How to deal with Teen-agers.

[morokporok]

Im a guardian of my nephew whos 14 years old...He has a girlfriend and they have a serious relationship and his school performance is really low..When I restrict him from going out or any gimick, he feels that i am treating him as my prisoner...your 2 cents will be appreciated...thanks

[cesski]

nahh.. mao jud ni ang prob sa youth karon. ako sauna kay magpadako ug maayo sa grade para sugtan ug laag2x..

i think you should only permit him sa laag2x kung magtinarong sa siya sa iya pagskwela.. storyaan lang cguro na imu nephew. tell him that you'll only let him out once his grades are up. firm lang ang pagstorya. makasabot ra cguro na dayon. my parents almost never scolded me. they talked to me like i was an adult.

communication is key..

[xtian_hero]

let him be.. if you can't cary, then beat the hell out of him to know the truth... hahah!! just kidding.. what ma point is that... let experience things that are out of our jurisdiction.. hahah.. anyway.. tell him whose the boss!!! hell YEAH!!!

[hunt99]

Im a guardian of my nephew whos 14 years old...He has a girlfriend and they have a serious relationship and his school performance is really low..When I restrict him from going out or any gimick, he feels that i am treating him as my prisoner...your 2 cents will be appreciated...thanks

it's ok to be strict ra man pero ayaw lang sad og palabi pero ky karong panahona gud kasagaran sa mga teen ager ambot kung unsay buhaton ana nila kailangan mas nindot makabalo kung wa by mga anomalis or unsa na binuhatan or wa by gi secreto but about relationship its ok ra man to be serious pero ang question lang 100% sure na ba na serious na and also taga-i og time unsay gimik pero you must know kung unsa sad or asa

[d_lightt]

build a relationship with him. bonding pd mo usahay para open cya nimo and mas patuO na kung suOd mo.

set incentives pd. maybe he could go out only if he's doing better. or the only time mka laag2x siya is if his grades don't go below whatever grade you set. i think it's a fair system. he gets to go out as long as he does the work pd diba?

[morokporok]

Thank you for replies, i wish my nephew has your winning attitude miss Cesski, at first i tried to bond with him and talk to him as an adult but it turned out, he only tells me what i wanted to hear and he does the oposite and told him that if he wants to be treated as an adult then he better act as one...i also learned that he goes out the house at dawn and goes to the gfs house.. I only ask for a grade of 80's no line of 7's lang, coz with the competitiveness of society today, he will have a hard time looking for work in the future.
X_tian yes maybe ill do that, beat out the hell of him when im really realy UP TO HERE! he he he
my worry also is when he will come to me and tells me his gf is preggy, NNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOO!

[sandsss]

Treat your nephew like a friend, but set boundaries also. Teens do not like to be told what to do. Since it's an exploratory period, ila tendency is to go against authority. Make your nephew feel nga you are truly concerned about him. Maybe he'll lower his defenses once he sees you care about his welfare. Try to make a deal/bargain: if he does good in his studies, then he'll be allowed more time to hang out with this friends girlfriend. I think ma-appreciate niya if you treat him like an adult.

Another suggestion: how about letting his friends come over sa inyo house? Malingaw pa siya, and di pa ka maguol kung asa siya nag laag2x. You'll get to know his friends pud.

[cesski]

medyo lisod sad imu problem kay laki man gud. so maglisod ka ug ground or set ug rules. nya samot na nga female pajud ka.

naa sad koy questions.. are you always around the house? does he ask permission from you kung mulaag siya? are you the sole provider for him?

kung parti sa mamabdos iya girlfriend, i think you should have the "s3x talk" with him asap. it's better to be educated man gud. but it would be better if it was coming from a guy. medyo awkward ang s3x talk between opposite s3x man gud.

my parents were very strict during elem days nako. pag hischool kay hatod kuha pag 1st and 2nd year. nya pag 3rd year kay medyo gitagaan nakog freedom. just constantly tell him na "dako naka, i hope you already know the difference between good and bad. this is not for me, para imuha rasad nang kaayo." mao nay permi pulong sa akong inahan.

[hunt99]

Thank you for replies, i wish my nephew has your winning attitude miss Cesski, at first i tried to bond with him and talk to him as an adult but it turned out, he only tells me what i wanted to hear and he does the oposite and told him that if he wants to be treated as an adult then he better act as one...i also learned that he goes out the house at dawn and goes to the gfs house.. I only ask for a grade of 80's no line of 7's lang, coz with the competitiveness of society today, he will have a hard time looking for work in the future.
X_tian yes maybe ill do that, beat out the hell of him when im really realy UP TO HERE! he he he
my worry also is when he will come to me and tells me his gf is preggy, NNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOO!

we all welcome sis but talking about his GF is preggy do the right thing what to tell him ky lisod nana

[morokporok]

Lisod jud bitaw mga teenage boys ihandle, but now happy to say mura ni sink in naman ang akong gipangsulti sa iyaha, gi adto pud nako ang gf sa akong nephew and had a heart to heart talk with her, told her about the consequences if ever she becomes pregnant (mas lisod sa girl kaysa mga boys specially shes very young also) alkanse jud sa iyaha...Now the gf tells me that my nephew is planning to join a certain gang in their school....hmmm lain napud ning chapter da...

we invite his friends here in the house, mauwaw man daw...so mas gusto niya adto siya sa iyang dabarkads magkita then suroy sa malls...pero murag ni mellow ma karon, pero ill wont keep my guard down...thanks all ya peeps.