Long Distance Relationships

[iron_v]

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sa bag o ra xa mg work sa akoa... huhuhu...

[computerangel8]

ok ra long distance relationship for me kay ako husband karon we were chatting for 6 months then we meet then after 3 more months we got married....

[gamatoy]

I've been in this situation now, it's hard..super duper hard...

unsaon paghandle ang giingon natong LDR

lisod jud malayo ka sa taong mahal nmo..

kinahanglan jud og TRUST dili lang LOVE kung ani nga klasing relationship..

share ur thoughts...

ehem......bai lemz mo advice lang ko sa imong thread kay naka experience ko ing ani na situasyon,satinud anay lang jud lisud kaau ang long distance relationship pero,naa ra jud na ninyo duha unsaon pag handle kay bisag uns amo kalayo basta ang importante naa moi communication and trust,honesty,loyalty and being faithful sa imong uyab,kay if naa ni tanan dili jud na madaot inyong relationship kay tungod nagsinabtanay mo.....so ing ana lang jud na bai lemz,,,,,

[hanz]

paetz jud kaau ning LDR
1 day u'l just wake up and found out nga wala na mo..
tsk tsk..

[crischee]

my bestfriend and her boyfriend are getting stronger now..planning to get married next year. they started out as chatmates, and now theyre engaged..cute kaau..

[resty"titing"]

all of it depends on time and destiny...if you were meant for that particular person, then in any way, still you will certainly be connected to each other in the right time whether you started as chatmates or textmates or friends or neighbors or ex's etc...

[OCEANNE]

Me and the love of my life have been physically away from each other for 20 months already. Now, we already saw it coming but since the bottom line is that, he is the man I love and the one I wanna spend the rest of my life with (and same thing with him), we have managed to keep our relationship and love stronger by just plainly reinforcing the relationship and prevent possible hang-ups that would lead to misunderstanding.

If given na that you both love each other, basically the following should be maintained:

Based on a first-hand experience:

1. Communication - in whatever way you can do it. It's understandable na expensive jud ang constant na pagcommunicate...but what can you do, you chose to be away from each other under some circumstances and this is the only way to get connected...to communicate. Don't worry, you won't feel the burden in your pocket once you'll hear your loved one on the other line. You can email each other, chat or any other available means of getting connected. Be thankful you belong to a generation where technology makes life easier...so make use of it. If there are times you are sure you won't be around, tell him/her in advance and assure that no matter what, nothing will ever change. Keep reminding each other the reason you are together - that is LOVE.

2. Don't hesitate to open up your feelings (anger, hurt, sadness, happiness...) to your partner when communicating. Sometimes, it's when you are apart that you get to know each other deeper 'coz you shun physical consciousness with each other and your emotions speak louder. Tell each other how much you love and miss one another so much (granted that you mean it).

3. Don't be in denial when there is a problem...don't let the day end without settling the problem (except maybe for extreme cases that needs time) with your partner. This really works...and its the most wonderful feeling after all the fights and arguement and still he/she seems to hug you tight, virtually kissing you and saying I LOVE YOU all over again...corny? Yes, but it happens and it works!

4. Be intimate together! Prove to each other that no one else turns each other on except each other! Talk about things that boost your partner's ego and sexuality.

5. For worst case scenarios, eg. breaking up scene or extreme fights, it's important that at least one of you holds on to the other more.... If one says, "it's over!" don't immedaitely reply with "fine, go! We're over!" If it's still within the bounds of your power, then at least don't say things you don't mean...it might lead to something you will regret for the rest of your life. Trust me, your partner will forever remember how much you have hold on to him/her esp during the worst of times...and he/she will even love you more for that....

[az_pooh]

@ Oceanne i totally agree with you coz im in the same situation and we managed to keep our relationship until now. i really like your point #2 coz i normally do that i will always open up how i feel like when i feel miserable and when i have doubts cant help it sometimes but its works!

[gamatoy]

@oceanne: i gree with your comments about this topic,the most important in the long distance relationship is to have a constant communication both parties....TRUST,LOVE,HONESTY,FAITHFUL,AND LOYALTY in both parties are also important...

[lemzuico]

salamat sa mga thoughts...naakoy bag-ong nakat-unan sa inyong gi-share...