If your partner always doubts you

[janclaudette]

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my husband is also an OFW pero dili sa saudi.. communicate lang gyud mo pirmi para di xa magduda nimo. i use voip to call him unlimited, tag 300 per month ra sa iya cellphone. sometimes akong husband if mulakaw ko mag-joke xa na basi naa ko kuyog lain kuno but i make sure na if mulakaw ko, he knows who i'm with and asa mi padung and what time ko mouli. seloso pud to akong husband but i make him feel na way dapat ika-selos kay nanumpa nagud mi sa Ginoo sa amo kasal.

understand your husband kay di lalim ang naa sa gawas..grabe iya sacrifice para sa inyo family.

[sweetsmile]

my husband is also an OFW pero dili sa saudi.. communicate lang gyud mo pirmi para di xa magduda nimo. i use voip to call him unlimited, tag 300 per month ra sa iya cellphone. sometimes akong husband if mulakaw ko mag-joke xa na basi naa ko kuyog lain kuno but i make sure na if mulakaw ko, he knows who i'm with and asa mi padung and what time ko mouli. seloso pud to akong husband but i make him feel na way dapat ika-selos kay nanumpa nagud mi sa Ginoo sa amo kasal.

understand your husband kay di lalim ang naa sa gawas..grabe iya sacrifice para sa inyo family.

Hi janclaudette,

thanks for the advise...

siguro nga..can u please send me an idea ragarding sa voip na 300/month na ginagamit mo?
wer ta ka avail ana na service? Unsa na device or unit gigamit

[ellehpo28]

Sorry, di ako marunong magsalita ng Bisaya but I fully undertsand your situation and the posts here.

In my assessment, seloso talaga by nature ang partner mo. At madalas ang mga taong seloso ay mga insecure din. Alam mo ba kung ano ang cause ng pagiging seloso niya? Is it insecurity or kulang sa tiwala sa iyo or what. Or maybe hindi pa masyadong solid ang foundation ng inyong relationship esp siguro ang trust aspect.

My hubby is also out of the country, but we have developed the trust in each other that I never thought that he will have another woman. We never have an issue about trust.

I think you need to keep reassuring him that you love him, that you are taking care of your child and your household.

If you use email as one form of communication other than phone, send him an email of what you do everyday. Make it detailed coz your partner is the type that really needs constant reassurance. If not, then why not surprise him with a letter once a week. You need not wait for the reply coz alam mo na busy siya sa trabaho.
Before, we used to write letters to each other. And I really write long (nobela na nga) I use onion skin para magaan at tipid sa stamp. I think doing this will at least give him an idea that you are really thinking about him and that you care. Tell him fun stories about your baby. Tell him how you feel about his jealousy. Kung baga sa halaman, ang sulat mo ang magiging tubig na didilig para lumago ang inyong relationship. Wag mo hayaan na mamatay ang love nu sa isa't isa. Kawawa naman ang baby. One should make a move.

[dane28]

over sad xa ka seloso woie.. actually, ok ra mn nang magselos pero ibutang lang unta sa sakto nga lugar.. maybe.. he doesn't have enugh trust in you.. actually, my husband is an OFW as well but then dili man ingon ana..

just keep ur communication open from time to time.. discuss the problem with ur husband.. ask him what really disturbs him the most..and what ways could be possibly done para mahunong na na iyang pagduda nimo..

all relationships need trust and without it.. i don't know if it'll work out that long..

and most of all.. always pray to God.. surrender ur problems to HIM.. coz He never fails to hear our prayers.. make Him the center of your relationship..though we may say na not all our prayers were granted.. but God has His own reason..

[michzy]

Its not easy that someone you love most is the one who will doubt you. I think you have to talk heart to heart so that you know what he thinks and he can also listen to you. I believe doubt will be gone if you assure to him that you don't do anything wrong for your relationship and vice versa. Open communication is the key for the two of you to open up and laid everything on the surface.Pray and god bless us all..

[sweetsmile]

Thanks michzy!

I think so. Minsan lang kami mgcomminicate...

[egent_kakashiZero]

Murag mhadluk mn pud ta ani mwork abroad...pero honstly dli mn jud na nmo mlikayan..ky layu gud mo..khibaw imo bana mo chat? hehehe..pag YM lng mo unya pag webCum hehehehe..Love jud ka sa imo bana..dli jud cya gnhan mwala ka...do ur part pud na ningkamut ka mag contact mo..pra mfeel pud nya na you miss him pud ba...mingaw rna cya sa "sakuban" hehehe..

[scope_hunting]

My partner always doubt on me even though wala ka buhat na daotan..God knows...
Actually my partner work outside the country somewhere in Saudi Arabia...Everytime he called me up and my ringing tone of my phone is not loud enough to hear so I always missed his calls and I forgot to changed the volume, he always doubt on me (always jumping conclusion xa na naa ko lain koyog na boy). One time I forgot to asked permission from him (like I go to city hall to process important documents) grabeeeh au iya soko nko. To think we have our daughter already...Every time he call us...first gyud ko nya pangitaon if where ko og unsa gbuhat...Not amo baby iya gipangita una...Sometime he forgot na mangumusta sa amo bb..

What can you comment(s) with this situation

opinion sa usa ka ofw pud sa saudi hehehe.. my dear beleive me natural ra na ang gibati sa imong partner.. intawn pwerting grabeha diring nasura, kung maka suway ka lang og work dire mao nang pasensyahe intawn, dili pud malikayan sa imong partner na mag duda tungod sa kadaghan nang nahitabo sa mga ofw na pag larga isa pa ang anak apan pag balik 2 na wala na pud ang asawa og kwarta. I tell you dili jud lalim dire sa saudi, halos tanan bawal. ang utok sa mga arabo balitok og paatras, dili kasabot, mao nang daghan mga expat ang nag work dire kay kung pulos arabo mag trabaho dire dili ni mo umento. di jud lalim mam, nga naa imong partner dire nya naa ka diha, mao nang if naa ka sa balay ayaw ibuwag imong telepono, and ayaw kalimot na 4-5hrs inyong advance diha sa time dire, and always hold your fone on fridays kay mao na among rest day dire adlaw na ting tawag, samot na karon na naay promo ang tawag.

be patient and be understanding.


ciao

[tallthel]

sign of insecurity ra na...always show him dat he s very special 2 u and make him feel dat u love him so mch...kana dli na cya mg doubt na permi ky feel secured nman cya...

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