginhawa ang buhay ug si my dear husband ang mahimong Godfather/padrino. May I claim dayun nga pregnant ang sya para sustento galore. ambisosyang sosyalera! nawong nga pareha sa bagtak sa lamok!ug nagpa feeling close sa akong mga anak. Picture kunuhay sila nga murag one big happy family I was not living with them naman gud. Katong girlaloo (well i know and we all know pahungawan rato sya) wa sya kahibaw nga sige mi meet sa akong husband ( kay ang girl nang hakot naman gud sinina sa house and iyang mga sisteret hinay hinay nasad adto matulog sa house together with friends) murag ako hinuon ang kabit, hahaha.....and she was acting like the wife and take note sya pay isog. Pero at the same time, we were also working on having our marriage annulled. Weird! So after work, mu visit ko sa akong kids, wa diha ang girl kay buntag maninda man sya ug sinina, tindera sya. Ofcourse, ako ang legal wife! Luoy sad bya ang girl (hahahaha) kay she was hoping gyud nga ma annulled among marriage and she gets to sit in my throne! Everytime nga ingnun sya sa akong hubby nga papaulion na sa ilaha, daghan nang ek ek. Basta biyyan daw sya sa akong husband mag japan sya or mu larga sya Singapore or mularga Malaysia and she claimed that she was pregnant. lefong ka!? although pwede mahitabo kay she was doing everything na bya to be the next mrs. But sorry dearie, your looks, your height, your brain and most of all the entire YOU dili kapasar! You are only something in between my Mister and the matress. so sorry ka nalang! Mind you, ready na unta ang cases to be filed against him and his ever wife wannabe. But every time nga padung nako file, naa gyud mahitabo, one time padung ko sa Police then sa court, sa tanan places sa world, nag sunod sya nako.

I was not (and never) hoping nga makigbalik sa akong hubby kay puno na lagi ko and It was fun nga nag tago tago ming duha murag forbidden lovers (in the eyes of the people, the church and everyone else of course it was legal, illegal only to the mistress's eyes ) and nalingaw ko nga mag rigor ang utok sa girl nga mura syag irong buang mag sige sunod sunod and tawag.

To make the long story short, nagbalik mi. The eye sore kept coming to the house hoping to get a second chance, good thing naa ko sa gate, nakatilaw jud sya ug shagit. Di nagyud sya angay magpakita sa iyang anino, kay panitan sya nako ug buhi unya sawsaw sa suka.

We are ok now, happy and stronger. And 4 na among babies, all girls.

Although naa gihapon away, but no marriage is perfect bya di ba?

An excerpt from my blog:

If I list down all the failures, the hurt, the tears, the sacrifices, the pain and everything else that I have experienced and given for this marriage and for the man I married, then I might need lots of paper but If I list down all the opposites, I might end up writing my entire life. As I was saying, there is no perfect man and no perfect marriage. He may be stupid at times, unreasonable and I-WANT-EVERYTHING-DONE-MY-WAY but that is the way he is. We do not marry a man and make it our goal to change him. It’s what we call MISSION IMPOSSIBLE! In fairness to my IMPERFECT CHOCO LAVA LOVER, he’s way different than he used to be, he still has the flaws but nothing to worry about. So, I took it one day at a time. Let the future worry for itself.

It’s like it was only yesterday but it was 9 years ago when we got married and fortunately were still here, coping with all the imperfections in life and trying our very best to make it through.
With 3 beautiful baby girls, another on it’s way, an imperfect-loving-trying-to-be-the-best-husband-and-father, I could not ask for anything more. This is my life and this will always be.

Now, I already have the answer to everyone’s question, " WHY DID I GET MARRIED?"




FORGIVE ME IF DAGHAN SAYUP NGA GRAMMAR OR DI MASABTAN, IT'S ALREADY 3:24 AM

i hope you got something from my tragic-imperfect-happy life!

wow! what a story! taasa sad ani oi! mabtan man pud ta ani'g nxt week ug binasa. hehehe. joke! ok ra na kng naay sayop sa grammar. we're filipinos.....

[clydex]

i thank God na wala pa mabuntis ang aq gf, naa pay mga plans si Lord naku.. Thanks God i love you..

[Soul Doctor]

@toxic.
Ana jud na basta mamugos ta sa atong gusto.
Ang universe naay gitagana nga partner para nato.

Problema-- kita may mamili.
Usahay ang atong mapili- lisod
usahay sayop ang atong mapili.
tungod kay dili kita kahibaw mo huwat.
One must be patient in choosing a partner.

Usahay sad dili nato pansinon
nga anaa ra diay sa atong atubangan
ang gihatag sa universe nga para ato.
dili nato tagdon kay taas ra kaayo atong standard.
naa tay kaugalingon nga specification.
Pero ang atong specifications dili haom sa para nato.

Mamili kag gwapo, syempre daghan sad mag-apas og gwapo.
Resulta-- daghan mo mag-ilog.
Mamili kag dato, syempre kwarta ray imong gi-apas niya.
So muabot ang babaye nga dili particular og kwarta,
adto siya kay didto siya makafeel og love.

[Soul Doctor]

i thank God na wala pa mabuntis ang aq gf, naa pay mga plans si Lord naku.. Thanks God i love you..

Kung naa may plano ang lord nimo.
Mao ang dili pag-uyabuyab kay dili pa nimo kaya ang consequence.

[2k2ga-ok]

well pait sad oi...kay makulangan ka sa imong pagkadalaga...most of women na sau magminyo kay maypagkaimmature..... mao rana...

aside from that, they're not contented sa ilang staus. magcge lang ghapon ug laag. resulta, mag cge ug away sa partner. i got a friend that i can relate to this..