We broke up but still exchange "I love you's" when we talk and text

[Tsubaki]

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yeah... its just making things more complicated.

[isaac95]

let him go inday........ daghan pa guys diha.....

[angelfyre]

make him miss u. but ayw pud palayo kaau na to d point na maanad nalang sya na wala ka sa iyang life. charot.

[jaide]

you're just digging your own grave..haha

[nirdle_phogi]

naa pa mi diri daghan.................

[joshbonz]

go with his idea... explore other guys or go out with other guys also.. don't dwell on his decision lang.. chances ra mahug ma M.U ra ni inyoha, only to find out later on that he has a new one na diay..

give time for yourself sad... you deserve a break, I know you love him that much, but it 'takes to tango' and its not worth it to force yourself to someone who doesnt want your love anymore...

hangout with friends, go with friendly dates.. its one thing to move on and explore other possibilities..like I've said, if the person doesn't or refuse your love.. he is not worth keeping anymore...

You have a life ahead of you.. spend and waste it all you want.. so that at the end.. you can recall back during your glory days and say.. I've done and experienced it, and I have no regrets with what i've gone thru...

[hunt99]

We broke up last jan.30, 2009... It was my guy's decision that we shud have cool off with two reasons , he just want time for ourselves daw and the reason that i was so possesive... Ako xa giingnan why shud we cool off , what if dritso nalang jud buwag coz for me ara raman pud padong, sakit kaayo sa ko part coz i really love him so much.. i was too possisive coz im afraid na mawala na xa sa ko but sayop ko kay nawala najud xa..

Possisive mean having or manifesting a desire to control or dominate another, especially in order to limit that person's relationships with others..

It all started ang prob namo last december he has an ex, 4 years sila ato, nagbuwag sila coz ang girl nakig play og lain team and mas gi prefer sa girl na mo kuyog sa lain na guy.. he met me after 1 month la break up and then he courted me for almost 1 month pud,so during sa amo relationship the girl kept on texting him pa, didto ko lagot na atong girla.. naay one time text2x mi ako bf, her ex texted him.. sa amo ag text2x naapil ang name sa girl sa iya txt nako, i freaked out cz y namention ang name sa iya ex.. then he explained na ya daw naapil ang name sa iya ex kay ni text daw nangumusta lang, he never meant it man daw, accidentally lang na sa ex niya ang name ya na text... but then, ako giaway ang girl coz y nag text2x pa niya... i textd d girl na "bitch" tungod lang pd to sako kalagot.. didto nlain ako guy kay why ingato daw ko ka freaked out!.. new year her ex called sa iya fam didto napud ko lagot kay unsa paman jud gusto sa girl y ingato pa ngita jud way na as if close jud ya fam.. nag post ko bulletin sa friendster paigo nako ya ex na sip2x kaayo, bitch , etc.. but i never mentiond a name, then after dat the girl change no.

after dat nana pud xa textmate.. didto napud ko lagot kay when i called him wala tubaga ako tawag kay nag tok xa sa iya textmyt d.i.. y ingato paman, unsa paman ya gusto.,is he not contented with me jud.?. he just said he want to make friends lang man daw..

we had a date last tues. and okey pa ayo mi ato.. nanghid xa na laag daw xa on saturday kay iya friends invite man niya.. ako xa ingnan if laag xa then expect na laag pud ko, di man ko pugong unsa ya gusto, di man pud xa sugot laag ko kay why daw molaag pajud ko.. its unfair dibah coz laag xa nya ako buro lang sa house xa lingaw2x...

Friday morning.. he texted me he wants us to talk daw... so i went at there bhaus 2pm... then that time he asked if am i still hay samo relationship.. and then i asked him "kaw?" he said "maybe we shud hav time for ourselves, and prob ud niya im too possesive nadaw ayo, nsakal na xa.. ya lang gusto na mag enjoy sa muna karon.. we jst let ourselves unwind muna .. maybe after dat we cud go back... sa iya man gud nauyab bfore na 4 yrs he never experienced to hang out, get drunk, and party diri didto so mao na ya nahan daw muna.. what you think do i let him have some time?? i mean what if sa iya hangyo maka meet xa og new girl?? unsaon nman lang ko na nag wait sa iya is he fair enuf? he said he love me so much but then iya lang daw, na lessen ang love coz im so possesive sa 100% maybe 70% nalang daw ang love, is my decision correct na stop nalang jud coz ara raman pud padong lisod ayo e move on but unsaon man nako... do i have to wait we still text each other and talk sa fon and we exchange "iloveyou's" is it okey lang bah?? sa iya man gud dili dw xa mag waste iya time sa ako na text2x pa and tawag if la na xa love.. this weds. sabot mi na kita .. okey lang bah?? pls tell me.... is my decision correct? do i have to let him go nalang kaha??

ako pa nimo sis wala pa ny klarong lakiha just let him go na lang gyud ky masakitan man gud ka tabla rag wala pagyud siyay gus2 gyud nimo ikaw ra moy naka gus2 niyag maayo ky ako gani sa una akong uyab ra sad moy ga binoang nako pero gi pasaylo na nako siya na owaw na gud to ky iyaha man gyung sala ambot ngano tong bayahan pero actually past is past man sad and most important sis is your present and don't think na di na ka kitag lain ayaw kaayo ka problema ana ky babae man sad ka mas ok gani laki mo do-ol og una but before you choose sad kanang laki na tinarong gyud na iyaha towards nimo mo love, care, comfort, og help nimo and he has good attitudes, moves, og style and also he respects you og malipayon siya nimo og malipayon sad ka niya and sa pagkakaron kung magka buwag mo pangita lang og lingaw aron di ka cgeg ka huna huna sa nahitabo ky sakit baya gyud

[cp103]

well, to answer the million dollar question that you have quezych, the answer is definitely a big "NO". but i hope you don't mind that i have a lot to say about your situation, I'm not trying to be a know-it-all, but i can't just help but notice some things that i think you should really think about.

you said that he had 2 reasons for him to decide that you should have a cool off dba? honestly though, i can only see one, that is, he wants time alone for himself, the possesive part was just a pretense for his reason to be alone by himself. I don't know if you will see it my way sis, but I bet a lot of people will agree that if you love a person, you can accept that person for who they are, and even if you can't, you would at least do something to work things out,let's say, to compromise, for you want to protect the relationship, and let it survive all the hardships it may go through. I'm not saying nga he should just have ignored your possessiveness, but rather, he should have done something to work things out between the two of you before it made matters worse, but i bet he didn't or you wouldn't be doing this thread, right sis? on your part pud sis, y are you being so possessive?! if your saying you love him and you don't want to loose him, then y is it that you could not trust him? if you did, you would be possesive right? personality issues perhaps sis?! only you can answer that question.

"...we had a date last tues. and okey pa ayo mi ato.. nanghid xa na laag daw xa on saturday kay iya friends invite man niya.. ako xa ingnan if laag xa then expect na laag pud ko, di man ko pugong unsa ya gusto, di man pud xa sugot laag ko kay why daw molaag pajud ko.. its unfair dibah coz laag xa nya ako buro lang sa house xa lingaw2x...". You know what sis, both of you need some growing up, don't be offended, I'm just telling you some honest-to-goodness opinion. I'm just saying that such actions are imature, unsa lugar, an eye for an eye?! you won't be satisfied until makabalos ka? you can deny it, and give out all the explanations you can, but it is obvious what you were doing.

But you know what sis, that wasn't what bothered me when reading your post, what bother me was this, and I don't know if it's just me, but...."maybe we shud hav time for ourselves, and prob ud niya im too possesive nadaw ayo, nsakal na xa.. ya lang gusto na mag enjoy sa muna karon.. we jst let ourselves unwind muna .. maybe after dat we cud go back... sa iya man gud nauyab bfore na 4 yrs he never experienced to hang out, get drunk, and party diri didto so mao na ya nahan daw muna.. " don't you find it funny nga he is complaining about your being possessive when he was in such a situation in his previous relationship w/c lasted for 4 years. Think about it, not being able to experience hanging out, getting drunk, and party here and there, if that isn't possessive, then i don't know what is. My point is, if he was able to survive that previous relationship for 4 years having a possessive ex-gf, then i don't think there is any reason for him not to endure his relationship with you w/c just started out, and please take note that the reason that previous 4 year relationship of his went up in smoke was becuase the girl was playing w/ some other guy.

I know it's easy to say move on and that there are a lot of better guys out there, but how i wish it was that simple to do, right sis?! my point here sis is that, take things slowly, i know that you wanna fix things immediately so as to end all the pain and suffering that your enduring right now, but take it from me sis, nothing gets solved by just deciding quickly on what to do, in fact, in a worse case scenario, making hasty decisions will prove to be fatal and make matters worse, w/c will just add more pain and suffering on your part. What you should do is consider everything that has been said by people around you, not just what you read in this thread, but from what people, who know both of you best. I hope you get over this situation soon and God bless.

[goodprophet28]

cgro mas ok if cool off sa jd mo...then ikaw need to refresh and imo sd bf..maybe if gnhan jd ka d nlng ska mkgcommunicate sa imong bf pra sd ba naay kmingaw...ikaw sd paglingaw2 wid ur frens...pasagdi sa mong bf..hav tym to meditate..pray and ask God for guidnce and enlightenmnt...im sure mga bata pa mo..and ikaw sd yaw lng sa ug adto sa bhauz sa mong bf kay for sure naa jd na mhtbo ninu duha..after doing it away na pd..lisod mn gd na f pdaun pamo mahimo nana ug dakong away thn wil never noh mgpinatynay namo duha or mgknulatahay namo duha...and ikaw sd yaw sd kau ug strict sa mong bf...if naa ka doubts, ask him calmly dont confront ur bf kay wa jd na au...talk if ders any prob tnan prob naa mn jd solution dba. then if mtxt ang iya ex mybe ask lng nya kung unsa pmn jd iya nfeel sa iya ex kay dba ingon ka taod2 napd cla. cgro mas maau jd if d saka mkgkta sa mong bf...d mn sd gd maau if ang mo bf ningon nga cool off sa mo thn cge cya love u nimo. d mn na dpat, kung lalaki jd mong bf ug maau jd cya dapat nu nana storyahan then dapat cya ang moadto sa nu dli ikaw. babae bya ka.mao ingana na cya kay naanad namn gd na nga ikaw lng cge adto nya mura ba ug patay na patay ka nya whch is true sd accdg to u, what i am tryng to say here is dat dnt give 100% sa mong bf hav respect pd sa imong self. i know d mn daotan mong gbuhat ky gugma mn jd na bt d mn gd na ingana dpat dba? well this is jz my own opinion, naa ra jd sa imo ang decision. ana mn jd nang bago ramo buwag lisod mn jd na una but sa mga nahitabo naa jd na moabot nga nindot ug mkrealized pd ka ana. same ra sd sko experience sko gf ingana mn mi duha sa una but krn 6 yrs nami and dghn au mi nrealized kay amo sa gtgaan tym amo self we gve time to gve ourself a rest and refresh every moments we had thn after ndecide mi mgbalik wid new rules and now nndot na amo kahimtang d preha sa una..ngkmature mn sd noon mi ron...ang mportnt lng jd noh is RESPECT...mao ra jd na.. godbless

[rockford_fosgate09]

binata pa man nang inyoha.

that's puppy love